can anything go right

[babydoll]

I need someone to talk to. I think that i am pretty good to my bf, well with the exception that I sometimes lose my temper and get a little slap happy. But today, im totally frustrated, not angry. Last night, after his grumpy mood was over, we had an alright night. Had a few beers so I was a little tired this morning, but if BF is awake then everyone has to be awake. Thats ok, so I wake up. Then he immediatly starts wailing on me because I said 4 words to me ex husband on the phone last night when the kids were talking to him(he is 4000 km away) He kept saying because I talked to him, I must want him back. The truth is, I havent loved my XH in at least 10 years, maybe I never really loved him, just ended up pregnet at 16 and what choices do I have really. I stayed with him. 4 years ago I realized that I would never be happy with him a left him.

 

So here I am , trying to be happy in life. And my BF just freaks about everything. Friday, it was my pants were to tight, yesturday it was my mother, no today this. I getting so frustrated. I dont want to break up with him. Im trying so hard for this to work. How can I keeep this up though when everything I do or say is alway wrong. How can I think postitive.

 

He just came back from his little walk, slamming cupboard doors. Time for me to shower I guess. Any suggestions for my situation?

 

Babydoll

[babydoll]

oh please help, im just about ready to tell tell to leave

[mandy may]

sounds like we are in similar situations. see my post right under yours from "mandy may"

so far counseling is the recommended course on here, lol.

not a bad idea either if you can get him to go. sounds like he has some anger and control and

jealousy issues going on or some insecurity issues going on. i know you love him, but do you

love him enough to work things out, meaning you both need to do some changing here too.

have you read or looked up any books on co-dependence? or relationship issues?

i am not very good at giving advice but sinice i'm i a similar situation as you those are the things

that i have been told to do.

the board is very slow today but maybe someone will stumble in soon and offer you some good

advice as there is tons of it here, you just to be patient!

my suggestion for now: go eat some ice cream. that is where i am heading, dairy queen.

[babydoll]

Thanks Mandy,

 

How was your ice cream? I read your post and it does sound similar. I have anger issues for the last couple years too, huh ever since ive been with my boyfriend. I though, well if i was allowed to be, was a social butterfly.

 

I cant stand not doing anything right with him. I use to have so much self confidence, and I use to love the world, smile all the time. I dont blame that on him, I am trying to get back to my old self, but he wont allow me to be happy.

 

We have gone pretty much the whole day without saying to much. We took the kids for a walk, and he is saying stuff like "why arnt you happy, why dont you talk" Well duh , probably cause I will say something wrong, i didnt say that though, just kept my mouth shut.

 

He went out to his moms for a while now, but i can imagine what the night has in store for us this evening. I will predict that he will storm off to bed because im being quiet. Funny thing is he complains when im not quiet. There just isnt any winning.

 

I dont really no why I stay in this relationship. Yes I love him, but i know he will hold me back,I know that he will continue to be a head f***. Gee he complains that I dont work, then when im looking for a job he says that i dont need to work, i get enough money from child support. I cant have any independence at all.