dsw31 Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 Come on guys, I can't be the only one! Lol! My ex drove past my house when we first broke up (3 weeks ago) I know because he texted me asking where I was when my car was not in my driveway. I responded saying- "why do you care? So you can feel more comfortable if I am at home while you go through gigs?" He said "you're right-none of my business" & I don't think he's done it since then. My best girlfriend's ex drives past her house often.She dumped him & he just can't get over her over a year later. I gotta be honest though- I do drive past my ex's house.I don't even know why because it's not doing me any good really.If he is not home, I start to feel sick to my stomach & if he is home-there could still be a woman IN his house so, this really serves me no purpose.I know I have to stop but it's a compulsion. Who's with me? Anyone? WHEW!! feels good to confess! Now I just gotta find a way to stop! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
staringspace Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 Wow, I've never really thought about this before. I've never driven past an ex's house intentionally - it's mostly because I'm trying to get somewhere and that's the only way to it. Luckily, I haven't had to drive past my newest ex's house yet but it's going up for sale, so it won't be his for much longer (yippee!) I'd just try and stop yourself. I have other vices - I know he's posted on a forum we're both on before quite regularly, so these days I see if he's still posting (it's getting better though). It's all about breaking the habit of doing what you used to do - it's all part of moving on, and for as long as you drive past your ex's house, you won't give yourself the chance to move on as much as you like, perhaps. Link to post Share on other sites
ThatDudeXO Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 I can't be the only one! Lol! My ex drove past my house when we first broke up (3 weeks ago) I know because he texted me asking where I was when my car was not in my driveway. I responded saying- "why do you care? So you can feel more comfortable if I am at home while you go through gigs?" He said "you're right-none of my business" & I don't think he's done it since then. ! Bold: that made me lol Link to post Share on other sites
mike588 Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 I never drove by her house or wanted to...she dumped me for her ex. and I just couldn't....I didn't want to see a strange car in her driveway or her car not there in the late hours....it would have added to the hurt! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 This isn't something I've ever done, or ever would do, I've got more pride and respect for myself. Also, if someone's not interested in me, then I get bored with them quite quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 Never. Ever. In fact I altered a few of my routes to avoid that very thing. Why would I want to torment myself by seeing some dudes car in her driveway or worse, said dude walking out after a night of who knows what? I am not into self torture so, no thanks! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
M2155 Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 I thought about it once and then remembered the price of gas 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 My ex lives an hour away, but either he drove up her anyway or had someone drive past my house for him. He got all resentful because I had decorated for Christmas one year when I should have been focusing more time on him--his words. He described my decorations, etc. It was creepy. Especially if he drove an hour just to drive past my house. Link to post Share on other sites
lizardking8610 Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 When I was 17..... but seriously stop hurting yourself you are just reinforcing your distorted emotions for this person by doing things like this Lot's of people have done it! Lot's of people have also smoked crack! Be careful to not try to validate bad behavior because "other people do it" remember what mom said "if all your friends were going to jump off a bridge would you do that too!" Link to post Share on other sites
Sophie99 Posted April 7, 2012 Share Posted April 7, 2012 I once thought about doing so.. But then, I thought, if I don't see him, it'll be a wasted journey, if I do, he'll probably either see me (I don't think he'd believe that I just happened to be on his little road on the other side of town), or I'd see him really happy (maybe with someone else), and I'd be worse off. SO yeh that put me off! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dsw31 Posted April 7, 2012 Author Share Posted April 7, 2012 The thing that really makes it difficult for me is, I work in his neighborhood.I have to drive past several times a day anyway.I know his whole routine because he has ocd so,I pretty much know all the times of his comings & goings. But I'll still be honest-I sometimes drive past when I am not working.Did it last night around 11pm (saw his car was at the house & felt relieved-even though I have no idea what's going on inside of his house) Then I drove past again around 4 am & his car had been moved.I felt so good because I am 99% sure he drove by my house too,to see if I was home.I am pathetic! Link to post Share on other sites
ginastar Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 I do it all the time 2 Link to post Share on other sites
suchatrip Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 haha i drove past my ex's house once when we first broke up and i felt exactly the same.. "well, that helped me zero." my advice is take another route to wherever youre going so youre not even tempted to swing by. plus, imagine if that person happened to be outside and saw you.. that would create a little awkward tension 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HollyBolly Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 Come on guys, I can't be the only one! Lol! My ex drove past my house when we first broke up (3 weeks ago) I know because he texted me asking where I was when my car was not in my driveway. I responded saying- "why do you care? So you can feel more comfortable if I am at home while you go through gigs?" He said "you're right-none of my business" & I don't think he's done it since then. My best girlfriend's ex drives past her house often.She dumped him & he just can't get over her over a year later. I gotta be honest though- I do drive past my ex's house.I don't even know why because it's not doing me any good really.If he is not home, I start to feel sick to my stomach & if he is home-there could still be a woman IN his house so, this really serves me no purpose.I know I have to stop but it's a compulsion. Who's with me? Anyone? WHEW!! feels good to confess! Now I just gotta find a way to stop! I don't have to drive past my ex's place. She lives right across the street from me. All I have to do is look out my bedroom window. Yes, the bedroom we shared once together! Do I look? F**k, yeah! Almost everyday. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SerenityNow930 Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 I do it all the time. It's really not particularly healthy and that's how I found out that my ex has a new bf. That hurt even more so I'd say don't do it. In a related story I'm looking for a therapist for my obsessive thoughts and actions. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 Thats a bit stalkerish.. and not a good idea. Cease and desist. Link to post Share on other sites
SerenityNow930 Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 Yeah I know. I have issues. Link to post Share on other sites
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