girl234 Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 My boyfriend and i have been dating now for 6 months. He broke up with his girlfriend 1 year ago because she cheated on him and she is now moving in with the guy she cheated with. On the second month we were dating he kissed another woman. (He was hammered) I forgave him. When he kissed this other woman his girlfriend was at the same place at the same time and somebody told me that maybe he was trying to make her jealous but i didn't think that was the case since we had been dating for couple of months and she already had a boyfriend. Since we started dating his ex is always interfering us. She sent him a message one month ago that she still loves him and want's to get back together with him. He replied: You're drunk, talk to me in the morning, go home safely, take care. He didn't tell me about this until i found out my self. When he goes out with his friends and she is at the same club she always talks to him and hugs him or something like that which i think is totally inappropriate. I told him that i do not like it, and that i can't handle it. (She always talks to him when i am not around). The last time she spoke to him was last Saturday. He was at a club and he was dancing with my brother and his girlfriend. His ex grabbed his arm and my brothers girlfriend saw it and looked at her and then she backed out. My boyfriend tells me everyday that he loves me. He compliments me every time we are together but he bails a lot on me to meet his friends instead. (he meets them all the time) He always seems as if he doesn't even care that he is bailing on me and that hurts me a lot. So i would really like if someone could tell me if this is normal and what can i do about his ex? Is my boyfriend treating me right? Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 No your BF isn't treating you right. How old are you two? If he cared and was all-in to this relationship, he wouldn't be entertaining anything with his ex, he would tell her in no uncertain terms to EFF OFF. He wouldn't respond to her texts, esp "we'll talk in the morning" when she mentions getting back together?! Uhhh, inappropriate much? Anyway, you should have dumped him the first time he cheated on you. Yes he def prob was trying to make his ex jealous. How long were they broken up before you came into the picture? Sounds like you are his rebound, tbh. He sounds VERY invested in his ex. Link to post Share on other sites
The dot Posted April 5, 2012 Share Posted April 5, 2012 My boyfriend and i have been dating now for 6 months. He broke up with his girlfriend 1 year ago because she cheated on him and she is now moving in with the guy she cheated with. On the second month we were dating he kissed another woman. (He was hammered) I forgave him. When he kissed this other woman his girlfriend was at the same place at the same time and somebody told me that maybe he was trying to make her jealous but i didn't think that was the case since we had been dating for couple of months and she already had a boyfriend. Since we started dating his ex is always interfering us. She sent him a message one month ago that she still loves him and want's to get back together with him. He replied: You're drunk, talk to me in the morning, go home safely, take care. He didn't tell me about this until i found out my self. When he goes out with his friends and she is at the same club she always talks to him and hugs him or something like that which i think is totally inappropriate. I told him that i do not like it, and that i can't handle it. (She always talks to him when i am not around). The last time she spoke to him was last Saturday. He was at a club and he was dancing with my brother and his girlfriend. His ex grabbed his arm and my brothers girlfriend saw it and looked at her and then she backed out. My boyfriend tells me everyday that he loves me. He compliments me every time we are together but he bails a lot on me to meet his friends instead. (he meets them all the time) He always seems as if he doesn't even care that he is bailing on me and that hurts me a lot. So i would really like if someone could tell me if this is normal and what can i do about his ex? Is my boyfriend treating me right? Did this guy ever say anything to suggest he was committed to you? You're describing him as your "boyfriend", but does he see it that way? He may well think he's just playing the field and seeing several women at the same time. Either way, if you don't like his behaviour, your only option is to simply get out now. Trying to tell him what to do or check up on him will just make him go "underground", if you know what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted April 6, 2012 Share Posted April 6, 2012 He clearly hasn't gotten over his ex-gf and he isn't respecting you the way you need to be respected in a relationship. It also seems as if this relationship is more of a rebound for him. It is also very common for alot of guys that have been cheated on to not really take future relationships all that seriously, especially if they were involved in a long term committed relationship. This obviously out of not wanting to get hurt again - an "arm's length" attitude if you know what I mean.... Link to post Share on other sites
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