username123 Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I met someone travelling about 8 months ago and we ended up travelling and staying together for couple months and people actually thought we'd been together for years because we get on really well... Anyway, she had to go home and has just come to visit me and we were living together again for about a month when she said she wants to marry me! I said it's too soon to be thinking like that, just because she has to go home again in a couple months because of her visas unless she gets married... Is it because she loves me? If I do marry her, how would I ever know if she really wanted me or my citizenship? Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 look her in the eye and see if she answers you and looks into your eyes or not, just chuck the question at her unawares no warning, she might like you for real, watch her body language, twiddly toes gazes averted involuntary gestures are body language giveaways of deceit much on-line about this or will she look radiant, imediately lit up at the thought of a special forever romance? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 Is it because she loves me? If I do marry her, how would I ever know if she really wanted me or my citizenship? Easy - don't get married and offer to move with her to her country and see what her reaction is... If she would live anywhere in the world with you, then she really loves you but if she wants to stay in your country then you should be suspicious. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
InBloom Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 I totally agree with CarrieT. I've know guys from school when I studied abroad that dated girls from Italy and two of them really wanted to get Visas so they hinted marriage rather quickly in their relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
setsenia Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Great point CarrieT! That's what's difficult about getting married when you're only on visa. I think since visa's are temporary, you cannot be entirely sure their reasoning for marrying you. It could be both, but a green card is a huge bonus. From my dad's situation, I know for a fact he married her to help her get her green card and get her daughter into the U.S. Now that he's dating again, he's met recently immigrated women that do have residency, but a lot of them have a relative in a foreign country they are trying to bring over, usually a child. In this case, it's easy for them to get the child over here if they get married and the citizen "sponsors" the child. Link to post Share on other sites
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 2, 2012 Share Posted May 2, 2012 easy.. offer to marry her at her home country Link to post Share on other sites
gabrielly Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 You must say it straight!Dont lie,say what you think about this!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted May 30, 2012 Share Posted May 30, 2012 look her in the eye and see if she answers you and looks into your eyes or not, Hahaha, are you kidding me?? If you ask that question, even if she TRULY loves you, she will be upset, I PROMISE. You can not ask that question and not expect to get a nasty response. There isn't a woman alive that wouldn't be mortified by being asked that question. Actually, the only way you may get a truthful response is if she does not get pi$$ed off for you asking that question. Link to post Share on other sites
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