momto3boys Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 I am enraged that my soon to be ex husband didnt call our son on easter at all to say happy easter. He said he was going to send them something for easter but never did. He doesnt have to send them anything, thats not really what im mad about, but he could have at least called our son to say happy easter and ask if easter bunny came and what he got, etc. He calls maybe twice a week. This bothers me. I want to say something but anytime i do he gets defensive and mean. am i overreacting to being so mad about this? Should i just keep my mouth shut about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 I don't recall how old your children are? My thoughts are...the more this man is out of your lives, the better. Busted for drugs, infidelity...not much of an example that you'd want to have set for your sons, no? Be glad he's not influencing them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author momto3boys Posted April 9, 2012 Author Share Posted April 9, 2012 my boys w/ my soon to be ex husband are 3 years old and 5 months. it bothers me because my oldest son (is 6yrs old) and is by another man and his dad is really involved so my 3 yr old sees this and asks why his dad doesnt call often. i dont know what to say to him other than daddys working. Link to post Share on other sites
standtall Posted April 9, 2012 Share Posted April 9, 2012 mom...IMHO, dad not calling on Easter in itself is pretty minor, and not something to get overly concerned with, but this part it bothers me because my oldest son (is 6yrs old) and is by another man and his dad is really involved so my 3 yr old sees this and asks why his dad doesnt call often. i dont know what to say to him other than daddys working. is a problem. To help though, most of the readers here need some more info as to both of your ages, his/your employment status, did you two have a custody dispute/bad divorce, was his dad involved in his life..etc. So to start, I assume your goal here is to get the most recent ex more involved with his to biological children. First, ask yourself a couple of things..have you expressed your concerns to him in a straight forward manner? Maybe he is not aware of how he is making the 3 yr old feel. Also, are you keeping the relationship stuff between you and him separate from his parenting time? He may be avoiding the situation so he doesn't have to deal with the relationship with you. Lastly, if he is young and his own father wasn't involved with him, he may not know how to connect with them. These are just a couple of things to consider, but without more info, the responses to your thread may be limited. Link to post Share on other sites
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