trash_affair283 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Okay so when I met this girl she gave me the impression she was no longer seeing this dude, otherwise I wouldn't have even gotten myself into this situation in the first place. We've been seeing each other for about a month and things are going great! I really think I love this girl and she says she loves me. She's only 18 (i'm only 20) but we really feel strongly about each other. Anyhow, she's told me she wants to be with me, but hasn't really said she doesn't want to be with the other dude. Supposedly, he's going back to Germany where he came from in 3 weeks to go back to the SS I think and after that everything will be honky doory. But I really don't want to wait for that. I cannot stand the fact that she's sleeping with me, lying with me, laughing with me.... then going off to see this ****ing dude doing god knows what in the mean time... I feel like if she really feels the way she says/acts then she should break it off with this guy now. They haven't been together that long (less than a month) I don't know what to do or feel. Like I said I really like this girl a lot. I've been in plenty of serious relationships before but I truly haven't felt this way about another person before.. I don't know how to bring it up to her. I don't want to give her an ultimatum because that's simply unfair. But I don't know if I can keep on like this for 3 more weeks... I really need some advice... What should I do? TL;DR: Seeing a girl who hasn't quite yet broke off her previous relationship... supposedly he's leaving the country in 3 weeks but I don't want to wait that long. I feel like she needs to choose now who she wants to be with.. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Well you are likely setting yourself up for someone who will find someone else before they leave you because they are unable to be alone. I'd step back and create the boundaries here. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 I cannot stand the fact that she's sleeping with me, lying with me, laughing with me.... then going off to see this ****ing dude doing god knows what in the mean time... If you do not like this situation then what do you think the other guy feels about it? Having his girlfriend coming over to yours and banging your brains out? Oh wait, I very much doubt he even knows anything about you, am I right? I hate to break this to you dude, but you are the other man, not him. She is cheating on this poor guy with you. There is a well known phrase "if she cheats WITH you, she'll cheat ON you". This does not bode well for the future of your relationship. This girl has shown that she is a liar and a cheat. I feel like if she really feels the way she says/acts then she should break it off with this guy now. Indeed. And she hasn't. 2 + 2 = ... I don't know how to bring it up to her "Hi XXX, I am not prepared to continue a relationship with someone with has no moral fiber, is a liar and a cheater. Goodbye." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Way to go, PNP, tell it like it is!! Trust me, OP. Advice doesn't get any better than that! trash_affair283 - says it all, really..... Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 Okay so when I met this girl she gave me the impression she was no longer seeing this dude, otherwise I wouldn't have even gotten myself into this situation in the first place. We've been seeing each other for about a month and things are going great! I really think I love this girl and she says she loves me. She's only 18 (i'm only 20) but we really feel strongly about each other. Anyhow, she's told me she wants to be with me, but hasn't really said she doesn't want to be with the other dude. Supposedly, he's going back to Germany where he came from in 3 weeks to go back to the SS I think and after that everything will be honky doory. But I really don't want to wait for that. I cannot stand the fact that she's sleeping with me, lying with me, laughing with me.... then going off to see this ****ing dude doing god knows what in the mean time... I feel like if she really feels the way she says/acts then she should break it off with this guy now. They haven't been together that long (less than a month) I don't know what to do or feel. Like I said I really like this girl a lot. I've been in plenty of serious relationships before but I truly haven't felt this way about another person before.. I don't know how to bring it up to her. I don't want to give her an ultimatum because that's simply unfair. But I don't know if I can keep on like this for 3 more weeks... I really need some advice... What should I do? TL;DR: Seeing a girl who hasn't quite yet broke off her previous relationship... supposedly he's leaving the country in 3 weeks but I don't want to wait that long. I feel like she needs to choose now who she wants to be with.. Chicks like her just seek the attention, and the more the merrier! I've met plenty like her, they'll have only male friends, all would be close to her, some are her ex', usually those are good looking girls and the guys are just horny to get down with her so they orbit around. You can stay her doormat if you want, but don't think it will be better once he leaves. Maybe for a while, but just like she found you while she was with him, she'll find a new guy while with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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