Phanpooh Posted March 26, 2012 Share Posted March 26, 2012 Everyone here is most of broken hearts and blame on ex or them self. We all miss them or just still have feeling for them. So why we don't share what did we do, what is better, or what we feel ? After BU we have had our own part time to figures out what wrong or right but bad thing just happened. And then we try to heal, to find ourself in better place, to find our power self-respect back, we don't include anyone for our life. We are here to support each other, so we could share our goal, or just some thing we did.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phanpooh Posted March 26, 2012 Author Share Posted March 26, 2012 My BU is Oct 2011, and I was: In depression time Lost a chance to promotion and had a risk to be fired My family left me alone at Dec cause I push them away for my ex My friends left me alone cause I was drunk every day or night Lost all money for a surprise engagement plan and a honeymoon-trip, but it is just wasted Day by day, I'm lonely on my bed, and keeped trying to avoid suicidal For me now: Im feeling better, enjoy my single life I'm an assistant for my company, and be promoted with x2 salary I came back to family and they take care of me I met my old friends, who truly like me. Take back my confident, Im still drinking but I havnt been drunk anymore I'm now in better place, scored some bonus in my young life, and after all, I miss her but I dun dream about her anymore, my life is more interesting. What a deal? I lost my close-friend, my lover, my wife-to-be for a stupid reason but I thank for that happened, and I feel lucky, cuz I didn't go so far with this girl, I laid my heart and soul on her hand, but she couldn't see my price, so I think she dun deserve the better I am now! In next year, I will try to be a manager and a young successful businessmen at here, I may hav the most wonderful girl too, but I dun think about girls now, my life is busy and I want to keep it this way... Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted March 26, 2012 Share Posted March 26, 2012 My goals is to heal and to make a better life for myself. I went back to school. I am involved in more humanitarian projects. As a potential partner for someone, my goal is to not be so gullible. It will pay attention to red flags next time and stop making excuses for bad behavior. I will never beg anyone for their time again. If they can't be bothered to put an effort in the relationship and if I have to beg for their time...then I'm gone, no matter what the reason is because people can just make excuses over and over again. If I have to sit and ponder so that I can figure out if I am being psychologically abused or not...I'm gone! If I'm not acknowledged on facebook...then I'm gone...I mean, why would you hide me? I told myself facebook was no big deal...even though his page looked like he was single. Then after he cheated on me and I left him, he put info and pictures on his new women on there. If I'm hidden from friends and family....I'm gone. If I'm not allowed in his house...for WHATEVER reason, it does not matter...I'm gone. If I feel like I'm dating a married man, even if he is not married...I'm gone. If he lies frequently...I'm gone. Never again...never again. Link to post Share on other sites
zoomzoom Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 Well for me even in the last 8 months when things were tanking I still put my ex and her child first. She had very very little as far as money and assets so I was a main supporter of her. I was always made to feel bad by her if I wanted to get something for myself ALWAYS. How dare I do something for myself when I should be spending my play money on things for them. I work hard for what I have and did provide alot to them so why can't I get things I want? Soooooo for me! I have decided a list of things that I want to do and get! and I'm going to do it!! - My first tatto - A newer Mustang GT - Lasik eye surgery I'm treating myself! I'm single after 5 years of supporting two people with little appreciation, So its time to appreciate myself! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Phanpooh Posted March 27, 2012 Author Share Posted March 27, 2012 Today, I found out that my bosses cheat on me XD I help them build a new company, a new team workers, a system with finance. After all, they kicked me out of my chair, slowly... and they r my family.... I dun know I will be tomorrow but today, as present, I will enjoy my life, and I will do my best! Even how suck it is. But if this world doesn't suck, we should fall! Link to post Share on other sites
Mack05 Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) Main Goals right now and in future..Have loads of smaller one's too. 1) Buy the apartment I am living in now, before the start of next year..This looks a done deal. 2) To be 175 pounds by June 1st 2012. 3) To be fluent in Portuguese (the language I am learning) by September 1st 2012.. 4) To truly understand exactly what flaws are and to do my very best to resolve them. To be happy and love myself.. 5) To always be positive. To handle adversity with courage and conviction the next time it arises. 6) To never allow any woman disrespect me the way my last ex did. To be myself and set my own personal boundaries. If anyone falls outside that remit of those bundaries and is unwilling to communicate, accept responsibility then I need to be very decisive and leave the relationship..No matter how big my feelings are. 7) To be the best son, brother, friend, uncle and eventually husband I can be. 8) To give more money to charity. Edited March 27, 2012 by Mack05 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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