My x-boyfriend wants to go out with my best friend!! What should I do???

[Jenny317]

[font=century gothic][/font][color=blue][/color]well my best friend's name is Shannon and we have been best friend's ever since we was 3 years old. And we both only fought 2 times throughout our entire life! And I also have an X-boyfriend Joseph we went out 2 times. We was going to go out again but joseph's lil' sister katie she is one of my friends. If she has a boyfriend, and me and joseph go out, she won't get mad at me but if she is single and we go out, she will be so mad at me! Well katie has a boyfriend right now and she told joseph that she was going to break up with him so joseph decided not to ask me out bc he don't want his sister to be mad at him. Well today I interduced Joseph to Shannon and Joseph now likes shannon. shannon likes joseph a lil' but she isn't going to go out with him because she don't know him well. Joseph knows I love him alot but he just really wants to go out with shannon. I just really don't know what I am going to do! I mean I can't be mad at shannon because she never had a boyfriend before. Well she had 1 before this year but he was from the computer and i hooked them up. When I heard about how joseph wanted to go out with shannon, i got off the computer and then shannon called me and I told her why I was so mad and then I started to cry. I don't mean lil' cry i mean big time break down bc it is like joseph thinks every girl is good enough to go out with him but me. What should I do?

[swtbonita]

how old are you?

 

and how old is joseph's lil' sister?

[supermom]

My best friend and I have always had an unspoken rule that we didn't date each other's ex's, especially once we started being sexually active.

 

You both need to be okay with it. You will most likely be friends still after this one is gone so your friendship should come first. It is all your decision between both of you.

 

good luck

[pocoestrella]

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Jenny,

 

Please don't be offended here... but you went out with Joseph 2x... so does that really classify him as your boyfriend?

 

Secondly... even if Joseph is or was your boyfriend, do you really want to date someone who's entire dating life hangs in the balance of his little sister? for real whats up with that?

 

Last thing here... I'm with supermom... there is just an unwritten rule, you don't date your girlfriends ex boyfriends...

 

At this age Jenny... guys will come and go but the relationships you have with your girlfriends often are forever.

 

Good Luck

[Jenny317]

well i am 13 turning 14 in sept. I knew joseph for 4 months by now and we can tell eachother anything. All Joseph talks about now is Shannon! The issue with his sister is that he don't want katie (lil sister) to get mad at him. And I know about the rule with no dating eachother's x-boyfriends but shannon had NEVER EVER had a boyfriend before and i feel a little bad for her.

[AprilIce1382]

Advice, Your 2 young to date!!! You should be only thinking about being with your best friend and hanging out and doing girl stuff and thinking about school and not boys!!! I understand crushes and stuff, but you know, friends first!! You will go through your whole teenage life thinking about boys and which one you'll date but your best friend must also remember, you come first instead of a teeange crush!!!

[Jenny317]

well I never though about it like that but my mom tells me the same thing all the time...and a slu* but she is a bitc* sometimes! Joseph loves me alot and I love him alot to. I do know what love means, it means passion for someone. You can't just go up to your boyfriend and say "oh yeah baby i love you" you freze but I tell if to his face loudly and proudly all the time well not anymore he tell me he loves me now everytime i won't tell him something, i will be keeping something from him and he knows what it is and he will be all like :"But baby...i love you...please???" It is so cute. My best friend Shannon I think told me that she don't think she is going to go out with him. But Shannon, Joseph and his best friend Joe is all comming over my house on Friday or Saterday! But shannon is going her own way bc she never meet Joseph before! But sometimes I think I made a mistake about introducing Shannon and Joseph! That was the WORST thing I had ever done!

[kirkyswife]

I concur - way too young to date but I don't want you to think you are being put down realize this - a best friend is someone who doesn't need to be told that an unwritten rule exists between girlfriends which means that we don't date each other's ex boyfriends EVER.

 

But sweetie realize this, you have plenty of time to deal with the ups and downs of dating and relationships - focus on getting to know who you are, what you like so when you do come of the dating age you will have an idea of the kind of guy that you might be interested in getting to know. Remember, you have plenty of time for all of this - don't rush because you can NEVER go back. Enjoy this time while you still have it. I know it seems like there is so much you can't do or everything is not fair but trust me - when you spend your time rushing to work to work for a company you partly like just to make sure that you pay your rent, car payment, insurance and student loan you'll wish you were 14 all over again.

 

And your friends they come and they go - you'll see the different levels of friends in the coming years just remember these crucial numbers 16, 18, 21, 25, 28, 30 - these are major points in your life when important things happen to young women as they become women. Enjoy each moment and get to know yourself!!!!

 

Take your time - everything will fall into place Trust Me!!!