somedude81 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) In a recent thread a member expressed that somebody should offer me a pity f. Then what surprised me is that a few people thought that it was a rude thing to say about me. It made me think that the notion of pity sex means different things. Some may think that it was saying that I am pathetic and pity sex was the only way I can get laid. While I can think of it as saying. "He's a good guy that 's having trouble, let's do something nice for him and make his day. Either way, I've never actually had somebody offer that to me. And I'm almost a little surprised it hasn't happened yet. Its probably less common then it seems. Edited March 30, 2012 by somedude81 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 I'm not a virgin. California is a huge state. Yeah and what that woman did counts as pity sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 The person who said you need pitty sex was probably referring to your thread just begging for a girl to let you use her body. I know some of the later posters definetly were. Fact is if you were more aggressive with this let me use your body angle in real life and datings sites you'd have a good shot. Personaly I think being aggressive in life about the things you want is the greatest key. Thing is if a person is negative like you often are action is hard to do. The people who were talking about you were your fans. I wonder where that line of thinking would have went if all the bully chanters hadn't showed up... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
prune juice Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 A woman once told me that once a year, on a particular day in the year, she'd go out to a bar, look for the geekiest guy she could find, then f*ck his brains out and make his day. I think that could pass for a pity f*ck. She also kept a list of ALL the guys she ever f*cked, which was a very long list. Just for the record, I'm not on that list. My advice to you SD, don't get yourself pity f*cked. You could easily get a regular girlfriend and make your first time special. My advice to you is that you need to get your degree, get a decent job, get your own place and gather up some confidence to hit on a girl in fun way. And you will get that girlfriend. I also think California is not the best place for a guy like you. i don't believe it. she's f*ing with you. females will pity f*ck a player who hasn't scored in a week but not a geek and never a virgin. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
prune juice Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 The person who said you need pitty sex was probably referring to your thread just begging for a girl to let you use her body. I know some of the later posters definetly were. Fact is if you were more aggressive with this let me use your body angle in real life and datings sites you'd have a good shot. Personaly I think being aggressive in life about the things you want is the greatest key. Thing is if a person is negative like you often are action is hard to do. The people who were talking about you were your fans. I wonder where that line of thinking would have went if all the bully chanters hadn't showed up... agressive works if your hot and or charming. if your a geek, she won't walk but she will run in a frenzy to get away. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Different opinions on what pity sex means. Pity sex generally means having sex with a person because you feel bad for them. The expansion often being you find the person pathetic and they can't get laid any other way thus you feel sorry and will grin it & bear it. Quite unsure of how common it is in general. I think it would be quite common as to me many guys often have an entitlement attitude towards sex and think women are holes to be used for their pleasure rather than human beings. Many of which said guys tend to be self proclaimed nice/decent/good guys who think by being a decent human being the woman they want should dole him out sex. The mindset is her attraction/desire for him is irrelevant as he was a good human so she needs to put out. It's not quite uncommon in my experiences/observations as I've known a few gals deemed unattractive by most guys who've done pity sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 The person who said you need pitty sex was probably referring to your thread just begging for a girl to let you use her body. I know some of the later posters definetly were. Fact is if you were more aggressive with this let me use your body angle in real life and datings sites you'd have a good shot. Personaly I think being aggressive in life about the things you want is the greatest key. Thing is if a person is negative like you often are action is hard to do. The people who were talking about you were your fans. I wonder where that line of thinking would have went if all the bully chanters hadn't showed up... ^^This Although I wouldn't say aggressive is the position you want to go for. How about assertive?? Link to post Share on other sites
prune juice Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Different opinions on what pity sex means. Pity sex generally means having sex with a person because you feel bad for them. The expansion often being you find the person pathetic and they can't get laid any other way thus you feel sorry and will grin it & bear it. Quite unsure of how common it is in general. I think it would be quite common as to me many guys often have an entitlement attitude towards sex and think women are holes to be used for their pleasure rather than human beings. Many of which said guys tend to be self proclaimed nice/decent/good guys who think by being a decent human being the woman they want should dole him out sex. The mindset is her attraction/desire for him is irrelevant as he was a good human so she needs to put out. It's not quite uncommon in my experiences/observations as I've known a few gals deemed unattractive by most guys who've done pity sex. a guy who has gone years with no sex is never given pity sex. instead he's made the laughing sock by females plus he's accused of having an entitlement attititude. how dare that he should get sex. whereas a player whos not had sex in a week, he may get pity sex. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 a guy who has gone years with no sex is never given pity sex. instead he's made the laughing sock by females plus he's accused of having an entitlement attititude. how dare that he should get sex. whereas a player whos not had sex in a week, he may get pity sex. Not sure how this relates to my post. I never stated, implied, or suggested all or most guys who go years for sex get pity sex. Nowhere did I state, imply, or suggest all or most guys who go years for sex have an entitlement attitude. To me it's not a how dare that he should get sex it's a quite off putting that: he thinks women are obligated to dole men out sex he thinks women he's attracted to are obligated to dole him out sex because he's nice/decent/good as whether she wants to have sex with him and her attraction/desire of him is irrelevant because since he was a decent human being the women he wants are obligated to have sex with him If going without sex is so bad there's prostitutes in legal areas. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I don't think the poster was being rude, but I don't think she was making you a serious offer either. >.> Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Pity sex is a prostitute's job description. Link to post Share on other sites
prune juice Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Not sure how this relates to my post. I never stated, implied, or suggested all or most guys who go years for sex get pity sex. Nowhere did I state, imply, or suggest all or most guys who go years for sex have an entitlement attitude. To me it's not a how dare that he should get sex it's a quite off putting that: he thinks women are obligated to dole men out sex he thinks women he's attracted to are obligated to dole him out sex because he's nice/decent/good as whether she wants to have sex with him and her attraction/desire of him is irrelevant because since he was a decent human being the women he wants are obligated to have sex with him If going without sex is so bad there's prostitutes in legal areas. first i don't need prostitutes. i've had dry spells but not for more then half a year. but here's the thing. if i were to go a year without sex i'd hire an escort or prostitute. i gotta have my needs met. but this nice/decent/good guys by and large won't go that route. its all or nothing with them. sex and relationship or neither. some of these guys get so desperate that they bend and hope for pity sex from a friend/acquaitance. they don't get it ever. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 first i don't need prostitutes. Wasn't stating, implying, or suggesting you. I stated that for your the whole guy who has gone years with no sex is not given pity sex. but this nice/decent/good guys by and large won't go that route. its all or nothing with them. sex and relationship or neither. To me that's their issue. No one is obligated to dole them out sex/relationships if the person doesn't want to have sex with them and/or be in a relationship with them. Quite amused by you stating "sex and relationship or neither" if they want both sex/relationship then most likely if they're a guy going years with no pity sex they wouldn't care as that's not what they want. some of these guys get so desperate that they bend and hope for pity sex from a friend/acquaintance. they don't get it ever. So it's not all or nothing sex and relationship or neither. Seems more of a "I don't want to go to a prostitute" so "I'll treat my friends/acquaintances who own a vagina as prostitutes I don't have to pay as my payment is that I'm a nice/good/decent guy". They most likely don't get it because they gal is not physically attracted to them and she's not obligated to dole him out sex. If they're desperate enough to hope/bend for sex from a gal because she feels sorry for them why not go to a prostitute in a legal area? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 No one is obligated to dole them out sex/relationships This reminds me of someone I used to know who was broke because he couldn't be bothered to work. He whined about a distant relation who was rich "Why can't she give me her money? She doesn't need so much." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 prune juice is the latest identity of our regular troll, please do not respond to him or any other trolls. The person who said you need pitty sex was probably referring to your thread just begging for a girl to let you use her body. I know some of the later posters definetly were. Fact is if you were more aggressive with this let me use your body angle in real life and datings sites you'd have a good shot. Personaly I think being aggressive in life about the things you want is the greatest key. Thing is if a person is negative like you often are action is hard to do. I'd never tell a girl to let me use her body. Why would anybody say yes. The people who were talking about you were your fans. I wonder where that line of thinking would have went if all the bully chanters hadn't showed up... Probably no where. And even then, I was surprised at the time thought I was being bullied. True, but I didn't mean that in context of geography, lifestyle or weather. With many different kinds of people. What I'm saying was that I don't think the location matters at all. Different opinions on what pity sex means. Pity sex generally means having sex with a person because you feel bad for them. The expansion often being you find the person pathetic and they can't get laid any other way thus you feel sorry and will grin it & bear it. That sounds horrible. There is no way I could have sex with somebody who had to grin and bear it. I think it would be quite common as to me many guys often have an entitlement attitude towards sex and think women are holes to be used for their pleasure rather than human beings. Many of which said guys tend to be self proclaimed nice/decent/good guys who think by being a decent human being the woman they want should dole him out sex. The mindset is her attraction/desire for him is irrelevant as he was a good human so she needs to put out. How does men having that mindset affect if women give pity sex? Pity sex is 100% the woman's choice. It's not quite uncommon in my experiences/observations as I've known a few gals deemed unattractive by most guys who've done pity sex.Oh. What kind of girls where they? he thinks women are obligated to dole men out sex he thinks women he's attracted to are obligated to dole him out sex because he's nice/decent/good as whether she wants to have sex with him and her attraction/desire of him is irrelevant because since he was a decent human being the women he wants are obligated to have sex with himI know that this post isn't directed to me, but is it about me? If it is, you have no idea what you are talking about. I don't think the poster was being rude, but I don't think she was making you a serious offer either. >.> Yes I know she wasn't being serious, nor was the other poster who said she thought about it. Pity sex is a prostitute's job description. Definitely not. Simply because they charge. That's like saying a mechanic is pity fixing your car when you have to pay. A hooker giving somebody a freebie can be called pity sex. Link to post Share on other sites
poodle Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I think it's a rude thing to say. To me it means that someone should be willing to please someone without gaining any pleasure from it and perhaps feel disgusted while doing it. Nobody deserves that kind of pity treatment when there are plenty of people left who'd be happy to have sex with you without thinking they're just doing you a favor. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I think it's a rude thing to say. To me it means that someone should be willing to please someone without gaining any pleasure from it and perhaps feel disgusted while doing it. Nobody deserves that kind of pity treatment when there are plenty of people left who'd be happy to have sex with you without thinking they're just doing you a favor. I'd like to do you a favor! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Pity sex sounds gross and sad all around to me, but I don't think the poster was insulting you so much as summing up your mindset (especially since you seem to agree/think pity sex would help you). fwiw, there are several types of pity sex though and "He can never get laid" is just one type. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Either way, I've never actually had somebody offer that to me. And I'm almost a little surprised it hasn't happened yet. Its probably less common then it seems. We women are devious creatures. It may have happened to you and you just never knew it... :p:p 4 Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 "Pity" is a negatively charged word describing a negative emotional state regardless of who is feeling it and whom is the recipient of it. "Compassion" is a positive word describing a positive state regardless of who is feeling it and whom is the recipient of it. So it's no wonder that people describe the notion, real or imaginary, "pity sex" in generally negative ways. Asking a woman to give sex away is the same as asking a shopkeeper to give away their stock in trade. The shopkeeper will curse you, say all sorts of disparaging, even unfounded things about you, as will the woman. "How dare you seek to merely have what I make my livelihood selling richly every day!" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 We women are devious creatures. It may have happened to you and you just never knew it... :p:p I've said it before and I'll say it again he wouldn't know what to do with a naked woman if she fell in his lap. He pretty much needs a girl to rape him on some regular basis... any takers? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I've said it before and I'll say it again he wouldn't know what to do with a naked woman if she fell in his lap. He pretty much needs a girl to rape him on some regular basis... any takers? Nah - I like rape fantasies but not as the aggressor but the victim... Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Nah - I like rape fantasies but not as the aggressor but the victim... Yes well he wouldn't have such a problem if he had just a little male sexual agression in him... just a little. Like I said though a naked woman could literaly fall in his lap and I wouldn't be suprised if he tried nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Isn't the point of getting laid in part to find a woman who desires to have sex with you? Link to post Share on other sites
mtber75 Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Different opinions on what pity sex means. Pity sex generally means having sex with a person because you feel bad for them. The expansion often being you find the person pathetic and they can't get laid any other way thus you feel sorry and will grin it & bear it. Quite unsure of how common it is in general. I think it would be quite common as to me many guys often have an entitlement attitude towards sex and think women are holes to be used for their pleasure rather than human beings. Many of which said guys tend to be self proclaimed nice/decent/good guys who think by being a decent human being the woman they want should dole him out sex. The mindset is her attraction/desire for him is irrelevant as he was a good human so she needs to put out. It's not quite uncommon in my experiences/observations as I've known a few gals deemed unattractive by most guys who've done pity sex. I agree that the definition may mean different things...I do think that a woman will pity f*ck a guy that they already know because he's going through a bad time? Don't escorts or prostitutes do pity f*cking all the time? I suggest you try that route if your so desperate to get laid. Link to post Share on other sites
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