mum-mum Posted March 27, 2012 Share Posted March 27, 2012 hi I,m new to this, but really am scewed up. I have been in a wonderful marriage, have a hubby that adores me and was only 15 when we met and he 23. Lots of dramas with my family saying he was too experienced for me, but he took me for milkshakes and dinners as a friend only. He never tried sex as he knew I was a minor. Meanwhile I knew he had a couple of one nighters, but by the time I was of legal age, he fell in love with me. From the time I was of age we have had a great life and been together 43 years. However, 3 weeks ago I found a scrap of paper with a list of names-I immediately realised they were his exes. I was flabbergasted and have had a huge inferiority complex ever since. He has answered questions about a couple I knew of, but I now find myself imagining him with them when ever I look at him. The main question I keep asking him IS WHY DID HE FEEL THE NEED TO WRITE IT, in the first place. I accused him of reminiscing and he said he definately does not and never has thought of any of them as 'lost partners'. He said he was just bored one day and wondered how many he had been with-2 of which were his 1st and 2nd loves. He had always told me he never wanted to get married and have kids because he was so sick all his life and would not put any woman thru what his mum went thru. He walked out completely with both previous serious loves without any explanations at all, moved to another town and we met. Fortunately for me he was so in love he even followed me overseas where we have now been for over 40 yrs with 2 beautiful sons/wives and 4 grandies. Really, I know he just dotes on me, so WHY do I KEEP ASKING HIM OVER AND OVER why HE LISTED THOSE NAMES AFTER SO LONG. hE SAID IF HE HAD ANYTHING TO HIDE HE WOULDNT HAVE LEFT IT ON THE TABLE FOR ME TO SEE.[sorry about uppercase, didnt realise,lol] Has anyone else come across this silly thing that is eating me alive Link to post Share on other sites
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