Best Man issues...

[chucksagent]

I have a very good friend who will probably be getting married early next year. He has already told me he wants me to be his best man. I have two other friends who I KNOW (they have already said) they would want me to be both of their best men as well. And I have a 4th friend who would not surprise me at ALL if he asked me to be his best man.

 

I will probably be proposing to my girlfriend in a few months and could in theory be married by this time next year give or take a few months. Who do I ask to be my best man?

 

Friend 1 - Known since 6 years old. Played little league together. Lost touch between ages 10 and 16. Have been VERY close since 16 (I am now 30). He went to college in a different state so it hasn't been constant togetherness as with the other friends but whenever he comes in we hang out all the time and we talk on gchat constantly ever since we both got office jobs. Lol.

 

Friend 2 - Known since 9 years old. Played little league together. Became best friends at 14 and have been ever since. We lived together for all 4 years of college and again for a 5th year the year after. He became the vice president of a company and was instrumental in getting me hired as their corporate attorney. We go to lunch together every day, talk all the time, etc. He recently moved far away but we still text/email often. This friend also always had my back in college during altercations whilst at the bars...Lol

 

Friend 3 - Known since 14 years old and have been good friends straight through. He, Friend 2, and I were inseparable (the 3 of ) for years until he and friend 2 got into a dispute over a girl. I somehow managed to be best friends with both of them. Obviously when college came around I spent more time with Friend 2. It wasn't too long before these two became mature enough to put the girl situation behind them. They lived together while I was in law school and I hung out with both of them every time I came in to visit. Friend 3 is the kindest of all Friends and would do anything for anyone. I always felt like we shared a special bond, but friend 2 has always had my back too. This friend is the selfless type and in spite of him not going to college we have remained best friends this whole while and still see each other 1-2 times per week.

 

Friend 4 - This is the friend who there is a CHANCE he won't ask me to be best man but my girlfriend still thinks he will. Probably the most underrated of the 4 friends...we have been very close since 15 years old and enjoy all the same activities. He joined me and friend 2 in college after he did 2 years at his community college. This friend and I are still very close and see eachother 1-2 times per week. He is the least reliable of the above 3 but has still been a good friend to me. He really has no clear advantage over any of the others other than consistancy. Hasn't lived far away ever AND we went to college together and lived together than which Friend 3 can't say.

 

Thought?

 

Remember, anything goes...I've heard suggestions of having 2 best men - like in Old School. What does everyone think?

[Star Gazer]

Do you have a brother?

 

If not, have them ALL be Best Men. *shrug*

 

I likely won't have a MOH, just all bridesmaids (assuming we have a bridal party at all). The person who should get the honor of being mine would suck at her MOH "duties."

[Lois]

You're blessed to have such good friends. What the heck, pick them all.

[setsenia]

Do you have a brother?

 

If not, have them ALL be Best Men. *shrug*

 

I likely won't have a MOH, just all bridesmaids (assuming we have a bridal party at all). The person who should get the honor of being mine would suck at her MOH "duties."

 

I agree. My brother has actually been asked to be best man by most of his friends. If you have a few best friends and you can't bear to choose one, have them all be "best men". You can have your wedding any way you want it these days. Don't make it too hard on yourself.

 

I only have a few really close friends and at my vow renewal, I'll probably have them all stand with me as equals rather than choosing. At my wedding, I had my mom as my matron of honor and my friends as the bridesmaids. If my mom weren't in the wedding, I probably wouldn't have had just one of them as a maid of honor.