Is my ex on the rebound?

[Confusedguy1988]

So I have been taking xanax for the past week and my ex just found out yesterday when he got home and saw them on my night stand. He showed a little concern but I told him not to worry about it so he dropped it. I sort of had a minor setback when I drunkly called him a couple days ago while he was with his new guy and told him that he was ruining my life and that we could no longer be friends. He came home the next day and the tension was high. He confronted me about eating the rest of his leftover pizza and then told me that i should replace the pizza with a quesadilla. He subtly changed this to lets go out to dinner so I agreed. We talked about the previous night on the ride there and when we got to the restaurant. He spent most of the dinner talking about his new guy which almost put me over the edge. My sister had asked me to come home to watch game of thrones so when we got back to the apartment I told him i was gonna spend the night at my parents. We sent a couple texts back and forth last night about casual stuff and i went to bed. He text me this morning telling me that I can't drink if im on xanax. I told him that I knew that and that i appreciated his concern but that he shouldn't worry about me. I quickly changed the subject to game of thrones and we text about the episode back and forth for about 30 minutes. I feel worse right now than I did after the initial breakup. I just don't know what to do. Our lease is for another 2 months and then hes moving in with his dad (which im kind of glad about because it doubles the distance between him and his guy). I'll be honest he does seem pretty happy right now but I just won't believe that all of his feelings for me are gone. We were hanging out all the time and hooking up until about a month ago. I felt like I was really happy when I was seeing my rebound. I've had so many talks with him but I feel like I just push him further away when we have a big talk and I just end up getting upset. I guess i should just let it play out?

[loversreunited]

Hey,

 

yeah I think you should just let him do his own thing. You arent giving him the opportunity to miss you as your always around to be there for him. He knows he can have you if he wants so he doesnt have to panick. Thats what I am doing with my ex. If he's smart enough to see what we had together he'll come back. If not its his loss not mine. I know im worth alot and you should be thinking the same way also.

[Confusedguy1988]

So minor update. Last night I went to a casino with some friends including my ex. We started drinking when we got to the hotel room. My ex drank way too much and was sort of a mess when we left. He kept being really grabby for most of the night. I slept in a king size bed with one of my friends and my ex had passed out on a chair. About an hour after I went to bed my ex literally jumped into bed with me and my friend and laid diagonally across us. I moved him over and then I had to get up and go to the bathroom. When I got back my ex had moved into the middle of the bed so I slept on the outside. I fell asleep pretty quickly. I woke up in the morning to my ex big spooning me. I'm gonna be honest as much as it hurt I let him do it. My friend had a conference he had to go to so he woke us up. My ex woke up for a minute and fell back asleep and grabbed me again. We drove home and I explained everything that had happened the night before. My ex was "mortified" and said that he didn't remember any of it and that he clearly just missed cuddling with someone. I left for work and he said he wanted to buy a lot of fruit. He was going to visit a friend after work and when I got home i txted him and asked if i could eat a tiny bit of his fruit. He replied of course you can, you can have all of it. Now if you know me you know that I love fruit and I think its really romantic. Now I don't want to look too much into things but I almost feel like he bought it for me. He also txted me all night tonight about what he was up to and even drunkly called me. ughh idk i feel like i look into things too much.

[ryukage99]

So minor update. Last night I went to a casino with some friends including my ex. We started drinking when we got to the hotel room. My ex drank way too much and was sort of a mess when we left. He kept being really grabby for most of the night. I slept in a king size bed with one of my friends and my ex had passed out on a chair. About an hour after I went to bed my ex literally jumped into bed with me and my friend and laid diagonally across us. I moved him over and then I had to get up and go to the bathroom. When I got back my ex had moved into the middle of the bed so I slept on the outside. I fell asleep pretty quickly. I woke up in the morning to my ex big spooning me. I'm gonna be honest as much as it hurt I let him do it. My friend had a conference he had to go to so he woke us up. My ex woke up for a minute and fell back asleep and grabbed me again. We drove home and I explained everything that had happened the night before. My ex was "mortified" and said that he didn't remember any of it and that he clearly just missed cuddling with someone. I left for work and he said he wanted to buy a lot of fruit. He was going to visit a friend after work and when I got home i txted him and asked if i could eat a tiny bit of his fruit. He replied of course you can, you can have all of it. Now if you know me you know that I love fruit and I think its really romantic. Now I don't want to look too much into things but I almost feel like he bought it for me. He also txted me all night tonight about what he was up to and even drunkly called me. ughh idk i feel like i look into things too much.

 

You know what they say booze makes the truth come down

[Confusedguy1988]

So everyone has been telling me that I should get out of the living situation. I've avoided him a lot this past week and it did seem to bother him that I wasn't around as much. I went home to my parents 3 nights and he was upset all 3 times that I went asking me why I was going home. He was actually supposed to go home this past thursday and changed his mind to go home wednesday because i was going home that night. I finally saw him Thursday night and he was following me around like a puppy but i avoided him for most of the night was really nice but distant. I went to bed early. Last night was my friends birthday and we had a party for her. My ex is allergic to vodka and one of the drinks he ordered when we went to dinner had some in it and he got sick about an hour into the party. He went to bed and I took care of him for about an hour giving him bread and water and checking up on him. He really appreciated it and he said I was the only person who understands and is empathetic for when this happens to him. A couple hours later I saw him answer a phone call (it was almost 1 am at this point) I pretended I had a phone call as well and followed him into our room. He was talking to his new guy and acting really nice and sweet to him on the phone. They were making plans to hang out the next night (tonight). Before we went to bed he asked me if i'd ever want to meet his new guy. I was so insulted and so i said no. I then told him that I was moving out and he asked why. I told him I just thought it would be best. We argued about it a little and he told me he was going to move home. We argued a bit and he told me he thought I had feelings for one of our mutual friends (the rebound i mentioned in one of my earlier posts). We finally went to bed and he woke me up the next morning before work. I told him that I was serious about moving out and so he left for work. He txt me a few hours later telling me that I should just stay and that he'll move out next week. He also asked what brought this up all of a sudden (I'm thinking he doesn't remember most of our conversation). It seemed like the shortage of contact bothered him. The past few days hes also mentioned things he wanted to do with me over the summer, go camping, go to the bars near his dads (his new guy is only 20 so he can't go out to the bars yet.), running a 5k with me etc. Should I just move home for the remainder of the lease before I move to my new place (about a month and a half)? Is that my best chance at getting him back? One thing thats nice. Where we live the drive is about 45-50 minutes to visit this guy. Once he moves home that distance is going to at least double.