zanzi Posted April 10, 2012 Share Posted April 10, 2012 Im a college student, have been saving, still quite poor. Im saving to go back to England. ( I live down under) And people say to me "make it a goal" but to me, it means everything and getting back there is all I think about. I think I equate it with my happiness, about six years back my family emigrated when I was fourteen ( minus my birth dad) and I have never gotten over it, or gotten over wanting to go back. But Instead of getting a job and working towards it, I wandered in circles for a few years sort of mindlessly before getting serious and life/personality changing dehablilitating depression. Ever since then it had always been " poor me," or " i'll never get away", or " every body elses lives are better than mine." and various suicide attempts and periods of hospitilisation. Refusing to take responsibility for my own life and wandering like an israelite complaining in a desert have made me the sick, unfulfilled person I am today. A kind of " ghost version" of the self who left the UK. I dont know if that kind of experience is normal. I dont think its GIGS. I think I just want a slice of what I feel like I missed. I have spent my whole life wandering in circles, never changing anything, not myself, or my outlook. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted April 10, 2012 Share Posted April 10, 2012 What does GIGS mean? Yes, I have heard about people who moved as mid teens and were not able to adjust to the new environment. It sounds like you have been through a lot. Well done you for staying in education. Do you still have family in the UK? All in all, I reckon that in reclaiming something/an aspect of ourselves I think it important that we aim to open ourselves generally to experience, otherwise the goal can become exaggerated and even damaging. Hence, I think what others have said to you about making it a goal to return to the UK is wise. Within this aim include many visits and see other places too. I hope you are being well supported with any mental health concerns and can envision how this would continue when you travel/move. I think working this out with family could allieviate many concerns, otherwise they may be worried that you will not have anyone there for you if you feel unable to cope. This is of course a common concern but can be quite stark if there has been past concerns about someones mental health. Also be careful that you are not holding your loved ones to ransom with this idea by not discussing your aims and centering everything onto this dream; don't burn your bridges when you leave. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted April 10, 2012 Share Posted April 10, 2012 GIGS = Grass Is Greener Syndrome. For him, the grass is greener over in England, hence why he might want to head back there. But I can relate to your story Z. I spent most of my life with that attitude. Even worse, I had a windfall of $$$ to make it a sustainable lifestyle (see previous thread below). Once I did change my attitude and get things in gear, the economy decided to tank, and thus I haven't yet gotten that slice of what I missed out on. Yet. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 I'd suggest reading the British papers (of all political persuasions) online so you know what's really going on. I'm sure things have changed since you left. Australia might actually be a better place to live considering what's happening in Europe in general. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 I'd suggest reading the British papers (of all political persuasions) online so you know what's really going on. I'm sure things have changed since you left. Australia might actually be a better place to live considering what's happening in Europe in general. *Eve looks outside*.. Nope, nothing untoward going on. Must be our Neighbourhood Watch system working well. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 If you are wealthy in the UK or Europe, you have nothing to worry about. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 If you've been unhappy, can't hurt to try it, provided you work towards it in productive ways. Sometimes just working towards something can be more helpful than the goal. Maybe England isn't all it's cracked up to be, maybe it is, whatevs. I can see why the OP wants to go back -- I can also see that part of it might be going back "to a simpler time and self" more than a place. Who cares? Something positive and productive to work towards is a victory in itself. We don't need something to be guaranteed to work to try it, do we? It's not like moving to a new (or former) country with gainful employment is a BAD goal. I've done it. Gives you perspective at the very least. And you CAN move back. It's not like Australia will sink into the ocean when she leaves. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 If you are wealthy in the UK or Europe, you have nothing to worry about. H'mmm... lack of American culture helps the most methinks. I don't know how you have the audacity to call British culture all the time!!!!! At least the British admit what they are crap at. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
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