Shaun-Dro Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Unless lots of girls my age are smiling at me and I'm not seeing it when I'm out and about, I can't imagine girls perceiving me as cold and subtle.. Maybe they should smile or just give me a look that lets me know "hey, it's ok if you talk to me".. It's not being subtle about attraction, it's either about being totally oblivious to the fact that someone else is into me because I consider girls to be very aloof, cold and subtle and I don't see too many girls that I'd like to risk taking a gamble on approaching anyway. And even if a girl smiled at me, what does it even mean? Does it always have to be a green light? They can't just be friendly? I wonder what'd happen if I just walked up to an attractive girl and just said "hi".. Usually I imagine it not going very well. I feel as though I have to carry every conversation, so why even bother talking to random people who don't even want to be around me or talk to me? I understand what you're saying. Women don't give the men nothing to work on these days, unless she's pumped full of drugs or liquor. Problem is that women always their guards up when approached by men. It's like an auto-response to the male anatomy. Don't let it get you down. Just need to understand how they do things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 I just had to respond to this. Not true. If he's aggressive and charming.. attractive. If he's aggressive without being charming? Not attractive. Looks matter little if a guy approaches me and has the right personality and presence. I am not at all shallow. Because of my own history I put looks on the back burner always. Maybe I'm unique in that, but I hate how guys assume that looks are the most important thing about who gets a girls attention. No. Not at all. This in untrue. Maybe in your case, but you're an individual, not counting toward the overwhelming female population. Women are shallow as much as men, even more so, come to think of it, however in different ways. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 Maybe do things with your eyes more. You don't have to be lewd; just make clear with your eyes and a slightly seductive smile that you're into her. Fortune favors the bold. Y'know, this is likely my problem. I've gotten a lot better, but sometimes I'll lock eyes with an attractive girl and I'll be the one with the knee-jerk reaction to look down/away or my eyes might widen or something stupid like that.. It's a product of my previous self image.. physical tics that I'm consciously disconnected from, even if they still manifest subconciously. It sucks, because I'd at least LIKE to believe that I've had some beautiful girls who were pretty obviously checking me out, but there's still a small part of me that still can't "own" that and just play it cool and see where it goes.. It's like training to lay on hot coals as a performer.. You know that it isn't going to kill you and that you're going to have to learn to do it if you REALLY want it, but your body still recoils from the sensation regardless of where you are mentally.. Link to post Share on other sites
John Tucker Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 The topic of this thread made me laugh But to answer the question, I can't speak for all black men based on how I approach women; but I do notice that most of my pals and I are more straightforward with women. Meaning, we don't have time for your games: your either with it or we out ! Link to post Share on other sites
ScreamingTrees Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 The topic of this thread made me laugh But to answer the question, I can't speak for all black men based on how I approach women; but I do notice that most of my pals and I are more straightforward with women. Meaning, we don't have time for your games: your either with it or we out ! That's something I can agree with. I sort of got the message that straight forward was more of them commenting on their bodies.. That's being straight forward alright.. at least when it comes to letting them know where your interests lie. Just thought about something, too.. A real ******* can be a sweet heart when it comes to getting what he ultimately wants.. he can be a dick around others but sweet around that one HOT piece of ass he wants to tear up. And that's basically what such a guy might say when he mentions his f-buddy/"girlfriend" around his mates. I'm sure this isn't a widespread phenomenon, unless I'm just unaware. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted April 1, 2012 Author Share Posted April 1, 2012 The topic of this thread made me laugh But to answer the question, I can't speak for all black men based on how I approach women; but I do notice that most of my pals and I are more straightforward with women. Meaning, we don't have time for your games: your either with it or we out ! Us white guys don't do that. Even if we get lots of women so it has to be cultural. So how are you able to just " be out " as my black friend say lol. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 it is actually time-worn behavior of lower class whites OK. from the south Link to post Share on other sites
Feelsgoodman Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 ...it is actually time-worn behavior of lower class whites from the south whom have long used pick up slang and called women they have not been introduced to "honey" and "sweetheart" and "good lookin'" and what have you. That's not a racist contention...at all Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted April 2, 2012 Author Share Posted April 2, 2012 That's something I can agree with. I sort of got the message that straight forward was more of them commenting on their bodies.. That's being straight forward alright.. at least when it comes to letting them know where your interests lie. Just thought about something, too.. A real ******* can be a sweet heart when it comes to getting what he ultimately wants.. he can be a dick around others but sweet around that one HOT piece of ass he wants to tear up. And that's basically what such a guy might say when he mentions his f-buddy/"girlfriend" around his mates. I'm sure this isn't a widespread phenomenon, unless I'm just unaware. Maybe it's because black guys go for what they want and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Necromancer Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 I just had to respond to this. Not true. If he's aggressive and charming.. attractive. If he's aggressive without being charming? Not attractive. Looks matter little if a guy approaches me and has the right personality and presence. I am not at all shallow. Because of my own history I put looks on the back burner always. Maybe I'm unique in that, but I hate how guys assume that looks are the most important thing about who gets a girls attention. No. Not at all. I just had to respond to this. I have had female friends that say "looks don´t matter, only personality".... then always said to me that i was so funny and fun to be around then rejected me with "i can´t give you more than friendship". I take care of myself, work out 5 times a week, spend ***** loads of money in clothes...then i lose to guys that are not funny, wear normal t-shirt and jeans and do not work out, but the difference is that they have BETTER FACE. face is 80% of the attraction. don´t try to tell me that girls are not shallow! I know ***** loads of girls and they are almost all drooling over some "pretty boy" they don´t know and is out of their league. Every while there comes a delusional people that claim that looks don´t matter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 I don't know where people get the idea that swagger is just a black thing. I have seen white guys that have mad swagger, I'm seeing someone like this now. Everything about him screams style, class, respectful, put together, and he looks oh so goooood. Swagger is not a race thing at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted April 2, 2012 Author Share Posted April 2, 2012 I just had to respond to this. I have had female friends that say "looks don´t matter, only personality".... then always said to me that i was so funny and fun to be around then rejected me with "i can´t give you more than friendship". I take care of myself, work out 5 times a week, spend ***** loads of money in clothes...then i lose to guys that are not funny, wear normal t-shirt and jeans and do not work out, but the difference is that they have BETTER FACE. face is 80% of the attraction. don´t try to tell me that girls are not shallow! I know ***** loads of girls and they are almost all drooling over some "pretty boy" they don´t know and is out of their league. Every while there comes a delusional people that claim that looks don´t matter. Most of the women on this thread say looks don't matter. Mostly confidence and boldness. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted April 2, 2012 Share Posted April 2, 2012 I just had to respond to this. I have had female friends that say "looks don´t matter, only personality".... then always said to me that i was so funny and fun to be around then rejected me with "i can´t give you more than friendship". I take care of myself, work out 5 times a week, spend ***** loads of money in clothes...then i lose to guys that are not funny, wear normal t-shirt and jeans and do not work out, but the difference is that they have BETTER FACE. face is 80% of the attraction. don´t try to tell me that girls are not shallow! I know ***** loads of girls and they are almost all drooling over some "pretty boy" they don´t know and is out of their league. Every while there comes a delusional people that claim that looks don´t matter. Whover says women arent into looks at at all or shallow is lying..Looks are just as important if not more to women then Men.. I think Men have more diverse taste and different types theyre attracted then women.. My good looking friend had every women in our social circle wantign him..evne atfer he using a few of thme others stil lwanted a piece of him.. Most women are into the same Men.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author singlelife Posted April 2, 2012 Author Share Posted April 2, 2012 Whover says women arent into looks at at all or shallow is lying..Looks are just as important if not more to women then Men.. I think Men have more diverse taste and different types theyre attracted then women.. My good looking friend had every women in our social circle wantign him..evne atfer he using a few of thme others stil lwanted a piece of him.. Most women are into the same Men.. There's not many just super hot looking dudes. So that's a rare thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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