He never loved her so why did he go running to her?

[skywriter]

Me saying ill leave him makes him suicidal he must love me

 

 

If that's love, I don't want to be loved.

[PeineDeCoeur]

Speaking from the true horrific experience of living with a seriously depressed and suicidal person - if his threats are real, the only thing you can do for him is connect him with your community mental health supports, or a doctor, and see that his family knows (if they can help him). If he is truly suicidal, he could be ill and is NOT ready to have a healthy relationship with you anytime soon. THIS IS NOT PROOF OF LOVE.

 

If he is not suicidal and this is an empty threat to keep you invested.. he is a drama-seeking POS. Dump, run and don't look back.

[nofool4u]

My boyfriend of 7 years met someone else when we split up and i decided i wanted him back plus they needed somewhere to live and he was depressed so I asked him to ring her and tell her he wanted nothing to do with her and he still now living with me. He went back to her once when we had a fight and i kicked him out but she has no stable accommodation he has no where else and but ive said if they contact each other again i will leave him. He said if i leave him he will kill himself and he's proposed. She rang him to see if he was ok i answered and I have told her if i leave him he'll kill himself and ill leave if she calls again. Do you think theyll contact each other again ive changed his number? He never ever loved her.

 

So he probably tells you.

 

Here is the thing, I'd think you'd have a little more compassion for her. She didn't do anything to you. You wanted him back when he was with someone else.

 

You have another thread saying you HATE her and she was a rebound girl. Whats to hate? What has she done to you.

 

Sorry, but you sound like a spoiled child full of hate for someone just because you split with him and wanted him back.

If he ends up hurting this girl for you, then he deserves the hell that is going to be his life.

[wannabdone]

So he probably tells you.

 

Here is the thing, I'd think you'd have a little more compassion for her. She didn't do anything to you. You wanted him back when he was with someone else.

 

You have another thread saying you HATE her and she was a rebound girl. Whats to hate? What has she done to you.

 

Sorry, but you sound like a spoiled child full of hate for someone just because you split with him and wanted him back.

If he ends up hurting this girl for you, then he deserves the hell that is going to be his life.

 

 

See I was wondering how old she was... but it threw me off with the dating for 7 years.

[wannabdone]

Okay Jody, I saw nofool4u's post and read the "hate her" thread. Which was the same as this thread but different subject.

 

Why do you hate her? Your bf and you broke up and she dated him. So what?

 

And let me say this, if you have to change a sim card, and basically lock him up from keeping from contacting her... again why would you want him? hes not talking to her because he doesn't want to, he's not talking to her because you have controlled him to not be able to. So you have a man who can not have his own home, mentally unstable and can be controlled. What do you see in this guy?

 

Honestly, answer the question. Please don't come back with "he loves me".

 

Very hard to come on and ask for support and then when you are asked questions, you avoid them and answer them with statments of his love.

 

How old are you, btw?

[Jody005]

Okay Jody, I saw nofool4u's post and read the "hate her" thread. Which was the same as this thread but different subject.

 

Why do you hate her? Your bf and you broke up and she dated him. So what?

 

And let me say this, if you have to change a sim card, and basically lock him up from keeping from contacting her... again why would you want him? hes not talking to her because he doesn't want to, he's not talking to her because you have controlled him to not be able to. So you have a man who can not have his own home, mentally unstable and can be controlled. What do you see in this guy?

 

Honestly, answer the question. Please don't come back with "he loves me".

 

Very hard to come on and ask for support and then when you are asked questions, you avoid them and answer them with statments of his love.

 

How old are you, btw?

 

I'm mid 30's and its the 7 years i don't want to throw away. When i first met him he was sucessful working etc he still is sweet kind he always tells me how much he loves me, makes me laugh clever etc etc.... oh and sexy! Theres alot of memories he's just had a rough couple of years

[Jody005]

Okay Jody, I saw nofool4u's post and read the "hate her" thread. Which was the same as this thread but different subject.

 

Why do you hate her? Your bf and you broke up and she dated him. So what?

 

And let me say this, if you have to change a sim card, and basically lock him up from keeping from contacting her... again why would you want him? hes not talking to her because he doesn't want to, he's not talking to her because you have controlled him to not be able to. So you have a man who can not have his own home, mentally unstable and can be controlled. What do you see in this guy?

 

Honestly, answer the question. Please don't come back with "he loves me".

 

Very hard to come on and ask for support and then when you are asked questions, you avoid them and answer them with statments of his love.

 

How old are you, btw?

 

35 37 & she's in her twenties

[stillafool]

Now I understand why you are worried.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Have you given ANY consideration at all to the many responses you've received on your several threads?

 

If this guy is an addict of some kind, I urge you to go to Alanon or Narc-Anon.

[wannabdone]

I'm mid 30's and its the 7 years i don't want to throw away. When i first met him he was sucessful working etc he still is sweet kind he always tells me how much he loves me, makes me laugh clever etc etc.... oh and sexy! Theres alot of memories he's just had a rough couple of years

 

 

What are the rough couple of years?

[nofool4u]

35 37 & she's in her twenties

 

But you have yet to address your hatred for her simply because he started dating her.

 

And that attitude that you'd hate someone simply because they are dating someone you had split up with, and started a thread exhibiting your seething hatred for her, tells us about your character.

 

I hope he does end up leaving her. Sounds like she cares about his well being, but its obvious she deserves better. You and this guy deserve each other and all the crap that comes with it.

[Jody005]

But you have yet to address your hatred for her simply because he started dating her.

 

And that attitude that you'd hate someone simply because they are dating someone you had split up with, and started a thread exhibiting your seething hatred for her, tells us about your character.

 

I hope he does end up leaving her. Sounds like she cares about his well being, but its obvious she deserves better. You and this guy deserve each other and all the crap that comes with it.

 

I feel guilty for that

[Jody005]

What are the rough couple of years?

 

Just the last two

[wannabdone]

Just the last two

 

 

I understand the time frame of a couple of years meaning to be the last two years. I was asking what is he going through? I saw someone mention alanon.

[nofool4u]

I feel guilty for that

 

Well when did this happen? Because in previous threads you propagated your seething hatred for her, and also in this thread as well.

[wannabdone]

Well when did this happen? Because in previous threads you propagated your seething hatred for her, and also in this thread as well.

 

 

Jody, I am not trying to be harsh when I say this, but there are a lot of questions that have been asked of you and you give the 2-3 words statement that really doesn't answer any of them. I don't know if you are intentionally avoiding them for a reason. Lets not do this pull it out of you thing, why don't you share and open up and then some of the posters really might be able to offer you some thoughts on the subject.

[Jody005]

Jody, I am not trying to be harsh when I say this, but there are a lot of questions that have been asked of you and you give the 2-3 words statement that really doesn't answer any of them. I don't know if you are intentionally avoiding them for a reason. Lets not do this pull it out of you thing, why don't you share and open up and then some of the posters really might be able to offer you some thoughts on the subject.

 

I;ll have to come back and post the full story i suppose. Ive seen it befor where a woman savages all contact with her man and another woman and they end up fine because he has no choice but forgetting about her its what im hoping for. If they cant contact each other then they'll forget each other so im hoping hes forgot by now or is gonna give up cause he cant contact her because i will know about it

[wannabdone]

I;ll have to come back and post the full story i suppose. Ive seen it befor where a woman savages all contact with her man and another woman and they end up fine because he has no choice but forgetting about her its what im hoping for. If they cant contact each other then they'll forget each other so im hoping hes forgot by now or is gonna give up cause he cant contact her because i will know about it

 

 

I've seen that happen, but I often wonder how the final outcome will be. Years later. I guess I am different, if my H or BF wanted to speak to someone that bad...let him go. I would rather know he is with me and only me because he wants to be, not because of the limitations and restrictions that I placed on him.

But I guess to each their own.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I;ll have to come back and post the full story i suppose. Ive seen it befor where a woman savages all contact with her man and another woman and they end up fine because he has no choice but forgetting about her its what im hoping for. If they cant contact each other then they'll forget each other so im hoping hes forgot by now or is gonna give up cause he cant contact her because i will know about it

 

That's ridiculous, unless "your man" has the capacity to function of a toddler. Anyone can get in touch with anyone they wish to. There is NO WAY you can control it.

[wannabdone]

That's ridiculous, unless "your man" has the capacity to function of a toddler. Anyone can get in touch with anyone they wish to. There is NO WAY you can control it.

 

 

I'm starting to wonder if this is his capacity.....

[Forever Learning]

Girl I am so sorry,

 

If he loved you, he would make sure that he had far more to offer you then mooching off of you and threatening to kill himself, while dissing another girl.

 

it isn't love, it's dependence.

 

Read about Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend.

 

It helps, a lot. They also have a dating boundaries book.

 

Great book suggestions, thanks!!

 

I have heard Dave Ramsey, the famous "money saving man/ get rid of your debt guy" and creator of "Financial Peace University" here in the United States, mentioned this Boundaries book by Cloud, almost daily.

 

It must be a super book. I have been meaning to read it. Thanks again for mentioning it.

[Jody005]

Great book suggestions, thanks!!

 

I have heard Dave Ramsey, the famous "money saving man/ get rid of your debt guy" and creator of "Financial Peace University" here in the United States, mentioned this Boundaries book by Cloud, almost daily.

 

It must be a super book. I have been meaning to read it. Thanks again for mentioning it.

 

It's onlybbecause I don

[nofool4u]

And as for the title of this thread "He never loved her".

 

Ya, thats what you want to believe so badly. He may not have loved her, but the title of the thread is wishful thinking on your part. If he didn't love her, his choice would be simple right?