dennym89 Posted April 8, 2012 Share Posted April 8, 2012 Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months. she has a boyfriend of 5 months that is really into her but she tells me that she isn't that into him. she claims that she wanted to break it off with him before we got involved. yet she is still with him. i have hung out with her and him and the dude likes me. i know that what we are doing isn't fair to him, me and her. i know that she needs to figure things out with him before things can go any farther with us. im afraid and nervous to tell her this but i feel is an inevitability. but the signals are there that she would rather be with me. for example. i agreed to DD the other night for her and others. i got a call from a longtime friend that hes in town for a shot while. after i drop them off i go and hang out with my friend. she asks me to call her when i get home and i reply that im seeing my friend and it wont be for about an hour or so. she replies that if she would have known i wanted to see my friend that we could have cut the night a little shorter. i replied that i committed to being the driver before. and she replies that "i wish i committed to you 5 months ago". this is one of many correspondences that ive had with her that leads me to believe that we are going to be together, in my heart. in my head i feel these are just games and she is using me for something that shes not getting with her boyfriend. my heart feels like its being squeezed. they say alls fair in love and war but this seems like emotional torture. i need advise. Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 i replied that i committed to being the driver before. and she replies that "i wish i committed to you 5 months ago". this is one of many correspondences that ive had with her that leads me to believe that we are going to be together, in my heart. . She is playing you both and her words are like giving you a candy each time she wants you to come back like a happy puppy. She is not even engaged and much less married and you are OK with being her side dish ? She had the choice to be with you and she picked another guy so if you still keep illusions you are wasting your time while there are plenty of single ladies out there who have more integrity. If you want to fight for love, fight for someone that wants to be 100% with you in first place. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wannabdone Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 Not trying to use a line from Sheryl Crow... but "if it makes you happy, why the hell are you so sad". Emotional torture as you put it doesn't seem to fun. She's playing both sides, you know that. Don't stoop to the level of hanging out with a guy, meanwhile being with his gf behind his back. Not cool. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months. she has a boyfriend of 5 months that is really into her but she tells me that she isn't that into him. So rather than treat him like dogs***, why doesn't she let him go instead of humiliating him by cheating on him? she claims that she wanted to break it off with him before we got involved. yet she is still with him. And why do you think that is? She too chickens*** to tell him? Or is she feeding you a line of crap? they say alls fair in love and war Funny how you never hear anyone on the s**t end of that stick saying this. I hope you do end up with her. Everything is all fun and exciting for you two right now because you aren't with each other on a daily basis. You will hook up with this lying cheater, and sooner or later, she'll get bored with you and be telling some other guy that she isn't that in to you, and just can't bring herself to break up Link to post Share on other sites
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