sid3 Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 I am wondering exactly what letting go means. I'm sure there are alot of different view points on this subject. I know the if you love someone set them free, and the if it was ment to be sayings. But what I am trying to find out is what the pyschological and emmotional thoughts should be. I am struggling with letting go, need help with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 I suppose I might still be in the process of it... but I think what it means is that you have to let your ex-partner do whatever it is they feel they have to do... without interfering or getting in the way. That means that if they are seeing someone new, you can't pressure them or say "I can't believe you're choosing that a**h*** over me," or anything to that extent. It's tough... but I guess sometimes things work out for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Watch the beginning of Cliffhanger, starring Sylvester Stallone and Janine Turner. Link to post Share on other sites
Phelly Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 when you love someone, you're addicted to them. I feel that letting go is...to alleviate that addiction. Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin Watch the beginning of Cliffhanger, starring Sylvester Stallone and Janine Turner. You're better off telling him to stick his junk in a blender... Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 i believe its just not having any contact with them...just not having anything to do with them. i still believe in the if you love something let it go if its meant to be then it will be. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetadeline Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 I'm struggling with this one too. But I think it means that you finally put the focus back where it should have been all along: on yourself. You stop wondering what the other person is doing, or if h/she is thinking about you. You stop dissecting all of the little details of the breakup. You start remembering that you had a pretty decent life before you met this person. Maybe you resume activities that you were involved in before you met this person. And finally, you start to realize that you have learned some things from the experience, that you don't remember the last time you thought about the person, and that you can even be glad that you knew the person, regardless of how things turned out. Well, maybe that's overly optimistic. But I'd say that you know you're letting go when you start noticing at least some of these behaviors. Based on my experience, though, the process involves one step back for every two steps forward. So just remember that even if you lapse back into being sad at times, you're still healing. Link to post Share on other sites
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