Am i wrong? should i accept?Is she right?

[mason 25]

so i like this girl and we have been going out for about 3 weeks but its not official yet .she tells me i am close minded because i dont agree the fact that she was sleeping around before she met me with more than 4 f#ck buddies i dont think acting like a whore is ok...she has been involved in orgys and three somes and has gay experiences and likes drugs but she stopped everything because of me quote on qoute. her reckless behaviour is normal she tells me its modern times that its normal. and im close minded she is 20 years old and im 25.. i have never thought reckless behaviour was ok.. i am not religious but brought up in a catholic based home i am having trouble accepting all this .I have always dated women that never do drugs not into partying haven't been through a lot basically. but as of the last years every woman i date is just like her and i had dumped them so i ask my self should i just accept? am i the up tight one? is this really normal there was a time when my thinking was right. now im starting to get confused i dont want to be single for ever. Is she a whore and no good? or is she acting like a normal american woman? can she be a good girlfriend? by the way i know all this because she told me and i check her facebook and told her of what i learned ..

[watsluvgot2dowitit]

The question is why didn't it work with any of the women that were what you wanted and how you liked? I'm just curious.

[g450]

Sad to say that yes this seems typical of American women these days. Its like they see no consequences for bad behavior. They are living in the NOW and are reaping the benefits of being a young female. Sadly though, your past always has a way of coming back to you later.

 

But thats not to say that there arent good women out there. There are. But all of them will have a history just as you and I have a history. My fiancees history is a bit tainted as well but its something that I chose to deal with in a mature manner because I know people can change. Especially when they finally find a good partner that fills their needs.

 

So yes some of the sleazy types can change and be faithful. But you have only been with this girl for a short time. Why not just cut your losses before you become too emotionally attached to her? Her tainted history might haunt you for the rest of your life if you decided to marry this girl later.

[january2011]

I think it's a bad idea to push this into a discussion about how a "normal American woman" should be acting.

 

Let's just focus on the fact that you don't like her sexual past. Considering her a "whore" suggests that your values are not compatible. I don't think you can continue dating her if you continue to think badly of her and are unable to get past how she lived her life before she was even with you.

[g450]

I love how being a total slut is considered and "incompatible value" LOL.

 

I can just hear it now: "BTW I thought I would mention that I had a threesome with your brother and your best friend. Im just an American girl and you and I just have incompatible values."

 

That should go over well.

 

But Jan is right. If this is a deal breaker for you now, it will always be a dealbreaker. Look for somebody with at least a shred of morals and self control or be strong enough to put her ugly past behind you. Just be warned that past behavior is almost always indicitive of current and future behavior.