imthefokker Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 Alrite there hows things everyone, its my first ever post on this site and may be my last. I was just really wanting to aim a question at the girls in the sense being how many girls out there would be willing to spend time with someone as disfigured as me. The great thing is no one can actually picture or see what i initially do look like, so here is an insight. Im 5ft7in tall 20 yr old short black hair toned figure at 10.3st with a pale skin complection and a massive scar on my nose about an inch in length and 1/2 cm in diameter, from when i got jumped on a night out. People say it ain't that bad but i think it is a complete mess, i still manage to get in to relationships, that don't tend to last that long though. And i got a really good attitude, and i know this because everyone states this point to me, so the fact that these relationships are not lasting is not due to the fact of a lame attitude. I was really just writing to say if any girls would judge someone differently due to the fact they had a scar that stretched across there nose, and the reason i am asking is because people judge me differently due to the fact of the disfigurment that i carry and its mainly girls whom tend to do so. And i am not asking if you would find me attractive because i ain't worried if no girl does, thats fine but its the dicrimanation against me thats infuriating. A great example would be that girls in my workplace tend to think that i am a hooligan and go out fighting every week and the brill faces they pull at me when you catch eye contact is great, its as if they seen there worst enemy and start to screw up there faces with looks of disgust. Any not to mind, would be a great appreciation if any girls could reply to this. P.S imthefokker Thank you if you have taken your time to read this. Link to post Share on other sites
swtbonita Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 So you want to know if people will discriminate towards you because of your scar.. As I see it, everyone judges everyone.. black or white, fat or thin, big nose or small nose, and even if they have a scar or no scar.. Have you ever thought that maybe they are judging you on something other then your scar, because i know alot of people find one thing that they hate about themselves and think that people treat them differently because of that. However, there could be a whole different reason that people are treating you that way. And seriously everyone gets those looks from people... no matter what they look like. No one here can tell you if they will discriminate or treat you differently because they aren't faced with that situation. Personally I find scars very intriguing. Scars have stories behind them and if people can't realize that all a scar is, it is like a imprint of a past experience. As for me, i have a small chickpox scar on my nose and i have never thought much about it.. And also my bf actually has a few scars, like one on the back of his head (where he cracked his head open and when he cuts his hair you can see it), he has a scar on the side of his check when he got in a car accident, and one on his chin when he fell one floor to the ground.. all of the scars are noticeable.. but I don't see the big deal because to me it shows that he's been through alot.. and when I first met him, i never noticed them and I never thought he was a hooligan.. I have taken discrimination courses at university.. one thing that it kept on saying was that "If you go out looking for discrimination, you will find it." So don't worry about what you look like because I think only your insecurity about your scar is drawing your attention to it.. Next time they take a second look, smile back because they are probably just checking you out... Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 I agree with swtbonita ... everyone has something that they find "lacking" about themselves and the more thought they put into it, the bigger the issue it is for them (and usually only them). I have a scar that runs down the length of my nose, about an inch and half ... thanks to my brother when I was a kid. I don't really even remember it being there unless someone asks about it, but for the most part ... it simply is just there and a part of me. really just writing to say if any girls would judge someone differently due to the fact they had a scar that stretched across there nose And being a girl, no I don't discriminate against anyone for having scars, differences, or for any other reason. If I feel the need to distance myself from someone it is usually for a much more mundane reason ... such as their personality and mine clash or I can't stand the way they eat their popcorn Best of luck to you. And smile, it makes them all wonder what you have been up too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author imthefokker Posted June 13, 2004 Author Share Posted June 13, 2004 Big thank you for reading and replying to my message, it has been a big help, cheers. Thank you P.S imthefokker Link to post Share on other sites
Teddi Posted June 13, 2004 Share Posted June 13, 2004 alrite mate... one of the things you said about your attitude not being the reason.... think about it..its hardly your scar because would she have got with you in the first place if she didnt like it?? if your constantly conscious of it..your going to be way too self-concious about it..... which is a negativity that some girls can pick up on.. its like this... so f u c k i n what if you have a scar..... give the finger to anyone who thinks differnetly!..lol..jus kidden... its something you'll have to live with the rest of your life..its a matter of becoming comfortable with your appearance...a boost in confidence is what you need matey just think of people in wheelchairs/severely physically disabled...nothing compares to what they must feel........ anyway...dont worry about it mate....it'll be grand Link to post Share on other sites
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