umcp23 Posted June 15, 2004 Share Posted June 15, 2004 this is my first post here, i just found this site the other day but here goes Im a 20 year old who has trouble connecting with anybody. I cant bring myself to talk to anyone simply b/c a big part of conversation even casual is relating stuff in your life; its hard when u dont really have anything to tell them. the people i manage to 'connect' with are just very casual acquaintances, not really going anywhere beyond classes/trivial stuff. and connections are always 1-to-1 and no relation to any other persons I already know. yes ive read stuff here and other sites about how joining clubs on a campus will let u meet people, but like ive said, conversing includes telling stuff happening in your life and that right there ends it. the worst part of this all is that the 'friends' i do have think im normal and that i actually do things when in reality i just go to class, surf the internet, watch sports and sleep. Ill be a junior soon and I dont even know where to begin to destroy this cycle. Its easy to say just get out there and do stuff but its extremely difficult to make friends when u dont have existing ones. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 15, 2004 Share Posted June 15, 2004 I dont even know where to begin to destroy this cycle get involved, be it volunteering for your pet cause, at your church or through a hobby. right now, you feel like you're stuck because your pattern of living hasn't really changed much, and getting involved gets you exposed to new ideas, new things, new people. It's easy to say just get out there and do stuff but its extremely difficult to make friends when u dont have existing ones off the top of my head, I can name one really good friend from grade school, and another handful whom I met in college or at work or pursuing an interest. My point? in order to make those friends you've got to be willing to go out and meet them, and be a friend in return, you just can't just wish for them but do nothing to have them. the connecting part comes with find that person or persons who you have a kinship with, which in turn leads to a kind of trust that you build strong relationships upon. Still, you've got to be willing to make the effort to find them and meet them. what are your interests? are you willing to pursue them to a point to where you get involved (i.e., you like sports; will you consider joining the city's summer softball league or the college intramural sports teams)? it all begins with that one step to get involved, even if it seems difficult at first because it's different from what you normally do. Link to post Share on other sites
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