My ex never wants to speak to me again, I still do.

[hopelessromanticjess]

My ex and I dated for a year, and for the last 6 months we have been arguing and hooking up on and off. The last time I saw him was about a month ago, I stopped trying to win him back and finally accepted to just be friends. Yesterday he told me he doesn't want to see me, that he doesn't want to talk to me, that he doesn't want to be friends. He told me that he doesn't like my personality, that he doesn't want to be involved with me in any way and that if I keep calling him he will call the police. (I think it's a bluff) he told me he won't message me, and for me not to message him and that his mind is made up so whatever I say won't change his mind. He is pissed off from situations of our past (as if I wasn't) and he doesn't like who I am now (as if he actually made any effort to make things work and see me in person) He told me he doesn't even think about me anymore. I've been crying ever since because I feel like I lost my soul-mate and my bestfriend. He meant so much to me, and I'm completely lost without him. I'm devastated. I wish he could see who I really was but he doesn't even give me a chance, he just points fingers and insults me and blames me and belittles me. He hears the words but doesn't actually HEAR them. I miss him so much, I don't want him out of my life.. has anybody been here before? What did they do in this situation? I need some positive advice.

[TaraMaiden]

He's implementing full No Contact (see my signature).

 

who ended it, you or him?

[hopelessromanticjess]

he did. he ended the relationship. he is ending contact.

[TaraMaiden]

Well in that case, you have no choice but to comply.

I suggest you also read my signature link, because he ended it with you, for a reason.

 

It's possible he's found a new GF (or he already had one waiting in the wings) and now, to put it bluntly, you're surplus to requirement.....

 

I'm sorry he's done a 180, but you really have no choice....

 

The biggest mistake you both made, really, was to keep this going and straying into the 'friendship zone'.

while feelings still exist - friendship is impossible.

[BewitchedandBothered]

If a person wants space, give it to them. Why do you want to be friends with someone who was that forthcoming with not wanting to be involved with you? It would be painful for you. Let him have his space, no reason to be friends with this guy who made it abundantly clear. Peace; we are here for you.

[Hol]

Space is your friend honestly, I know it wont seem like that right now but it is.it can help you heal and grow. Dont want to give u false hope but it could make him realise he misses you, and wants you. BUT most of all, it is good for YOU!

[fucpcg]

I'm in this situation right now. Ex had plenty of faults I worked thru with her. Down the line I had my own issues pop up, mainly relating to bad dating experiences I had before her. She split with me, accused me of horrible things, told me she would never speak to me again, and when I wrote her a letter trying to address what she wouldn't speak to me about in person, she accused me of harassment.

 

What can you do? I miss her, I love her, I'd work thru any bad past experiences to be with her, but she accuses me of abuse and harassment. Ironically, that pretty much describes her our first two months together, but once again I was willing to work thru it with her, and we did. I am not at all close to putting this behind me, a year later, but I know I don't deserve the treatment I am getting from her. Sooooo..... I do nothing.

[CaliBabe]

If he wants to walk away let him. If he wants space, give it to him 10 fold!

[mike588]

My ex and I dated for a year, and for the last 6 months we have been arguing and hooking up on and off. The last time I saw him was about a month ago, I stopped trying to win him back and finally accepted to just be friends. Yesterday he told me he doesn't want to see me, that he doesn't want to talk to me, that he doesn't want to be friends. He told me that he doesn't like my personality, that he doesn't want to be involved with me in any way and that if I keep calling him he will call the police. (I think it's a bluff) he told me he won't message me, and for me not to message him and that his mind is made up so whatever I say won't change his mind. He is pissed off from situations of our past (as if I wasn't) and he doesn't like who I am now (as if he actually made any effort to make things work and see me in person) He told me he doesn't even think about me anymore. I've been crying ever since because I feel like I lost my soul-mate and my bestfriend. He meant so much to me, and I'm completely lost without him. I'm devastated. I wish he could see who I really was but he doesn't even give me a chance, he just points fingers and insults me and blames me and belittles me. He hears the words but doesn't actually HEAR them. I miss him so much, I don't want him out of my life.. has anybody been here before? What did they do in this situation? I need some positive advice.

 

Let him go..Do you really want someone who insults you..blames you and belittles you?

[BewitchedandBothered]

My ex dumped me and had the nerve to say "I really want us to be friends and talk; no reason why we can't be friends." Really? You dump me and want to be friends like a consolation prize? why be friends with someone who called you names and belittled you?

[cflowers32]

My ex dumped me and had the nerve to say "I really want us to be friends and talk; no reason why we can't be friends." Really? You dump me and want to be friends like a consolation prize? why be friends with someone who called you names and belittled you?

 

That is exactly what I told my X (I am still completely in love him, and I have posted my story), we have chatted, but I have decided that I need to take all of my hurt, pain, sadness and even ALL THAT LOVE I STILL have for him and just vomit all over here.

 

You want us to be friends though???? I can't do that, it's either black or white, there just can't be any grey in there. No, no, no, no!! I agree Bewitched.

[cflowers32]

If he wants to walk away let him. If he wants space, give it to him 10 fold!

 

Another reason why I'm here. I'm going to let him walk, and I'm going to park my butt on this site if I have a d@mn problem with it, and deal with it like a big girl!!

[CaliBabe]

Another reason why I'm here. I'm going to let him walk, and I'm going to park my butt on this site if I have a d@mn problem with it, and deal with it like a big girl!!

 

Go giiiirl! Show that man what he missed out on! Nothing more liberating that being a strong female who does not rely on anyone but herself!

[cflowers32]

And you have only posted twice, so you just got here. Too bad you didn't get here earlier, but welcome!!! Keep coming back. I just signed up here because my break up is recent, we're both feeling hurt, he's confused, I'm not, but I am ALSO NOT GOING TO PUSH HIM AWAY!!! I think we had a great thing, and I will COMPLETELY LET HIM HAVE HIS SPACE, and I will come here when I feel "insane" and get some support. I have spoken my peace to him today, and I NEED TO BE OFFICIALLY done with saying even a PEEP to him!

 

No more!!!! He wants his space????? HE'S GO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU LOVE SHACK!!!!!! YOU SAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAVED MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!