turbo999 Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 met a girl on fb, at the time se had a bf so she told me comment on photos but not message her direct, i offered her a gift she refusewd. i comented on lots her photos and we had some good banter. then on her wall a few months ago it said relationship status single, so we messaged a lot etc xmas time i sent her some gifts as i only know trhis person on fb, in january i was near where she lived so i asked to meet her but shhe said she was tierd, i again sent a small gift. i got to know her really well recently, and bought her a gift, but this time i really wanted to meet her, i asked her 3 times and then she said i could come to a club she worked at, then she, by the way i have a boyfriend, her previous bf had returned for sometime,. she said he didn't care for her she always sad her mothers hates him etc and she mite be single again soon. I've asked for the gifts back as i think i been decieved, and she should told me and recieved gifts when with her bf, i don't feel good taking things back but i think i been taken for a ride? Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 You shouldn't have been sending her gifts. You don't even know the girl. Have you actually talked to this girl outside of FB? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 Dude, just chalk it up as lessons learned. Don't worry about the gifts. Go NC and move on.... Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 I've asked for the gifts back as i think i been decieved, and she should told me and recieved gifts when with her bf, i don't feel good taking things back but i think i been taken for a ride? My goodness. You should not have asked for the gifts back. You should not have sent her any gifts in the first place. And you should not give anyone gifts if you think it means they owe you something. Did you ever ask her out on a date? Did you ever ask if she was single? I'm guessing you didn't, so it was just two people talking to each other, with you taking it upon yourself to send her things. That's not taking you for a ride or deceiving you. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 WOW....I would have changed my opinion of FB long ago if I knew I had a chance at recieving gifts from random people I friended. OP, honestly, that's a lil creepy....lay off her before she calls the cops. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 11, 2012 Share Posted April 11, 2012 Gifts are gifts. If you're asking for them back then they were not gifts, they were LOANS. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 11, 2012 Author Share Posted April 11, 2012 You shouldn't have been sending her gifts. You don't even know the girl. Have you actually talked to this girl outside of FB? i know her over 1 year on fb Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 11, 2012 Author Share Posted April 11, 2012 Gifts are gifts. If you're asking for them back then they were not gifts, they were LOANS. accepting gifts from a man who thinks he's gonna get with you, and you already have a bf, insnt there bit disshonesty or something there? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 My goodness. You should not have asked for the gifts back. You should not have sent her any gifts in the first place. And you should not give anyone gifts if you think it means they owe you something. Did you ever ask her out on a date? Did you ever ask if she was single? I'm guessing you didn't, so it was just two people talking to each other, with you taking it upon yourself to send her things. That's not taking you for a ride or deceiving you. theres a bit of truth in what your saying, using my wallet to impress, i was due to meet her february i was in her country she asked me where who with etc, then she was too tierd to meet me, ok i just try be nice make her happy, but the last gift i sent i bluffed her and said i was in her town and wanted meet her then she mentioned the bf, if not she have accepted gifts untill i dunno, girls i met in the past would never take a gift if in a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 You shouldn't have been sending her gifts. You don't even know the girl. Have you actually talked to this girl outside of FB? no, just message Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 WOW....I would have changed my opinion of FB long ago if I knew I had a chance at recieving gifts from random people I friended. OP, honestly, that's a lil creepy....lay off her before she calls the cops. she thai and poor, and on her fb wall she wanted iphone4, my maste gave me a barred phone for free so i gave it to her as they work over there, i was really drunk in january and 2 or 3 girls i knew i offered them perfume as gifts from duty free, the other 2 did deserve them, but the thai i sent coz i liked her, and she moaned about the phone + the perfume, so i sent her another last week, and just to confirm things i told her i was in her city, and after 3 no replies she told me come to a club see her dance, but she has a bf, lying decieving rat i think Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 Gifts are gifts. If you're asking for them back then they were not gifts, they were LOANS. if you give a gift a gift to a girl who passes off as single then says she got a bf that all ok, good business, good heart etc ok mate Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 You shouldn't have been sending her gifts. You don't even know the girl. Have you actually talked to this girl outside of FB? correct, i shouldnt sent her anything, i never done this before, i just try make her happy, stupid yes, but she shouldnt accept if with a guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 My goodness. You should not have asked for the gifts back. You should not have sent her any gifts in the first place. And you should not give anyone gifts if you think it means they owe you something. Did you ever ask her out on a date? Did you ever ask if she was single? I'm guessing you didn't, so it was just two people talking to each other, with you taking it upon yourself to send her things. That's not taking you for a ride or deceiving you. in january i was in thailand, she asked with who etc, then wen i wanted meet her she was tierd from work etc, so i gave her my hotel room number and told her come over....i told her i take her shopping next day, yes i'm a mug Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 accepting gifts from a man who thinks he's gonna get with you, and you already have a bf, insnt there bit disshonesty or something there? Yes, she is a lying cheating bitch. But that does not change the fact that a gift is a gift. If you give a gift to a lying cheating bitch then it does not entitle you to ask for it back, any more than if you give a gift to an honest sweet girl. gift; noun 1. something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 i know her over 1 year on fb Then you don't know her at all... no, just message so you're sending her gifts based purely on what you see on messages? are you kidding me? you believe everything you read or hear? This could be a young guy messing with you! correct, i shouldnt sent her anything, i never done this before, i just try make her happy, stupid yes, but she shouldnt accept if with a guy? She can do what the hell she likes if someone is dumb enough to send her gifts in the mail - she can accept them or not, as she chooses... once it leaves you and is sent as a gift, it's up to her what she does with them... If you send her a box of chocolates and she opens the box and shares them with her BF - what are you going to do about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted April 13, 2012 Share Posted April 13, 2012 met a girl on fb, at the time se had a bf so she told me comment on photos but not message her direct, i offered her a gift she refusewd. i comented on lots her photos and we had some good banter. then on her wall a few months ago it said relationship status single, so we messaged a lot etc xmas time i sent her some gifts as i only know trhis person on fb, in january i was near where she lived so i asked to meet her but shhe said she was tierd, i again sent a small gift. i got to know her really well recently, and bought her a gift, but this time i really wanted to meet her, i asked her 3 times and then she said i could come to a club she worked at, then she, by the way i have a boyfriend, her previous bf had returned for sometime,. she said he didn't care for her she always sad her mothers hates him etc and she mite be single again soon. I've asked for the gifts back as i think i been decieved, and she should told me and recieved gifts when with her bf, i don't feel good taking things back but i think i been taken for a ride? Don't ask for your gifts back (you do deserve them but it's immature). Chalk it up to the 'special tax' to see the real person inside. This one has so many redflags you won't regret it yrs later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 if someone was doing work on a property etc over period of time and you gifted them at certain times, then at the outcome the work hadn't been done and was a lie/bluff etc, oooh it's ok check the dictionary of meaning gift you keep them con artist, get real, if i want property given under false circumstances back, i'm entitled to them not some lying bitch Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 i got blagged by a lier who took gifts from me when she knew i liked her, arranged meet her on 2 occassions, and when it came to it she had tell the truth, deserve nice gifts, deserves a slap accross the face Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 if someone was doing work on a property etc over period of time and you gifted them at certain times, then at the outcome the work hadn't been done and was a lie/bluff etc, oooh it's ok check the dictionary of meaning gift you keep them con artist, get real, if i want property given under false circumstances back, i'm entitled to them not some lying bitch No. ........ Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 as it goes, i let her have the gifts, she knows she don't deserve them, all the best to the next guy she does this with Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 i got blagged What does "blagged" mean? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 if someone was doing work on a property etc over period of time and you gifted them at certain times, then at the outcome the work hadn't been done and was a lie/bluff etc, oooh it's ok check the dictionary of meaning gift you keep them con artist, get real, if i want property given under false circumstances back, i'm entitled to them not some lying bitch Nope. You are not, because it was your decision to send them and you didn't attach any condition to them. What I mean by that is, you never told her, "please take these gifts, but if you have a BF I would like them back." You sent them in expectation of a return, but you didn't specifically nominate that. So the gifts arrived without condition. You cannot now, retroactively, apply conditions to your gifts. They're gone. Suck it up. She may have been playing you - but you played into it too. That was your choice. Learn a lesson. Link to post Share on other sites
Author turbo999 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 when she messaged me in january and asked what hotel i was in, i should asked if she was bringing a bf to organise a spare bed etc if a girl is passing off as single, and agreeing to meet me etc, should i have to ask you have a bf, a genuine girl would deserve keep a gift, a lier, don't, i shouldn't have to set conditions, ie ok this gift comes back if you have bf, 3 gifts in 3 months, i been played. it no problem, i learnt, i just try be nice, but some people will take the p..... Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 if someone was doing work on a property etc over period of time and you gifted them at certain times, then at the outcome the work hadn't been done and was a lie/bluff etc, oooh it's ok check the dictionary of meaning gift you keep them con artist, get real, if i want property given under false circumstances back, i'm entitled to them not some lying bitch Okay, I'll explain. If someone was doing work on a property, then there should be a contract that says "I am doing this, this, and this, on your property" and you would say, "Okay, I will pay you for this, this, and this." And there would be no "gifting," there would only be your payment for their work. Payment for work done is not a gift, you see. You didn't have any sort of agreement with this girl, you just foolishly sent her gifts. That's your mistake. And there were never any false circumstances, because there was never an agreement in the first place. You didn't say, "I am giving you this so that you will be my girlfriend." And she never said, "By accepting this gift, I agree to be your girlfriend." Please take some responsibility for this "misunderstanding." Link to post Share on other sites
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