LK30 Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 I can't believe my changing fortunes with women. I had a really good weekend last weekend and was floating on air. I had a text from a 21 year old who I sporadically text and she messaged me on the Friday evening asking how I was. Another 21 year old who I was having a bit of a fling with (but she lost interest in me) Facebooked me to say hi. My friends were in Florida and a girl in the group (20 years old) Facebooked me to say she fancied meeting up when she got back, and another girl (also 20) I met through youth work has taken a shine to me (although she has a bf but she does seem to flirt a lot). I also had a date lined up for the Sunday having met her speed dating. I'm 32 and people say I look young so perhaps that's why I get interest. Anyway in the past few days the 21 year old (who messaged me Fri)...we arranged to meet Monday (yesterday) and she cancelled on me a few hours before. The girl I had a fling with is moving back home (3 hours away) next week. The 'Florida' girl...I messaged her asking her what night she wanted to come round as she was keen to have dinner and I promised to cook for her, well she said she's not sure she can make it. The girl with the boyfriend doesn't matter too much but that's a no hoper anyway I guess. One other woman (in her 40's) messaged me too to say hi, atlhough I pushed her away last year as she's married so in some ways I'm proud of myself for being strong. The girl I met speed dating was nice but there's no long term opportunity. I suppose I'm just lost as to how I've gone from such a high, feeling wanted and getting lots of attention (perhaps just an absolutely freaky coincidence they all got in touch at the same time) and now I'm on a real low. I've come to realise I should just keep away from these girls but I just don't know where I'm going wrong! It's not like I told them all I'd get them round and lock all the doors!! I thought I was just being nice! I feel doomed about ever finding a lady who really wants to care for me and not keep letting me down. Perhaps I deserve it, where am I going wrong and am I sending out the wrong signals??? Link to post Share on other sites
silvermane187 Posted April 3, 2012 Share Posted April 3, 2012 http://assets.diylol.com/hfs/c42/1c6/3e1/resized/creepy-willy-wonka-meme-generator-20-year-old-chicks-giving-you-a-hard-time-you-must-have-it-sooo-bad-2ebe33.jpg What do you expect from 20 year old girls? Date women your own age if you want maturity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LK30 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Share Posted April 3, 2012 I wish it was that easy! Where are all the mature ones? Not interested in me for sure!!! The girls in their mind and late 20's all seem settled down and I'm not that good looking. Even one of the 20 year olds said to me 'the reason you haven't got a girlfriend is because girls think you already have one as you're so lovely!' I wish!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 You probably won't find anything serious with a 20/ 21 year old. I briefly went out with a 21 yr old when I was a couple of years older than him. Far too much immaturity for me! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Oh and I would be so happy if a guy offered to cook. That's very hot lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Your ego got a proper feeding from all these young girls and you allowed it to build up in your head and then release all those happy feelings. Then these girls change their mind (as we all do from time to time) and suddenly that ego had no food, only scraps of memories. Don't worry about it, instead of being a glass half empty type, look on it as you got interest from young girls. Okay, nothing came of it (so far) but at least you had interest. I get the same and I do understand that ego boost it gives you, but you really have to remember what it's like being that age - your life is moving a mile a second and you want to do everything, all at once. Next time this happens (and it will happen again) just be nice and happy it happened, but don't over think it and let them come to you. If they suggest meeting up, agree and leave it with them letting you know when. Leave the ball in their court. If something happens it happens, if not, so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
liverpool fc Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 You probably won't find anything serious with a 20/ 21 year old. I briefly went out with a 21 yr old when I was a couple of years older than him. Far too much immaturity for me! couldnt agree more, the more years apart - the more chance of getting a silly one, being 11-12 years older means most likely you will not find one that is beyond her years. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 you want advice on dating a 20 year old? ignore her. fastest way to make them more interested in you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LK30 Posted April 4, 2012 Author Share Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks guys, some good responses there..smudge - cheers as always, you know my story! I just reckon there was some sort of baby boom 20 years ago as everywhere I go I see girls between about 18 -22 and hardly ever spot girls in mid to late 20's!! Crazy I know!! I don't want to ignore girls really as I'm too tired to play games and I'm not sure it works. I want to give a girl attention and feel wanted!! Link to post Share on other sites
casanovadude81 Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 You're supposed to enjoy younger women not turn into hard work! Just relax and keep on keeping on. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks guys, some good responses there..smudge - cheers as always, you know my story! I just reckon there was some sort of baby boom 20 years ago as everywhere I go I see girls between about 18 -22 and hardly ever spot girls in mid to late 20's!! Crazy I know!! I don't want to ignore girls really as I'm too tired to play games and I'm not sure it works. I want to give a girl attention and feel wanted!! oh i know what you mean dude, but trust me, regardless of how i appear...haha...i'm a very nice guy. too nice. you NEED to back off and let people chase you. at least find a balance. girls want a challenge as much as guys. i don't mean "play games" i just mean don't jump everytime they say your name. be busy once in a while and don't return a call for a day, and don't text back within 20 seconds. makes them wonder. Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 why the hell are you chasing girls 10 year younger then you? stick to women your own age, (there's a difference between women and girls) that what you should be looking for someone grown! as 20 year old girl i get creeped out by guys your age hitting on me. the seem to have gone through their 20's f'ing around with lots of girls. and now they want a young girl with no life experience to have a ltr with. it pisses me off. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LK30 Posted April 4, 2012 Author Share Posted April 4, 2012 Irin - I think you've misunderstood!!! I can see why as the post has swayed towards people giving me advice about how to attract younger women. My whole post was meant to be about the frustration of keep attracting younger girls! Of course I don't chase, or want to chase girls in their early 20's! I'd really like to meet one of my age but all I get is the younger ones befriending me and the ones my age don't give me a second glance. I just don't know why this seems to be happening. The ones I do know I was happy to be friends with so I have no probs meeting up for drinks etc but they're a let down anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Share Posted April 4, 2012 My friend, i can see your problem..... 25+.. looking to settle down, have a family, or they're career girls.... 30 - taken or established, and if their bio-clock is ticking, looking for a suitable mate.... or they already have a child or two under their belt.... 35 - 40.... set in their ways, they know what they want - and they'll either be quite demanding attention-wise - or they'll chew you up and spit you out.... 45 - 50: oh you have to be kidding! What, 30? you're just a whipper-snapper, what do you know about what we women want? young man, find a gal of your own age, and enjoy your youth - i got more important things to chase.... 55... I'm menopausal - you really wanna mess with me? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 why the hell are you chasing girls 10 year younger then you? stick to women your own age, (there's a difference between women and girls) that what you should be looking for someone grown! as 20 year old girl i get creeped out by guys your age hitting on me. the seem to have gone through their 20's f'ing around with lots of girls. and now they want a young girl with no life experience to have a ltr with. it pisses me off. yes, there's a difference in someone that age chasing a 20 year old girl, and a 20 year old girl chasing an older man. obviously you being 20 and showing repulsion means you wouldn't be chasing an older man. i personally don't like to limit my interests by a number. if i click with someone, i'll see where it goes. but generally as this post indicates, an older man trying to date a 20/21 year old who thinks they know everything and are totally mature...yeah doesn't work out so well. Link to post Share on other sites
irin Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 your thread title clearly indicate that you are trying to get with them! "Younger women are too much hard work" you must be confusing their friendliness or their invitation for socializing. if theyre interested you'd be with one now since you reciprocate. sure their are girls who like much older guys but honestly i can speak for my peers a lot of them dont, and girls generally dont do much chasing anyway. my best advice is you go after someone alot closer to your age and dont wait around for women chase or show interest in you! the worst can happen is a no! Link to post Share on other sites
Author LK30 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Share Posted April 5, 2012 Yeah don't get me wrong I enjoyed the attention as that was all I was getting and I fell for it like an idiot as they were calling the shots! I will certainly take your advice. I have a friend who has been single 10 years, but unlike him I've done online dating, speed dating, blind dates etc but no luck at all. Even my parents have said 'about time you find a nice girl!' It's not through lack of trying! That's the annoying thing about my brother as everyone loves him and he has no trouble meeting girls as he's got the looks which I lack! Everyone says 'dont worry Lee, you're such a nice person the right one will come along' but she hasn't! If I'd been like my friend I could understand but I've tried hard and not getting what I give! Which is probably why I get caught in the trap of soaking up attention from the girls in their early 20's and I'm grateful to be complimented by them. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 I'm mid 20s and single, we do exist! Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 I'm disappointed coz I would Love to date a 30 something Pom. Poms are cute Link to post Share on other sites
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