Itsnotsimple Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 (edited) I met up with a this girl I have known for about 5 years and havn't seen in 2 years (changed jobs and pursued college), but still maintained minimum contact. I was attracted to her since the day I first saw her, but kept my distance with respect that she was in a relationship and the career was considered long-term. We clicked pretty well and I could see signs of interests from her (shy type). I waited for a year before moving on, but sometimes she would bring up negative things on the way her boyfriend treats her in the relationship (emotionally abusive and immature). She is still currently in a LTR of 6 yrs. After a recent break up (I still thought and compared her to ex when were still dating) with my partner of 4 years she contacted me and somewhat comforted me. I also asked if she would like to catch up as I was kicking starting a new career in a different location far from the old workplace. We went out for dinner and chilled out with coffee pretty late for a couple of hours after work. Then towards the end, I took the initiative and confessed my feelings to her. Her response was: - I never thought you only saw me as a sister and I never knew you felt that way since you never showed it. - I'm very attracted to you in terms of looks from the beginning and I was very nervous seeing you today. - If I were single, I'd say yes. - I liked you back then, but like you even more now since you have matured. - It's good that you told me. Actions: - A lot of smiles (duck smile) and eye contact. - Never spoke about her boyfriend. - Crazy laughs. - Quite (nervousness) There are a lot of factors that she also needs to consider as I am 2 years younger (I'm 25) and I really do what to go the long haul if her if given the opportunity. I don't want her to end the relationship and advised that I just want her to be happy even if I don't ever get the opportunity (I pray the bf has changed and is treating her a lot better). The days following, she is still initiates contact with me via FB, Emails and Text. If she didn't show interests wouldn't she just slowly/completely cut me off? She's also still keen on hanging out. I just don't know what to do here, I feel like a monster trying to steal this girl from her boyfriend. Shes got very much got everything in a girl I like and I have never really held contact with a girl or liked someone as much as her. I'm intending on taking a break from relationships anyways, but don't know whether its a good idea to continue seeing her as I'd rather have her give the relationship 110%. Edited April 8, 2012 by Itsnotsimple Link to post Share on other sites
Author Itsnotsimple Posted April 8, 2012 Author Share Posted April 8, 2012 I also don't know whether I am being stringed a long either. Is she looking to know me more before she might consider leaving him (because they do have quite a history) and not make irrational decisions by jumping into the unknown? I can understand the difficulties of her choice and by the end someone will get hurt. I feel like this is too crazy to bother. Link to post Share on other sites
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