SidLyon Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I'm not religious so I don't believe we have souls, but I do understand the concept of soulmate in a more secular sense. However I don't really believe in the idea of everyone having a soulmate. On the other hand I can describe someone as the "love of my life" and know that it is just one man, at that time. I also accept that it's theoretically possible for another to later become the "love of my life". With me it doesn't change with each new man in my life but for a long time I thought it was a particular man even though I'd had other partners. Later I came to feel that way about another, and I suppose it's possible that might be replaced in the future, but at this stage I can't see it given I'm now in my mid-50s and much wiser about such things that I used to be. It's more a feeling than a "fact" to me. Link to post Share on other sites
KeepMeInMind Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Regarding friends as soulmates, I think of someone that I immediately connect with and open up to as one of these. I can be very reserved with new people..I feel them out before I open up. But there are a rare few that I just clicked with immediately, but I cannot explain why. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
123321 Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 The soul mate myth is for people with soft heads and tiny little brains. Link to post Share on other sites
KR10N Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 When I hear the words "soul mates" I immediately want to . I don't believe in all that mushy stuff. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JoeyArnold Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Soul-mate means best friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tears_in_rain Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Soul-mate means best friend. You lose a lot of best friends having soul-mates. If the soul is the amalgamation of your heart and mind then finding someone that compliments or enhances your soul is great but when your soul feels betrayed / destroyed by that mating it kind of dents your belief in the feeling that things were meant to be or pre-ordained by the life, universe and everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Many responders seem to equate soul mate with life-long romantic partner, but from my reading, it could be a friend or co-worker or boss etc. (as I stated at the outset). At this point, I believe it is merely someone that your soul "recognizes" from a past life. I don't think it means much more than that. And it certainly doesn't mean in respect of a romantic soul mate, that one has to act on it or is even in a position to act on it. Such is the concept of the star-crossed lovers. Pass the poison, Juliet. One can be someone's soul-twin or soul-connected person or soul-mate but not do anything about it. For me the definition is now restricted to "someone your soul recognizes from a past life". what is the value in this recognition? ( I'm not trying to be snarky in asking that...I just would like to hdar more about what you mean) Link to post Share on other sites
JoeyArnold Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 You lose a lot of best friends having soul-mates. Having a Soul-Mate is less about perfection & more about commitment. Of course people are going to hurt & betray us. Soul-mates are still people too & they will still make mistakes just like everybody else. It is more about what we do & how we treat the other person that really defines who they really are to us. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toots Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 To have a soul mate you need to have a soul. I am not religious and don't believe in that life after death stuff. I think you are lucky if you find someone during your life who shares enough of your values and enough of your interests and enough of your experience base to want to connect with. If they are of the sex that you are attracted to and you find them attractive and they find you attractive then you are even luckier. And if you can develop and change and grow in synch with each other over time so that you don't get bored or start to dislike them or get irritated by them then you are very very lucky indeed. But I think it has to do with openness and opportunity and exposure and nothing to do with "souls". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KeepMeInMind Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I wouldn't believe in souls, either, probably, if I had not experienced what I have with a couple of deceased loved ones. Link to post Share on other sites
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