smallserenity Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Obviously everyone wants the Mr Perfect: tall, handsome, athletic, funny, rich, powerful, kind, loving, good with children, good with housework. He is the idol of all your friends and neighbours, and everyone's dream husband. Now we know that's too good to be true. Hence it begs the question, what did you look for in your man, and what are the 3 most important things that made you say "yes" to his proposal, and leave all the broken hearted potential boyfriends behind? Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Who says that's too good to be true? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smallserenity Posted April 5, 2012 Author Share Posted April 5, 2012 (edited) Haha, that's my conclusion after 26 years of husband searching, and many fruitless dates. I'll start with my list of who I would say yes to: 1. successful 2. healthy 3. kind/loving Edited April 5, 2012 by smallserenity Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 There are aspects of your original post that are meaningless to me, like being the "idol of" part and forward, and a few of the other earlier superficial traits. But this type of husband isn't a pipe dream, as long as you bring enough to the table. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Obviously everyone wants the Mr Perfect No, not everyone wants those things you listed. As far as I'm concerned: tall, handsome, athletic, Not necessary. funny Necessary. rich, powerful Not necessary. kind, loving Necessary. good with children Not necessary, but would be a deal breaker if he were a dick to children. good with housework Meh. I'm not so good at it, myself, so I don't require it of him. As long as he's not a slob, I guess. He is the idol of all your friends and neighbours Haha. No. Okay, let me answer your question now. what are the 3 most important things that made you say "yes" to his proposal -He is stable and hard working and loyal. Not fickle or flighty. -He laughs at my retarded attempts at humor and is quite funny himself. -He looooorves me so god damn much. And I love him back. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 1. He is hilarious. 2. I fancied him from his first word said and still do. 3. He is good to the core. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 1. Hubby is the most caring and nurturing man I've ever met. One thing I remember is early when we were dating, he came over and he apologized for being sad. He had just seen someone push a litter of tiny kittens out of their car on the street, and he'd tried to find a way to stop (from in his car) and get to them, but one seemed to get across the street and the others got traffic-murdered (it was a busy street -- kind of like a surface road highway - several lanes, 50mph traffic). I'm sure most people would be upset by that, but he was deeply pained. He is like that about things, and his compassion is definitely one of his sexiest traits. He's a great dog owner. He always helps people out (he's not one of those people who has compassion for animals but not people -- he shows the same compassion to humankind). This is probably the #1 reason I said "yes" aside from the obvious reason that I loved him, but that's not a trait. 2. Hubby is willing to communicate and really wants to understand me. We have misunderstandings, but no other SO I've ever had has been willing to stop a fight and try to understand what I mean before he gets upset. Hubby always does this. He always assumes 'the best' and that things are a misunderstanding (which they normally are) if we have conflict until he can clear up what my actual position is. He is very good at being calm and communicative most of the time. When either of us is being passive aggressive, he is okay with it being pointed out and us resolving it (as am I). As such, most of our "arguments" are really discussions. 3. Hubby is smart. REALLY smart. This also makes him funny, and successful, and ambitious, because all of that emanates from his intellect. Intelligence and a mind that is constantly and voraciously learning is important to me. Link to post Share on other sites
volkl1996 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 I hear this from woman 1) makes me laugh 2) makes me feel safe 3) is confident and ambitious 4) has interests outside the relationship And, I am attracted to the same in a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
happyme Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 1. Love 2. Love 3. Love ... which to me means attraction, respect and trust in equal mega dose proportions. ..... because he's kind, funny, honest, reliable, caring and strong. He's also UTTERLY gorgeous but that's an extra, I'd love him anyway. Money, success, ambition interests me 0%. Basically, because he's the best Link to post Share on other sites
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