MJ2 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 From day one, he made it clear that he respected me for x number of reasons. Well, ever since we slept together on a drunken Saturday night, for literally one minute, he's gotten SO cocky. He did appolozie for what happened that night and claimed he felt bad. We have only been together for a few months but I'm starting to get attached as he is as well. Recently, his new thing is to call me woman. I don't like it nor do I find it cute and amusing! I'm trying to figure out where and why he decided thatwas a good name to start calling me! Idk why it's buggin me, but it is!! Would this concern anyone else or should I loosen up?? lol Thanks for taken the time to read/respond! Xo Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 From day one, he made it clear that he respected me for x number of reasons. Well, ever since we slept together on a drunken Saturday night, for literally one minute, he's gotten SO cocky. He did appolozie for what happened that night and claimed he felt bad. We have only been together for a few months but I'm starting to get attached as he is as well. Recently, his new thing is to call me woman. I don't like it nor do I find it cute and amusing! I'm trying to figure out where and why he decided thatwas a good name to start calling me! Idk why it's buggin me, but it is!! Would this concern anyone else or should I loosen up?? lol Thanks for taken the time to read/respond! Xo Um yeah! I wouldn't want a guy to call me woman. Haha. I have a name, call me "Nicole" or "baby" or "sweetheart" but don't call me by my gender! It makes me feel like he might as well be calling for a dog. Yuck. I'm not entirely sure what it is, but "woman" feels like I'm an object or just not special. I would put an end to it if I were you Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Yeah, that's offensive and meant to demean you and put your in your place. Is this your BF? Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 You slept with him for literally ONE MINUTE?!?! I think that would be a bigger concern for me than being called "woman." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
g450 Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I had this issue come up with my Fiancee. Her oldest Son would call her "woman". I told her that this was very disrespectful and she shrugged it off and told me "thats just how he is". I told her NO, he is that way because you LET him be that way. Luckily her disrespecful oldest doesnt live with us. Already told her that would be a deal breaker for me as our marriage wouldnt last long with him around. And trust me, he has called her a lot worse. He is that way with all the family members though, not just her. He has issues. AFAIAC only I can call her Woman. And when I do, it's out of love and I do it in a playful way. I would hazzard to guess that her oldest Son will be alone for a long LONG time since he is so socially retarded. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Is this like "you are a woman?" or "get in the car, woman!" Reason I asked is I dated a woman who didn't like the term woman as descriptive of women generally and preferred "girl" which I found odd. If he's joking and doesn't do it often, would let it slide. If it is accompanied by controlling or condescending behavior, time to move on. Sometimes I don't know if women realize how blunt and nasty it sounds when men kid with each other in a normal way. Men regularly call each other "b-tch," "m-f-cker," "a-hole," "douche," etc. as terms of endearment or bonding. We don't do much of this around women. He may be just forgetting himself with you and you can interpret this as a good or a bad thing, half- empty or half-full. Link to post Share on other sites
brokenTom Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I've known several women who liked being called "women" but of course it was in a endearing way, not a "respect my authoritah" way. Some might even like being called "bitch" if done properly. My mom HATED being called "mother", said it sounded like a swear word, but she didn't seem to mind swearing at any given point. Point is, everyone's different, and words can have more then one meaning depending on how you say them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 As long as the tone is playful, or respectful, I don't mind being called woman. I kind of like it. It's all in the tone. It can be downright reverent. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Then tell him you don't like being called " woman'. My guy calls me babe all the time, while that's okay, he also decided to call me his " ride or die chick" which I took real offense to. I told him I wasn't ghetto and while it's a compliment I'd prefer he doesn't compare me to a pack mule that would do anything for him. Link to post Share on other sites
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