Entreri Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 (edited) Here is a question I have asked myself for a long time. A mystery that has been eluding men for eternity. Why are women interested in men ? What is the most important need they want to fill when they get involved in a relationship ? I’m not asking what qualities they are looking for in men, this is a different question. Why do they accept to go through all the difficulties and problems of being in a couple. There has to be a concrete reason or gratification for this. I suspect it is of emotional nature but I’ve never received a clear answer on this. As a man close to 40, I can say that for the majority of men, the most important reason for which they get involved in a relationship is sex. There are exceptions of course, but for most this is the driving force that draws them to women. For a man, sex is the cornerstone of a relationship. Everything is built around it. But for women…? Edited April 4, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author Entreri Posted April 3, 2012 Author Share Posted April 3, 2012 Interested, not "interrested", sorry for the mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 companionship, protection, security, intellectual stimulation, and sometimes, sex. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Entreri Posted April 3, 2012 Author Share Posted April 3, 2012 companionship, protection, security, intellectual stimulation, and sometimes, sex. Except for sex, I could say the same about my dog ... Link to post Share on other sites
maybealone Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 (edited) I don't know about women in general, but for me, the list goes something like this: Sex, sex, support (someone to "have my back"), sex, companionship (knowing you have someone to hang out with), sex, sharing the feelings of desiring and loving someone and being desired and loved back, sex, someone to share good things with and to comfort each other about the bad stuff, and sex. And did I mention sex? Seriously though, men fascinate me. They are wonderful creatures, and I can't imagine a life without them around. Edited April 3, 2012 by maybealone 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Companionship is as important as sex to me. I had a super hot fiance that could cum at will but her companionship out of bed was untenable. We could have been so happy but she ruined it all the time and she had already ruined it with another guy and was divorced at 24. I met her when she was 25 and me 31. I could not overlook her betrayals of confidence and distrustfulness. It's all the much crueler to have her be so sexually adept and ready to rock n roll anywhere any time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Except for sex, I could say the same about my dog ... I have dogs AND a man. Not mutually exclusive. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Danie Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 “It takes a mighty good man to be better than no man at all.” I’d have to say that as a woman I’m not interested in *men* but one *Man* to be in my life. I am interested in sharing my life with someone, I’m not exactly sure why…there’s lots of surface stuff as to why like the sex, talking, hanging out, and such…but like I said that’s surface. There’s a part of me that goes much deeper than any of that. This is the part of me that I want to share with him. Not just any man but him. Not much of an answer but it’s my answer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MoneyWorld Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 It's instinctual. If women weren't interested in men the human race would die out pretty quickly. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 birds do it, bees do it....even educated fleas do it..... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I haven't figured that out yet...so I don't need no stinking man:rolleyes:. (P.S. this is a joke....I repeat this is a joke.) You many now return to your regular programming. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beenburned Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Entreri, Not all men are like you. You don't have to be married to have sex. Especially if you like to be with lots of different women, stay single! My H is handsome, smells good, gave me beautiful babies, loves me and the kids, protects us, supports us(both financially and emotionally), fixes almost anything that breaks, makes sure I'm satisfied sexually, and much more! It is great to have a partner in life, through good times and bad! He is my family! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 But for women…? Security.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Entreri Posted April 4, 2012 Author Share Posted April 4, 2012 “It takes a mighty good man to be better than no man at all.” I’d have to say that as a woman I’m not interested in *men* but one *Man* to be in my life. I am interested in sharing my life with someone, I’m not exactly sure why…there’s lots of surface stuff as to why like the sex, talking, hanging out, and such…but like I said that’s surface. There’s a part of me that goes much deeper than any of that. This is the part of me that I want to share with him. Not just any man but him. Not much of an answer but it’s my answer. As a matter of fact, it’s a very insightful answer: a deep connection to someone very special. In my own words, I call it love or a facet of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 1. Money 2. Money 3. Money 4. Companionship 5. Sex Link to post Share on other sites
findingnemo Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 For me it's companionship and good sex. The two are of equal importance. I can't stand shallow people and I can't stand bad sex. The other reasons once I have a man include physical security and the ability to do the things I can't. He must compliment me. I won't handle car issues or deal with mechanics. I need the man in my life to do that. If there isn't one, I'll find my brother or whichever responsible man is available. I don't do snakes, or negotiating for major purchases unless I must. So... 1. Companionship 1. Sex 2. Physical security 3. Doing manly things ie. be the head of household in all ways. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I am a very independent woman so contrary to findingnemo I don't mind taking care of some manly things myself (or I pay a professional to do it). I am also very attached to my financial independence. I would however like to have a man in my life who takes care of me in the emotional sense. Someone I can come home to. Someone who really cares about my wellbeing, someone who likes to make me happy. Someone to be intimate with, to share things with. Someone who is my best friend. I do no longer have contact with my family so I am all by myself. I am doing great, I am a strong person. But I long for someone I can come home to. Someone who is happy to see me when I come home in the evening and makes me feel safe and secure. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 He must compliment me. Like.... "your a$$ is looking mighty fine in them jeans?" lol Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 ill say this again for me its just love, in this day and age there isnt anything else they could give. the average man is no longer capable of doing those manly things like fixing or what ever, you have hire someone to do it. money i make more then enough for everything i could ever need, beside i could never accept money from someone else not even my parents any more. and im also celibate so i dont need sex either, probably why iam single because no man is interested in love alone! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 The first thing is always lust/sexual attraction. Otherwise the man is always just a friend. Second for me is adventures. I like a man I can have an adventure with. Then it's companionship, security, that 'special' feeling you get knowing someone is there. Link to post Share on other sites
Kuen Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Women are interesting, a companion, a friend and a mate because men will not be satisfied without women. So Women is very important in universe. Link to post Share on other sites
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