Author beenburned Posted April 2, 2012 Author Share Posted April 2, 2012 LFH, Did it ever occur to you that if she did find out her H was a long term cheater, she probably would divorce him, then you could have him all to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I think many of the "sucky parts" in some R's are because people settle. You know, like staying involved with someone who won't give your R his full attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I'm wondering why you would want a man with that kind of character? What good is a man with that kind of character? How could you have any respect for someone like that, or want him to be a part of your life? I just don't see the appeal that women are seeing from these guys. I understand FULLY Kathy what you are saying to LFH...but IF SHE IS Happy then who are we to judge? I just didn't have it in me anymore to be SECOND....and the lying and the denying was really getting to me...So I said GOODBYE!!!! But good for LFH....you know the old saying..."To Each His/Her Own!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
NotMolly Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Second by necessity. Not convenience. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Second by necessity. Not convenience. What do you mean....Not Molly...I am confused...maybe too much merlot...can you explain? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I understand FULLY Kathy what you are saying to LFH...but IF SHE IS Happy then who are we to judge? I just didn't have it in me anymore to be SECOND....and the lying and the denying was really getting to me...So I said GOODBYE!!!! But good for LFH....you know the old saying..."To Each His/Her Own!!!! Happy, but with "sucky parts." Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Well it's your thread, so you must not mind the tj, so I'll respond. If she does divorce him, she's divorces him. At that point, yes, I could have him to myself, but I won't tell him he has to pick. Nope, not just OW. I guess it's some view of society, some from working with the public and some from readings. Plus I think anyone that finds their way to "relationship sites" is generally not 100% happy with their relationship unless they are brought here for some specific reason. Or because of lack of communication, or long work hours, or financial worries, or parenting styles, or inlaw issues or any number of a million other things. But yes, I agree, sometimes relationship issues exist when one feels like they are settling. Thank you Lostinlife4now. I appreciate the support but standing up for me in any way will probably just make people argue with you. She thinks my Alex is her husband. She's wrong, but she is avoiding logic. She's been claiming so since November... but if she really thinks so then you'd think she'd have done something by now right? Plenty of time to have gathered evidence, reached out to an attorney, checked her cell phone records at the least, or asked her husband, whatever. I don't care if people ARGUE with me...This is what I think and feel....If you are happy..then so be it...Who Are WE TO JUDGE? Alex...who's Alex..and who is She? Oh my, I AM SO FREAKIN LOST!!! LOL... Link to post Share on other sites
SidLyon Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Notmolly thinks that LFH is her husbands mistress. LFH has a blog that was discovered by notmolly. Alex is the mm's name in LFH's blog. *Info gathered from older posts by both of them. As to what is true.......It sure would be interesting to find out, wouldn't it? Yes it would be nice to know. As I recall NotMolly thought LFH was her H's OW which LFH denied. Surely if it were the case then they would have had a massive d-day by now? LFH is still blogging occasionally on her "Little Floozy Homewrecker" blog (hence the LFH name) and has not mentioned a d-day. So either LFH is not the OW in NotMolly's marriage or, LFH is pretending there has been no d-day. I would imagine NotMolly could enlighten us but appears to be choosing not to. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Notmolly thinks that LFH is her husbands mistress. LFH has a blog that was discovered by notmolly. Alex is the mm's name in LFH's blog. *Info gathered from older posts by both of them. As to what is true.......It sure would be interesting to find out, wouldn't it? I can tell you just how bothersome the "sucky parts" appear to be based on some reading I've done. Link to post Share on other sites
NotMolly Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I can tell you just how bothersome the "sucky parts" appear to be based on some reading I've done. I know that too. I confronted Alex and he denied having an affair with her. He admitted that she is a sad and lonely creature and he talks to her occasionally because he feels sorry for her. He's became more loving and attentive to me especially when making love. I know there is something going on. I'm becoming more computer savvy and will catch them. I still have to think of our kids too. She chose a good name for her blog because it's true. Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I can tell you just how bothersome the "sucky parts" appear to be based on some reading I've done. So all is not well in paradise? Shocking. Could one assume the cheating is continuing by reading a blog? Back to reading. Link to post Share on other sites
NotMolly Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 She said he asked her to quit the blog. She thinks he cares about the comments but I know it's because he doesn't want me to be more suspicious. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 She said he asked her to quit the blog. She thinks he cares about the comments but I know it's because he doesn't want me to be more suspicious. Oh no no no....LFH is just a very general term....I can not even begin to understand any of this...Bu the world wide web...is just that world wide....finding the OW on any of these sites would be like finding a needle in a haystack...But then again....I could be dead wrong....I would hope that not be the case. If so...alot of OW would have had many many d-days! What happened to being anonymous???? UGH!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 She said he asked her to quit the blog. She thinks he cares about the comments but I know it's because he doesn't want me to be more suspicious. Can't imagine being in your shoes, lass. The wondering what is true would drive me mad. My heart goes out to you. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Thank you KathyM. Your posts ring Very TRUE!!! And he did get away with it...and He will cheat again! He has to....it's just the narcissism in him. He or W WILL NEVER LEAVE THE MARRIAGE NO MATTER WHAT! They have small children and LIVE THE HAPPY FACADE!!! for all to see.... I remember back when he and his family were at a neighborhood party...and I laughed and said "WHAT"? are you playing the happy little family....It made my stomach turn...How in the hell can you be around your peers and have no conscience about what you are doing? I guess I do have a conscience.... Oh and I texted him...."SCUMBAG"....lol... Wouldn't you just like to blow away that false facade? You know you want to. You'd be doing her a favor. Both the women I know who were given a phone call by their husband's OW appreciated the information. Information is power. Deceit and lies take away the wife's power to choose how she wants to live her life. You are giving this guy all the power in this, and he doesn't deserve to be in that position. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I understand FULLY Kathy what you are saying to LFH...but IF SHE IS Happy then who are we to judge? I just didn't have it in me anymore to be SECOND....and the lying and the denying was really getting to me...So I said GOODBYE!!!! But good for LFH....you know the old saying..."To Each His/Her Own!!!! Well, I think she's cheating herself (no pun intended) out of a life she could have with someone who has more to offer. And I think she's enabling a man to be an ass. And she's hurting a wife and family in the process. So I can't really agree with "to each his own". I think a world where people only live for themselves and have no care or regard for how their behavior affects others is not a good place to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
findingnemo Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 She said he asked her to quit the blog. She thinks he cares about the comments but I know it's because he doesn't want me to be more suspicious. I read the blog, NotMolly. If it is your H, you tipped your hand when you made a comment. So I wonder...wouldn't you have caught them by now? Back to the topic.... I have no idea what BS' should look out for if an A is continuing. I'm just reading along. Link to post Share on other sites
Author beenburned Posted April 4, 2012 Author Share Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks to everyone for all these great posts! I am leaving to go on vacation today. I don't know if I will have internet service where we will be or not. Will talk later on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks to everyone for all these great posts! I am leaving to go on vacation today. I don't know if I will have internet service where we will be or not. Will talk later on.Have fun on your vay cay! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks to everyone for all these great posts! I am leaving to go on vacation today. I don't know if I will have internet service where we will be or not. Will talk later on. Will umbrella drinks be involved? I'll have two, please. Have a wonderful break. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Since a whole gamut of posts since my last admonition to remain on-topic have appeared to be 'on vacation' from it, let's all enjoy this break and have some great umbrella drinks. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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