lost1997 Posted June 16, 2004 Share Posted June 16, 2004 well where do i start i came home from a trip saturday and was hit with the new that my husband of 12 years wants a divorce i havent worked in 7 years because i stay home with my child now im having to move out because the house is in his name and he wants it all i get is a car that i have to pay for and some of the house stuff . he told me to just use the same lawer to make it faster and he want make it a ulgy matter i dont want to hurt my child but how am i going to make it for me and her he wants joint custody so there want be child support any help would be great Link to post Share on other sites
pocoestrella Posted June 16, 2004 Share Posted June 16, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font] Lost, Well for starters, you need to find out what the law in your state says... is this a no fault divorce state? Find out... Secondly, you cannot use the same attorney as your husband nor should you as that would be a huge conflict of interest... Third... seek an attorney of your OWN choosing right now! Just because your husband wants this and that doesn't mean anything, you know? I'm sure he would love to get out of the marriage and have everything given to him and for it all to go his way... but if he really thinks that's an option then he is out of his mind. Get legal counsel right now! Take money out of the account the two of you share or charge it on a credit card... but do it now to protect yourself. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Linlin Posted June 16, 2004 Share Posted June 16, 2004 I am no expert but form what I know: 1. DO not leave the home. If he wants a divorce, he can leave. You have the child. Do not uproot them. Try to keep things as stable as for them as possible. 2. Hire your own lawyer. Do not use his or sign anything without your own lawyer seeing it. Most places (check the courthouse) have somewhere where you can get free family law advice. 3. Put a hold on all the bank accounts, credit cards, lines of credit etc. Make sure that he doesn't leave you with nothing. 4. Since you were the homecare provider, taking care of a child and not working, (obviously you had this agreement) you are an excellent candidate for alimony and child support obviously. 5. Start documenting everything. Get an agenda book. Jot notes on phone calls, conversations, money etc. 6. Start some individual counselling. Hope this is a start to help Link to post Share on other sites
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