Author Mindfr3ak Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 Okay, cool....SO, you need to find your own path. Start doing the things I told you to do. The best revenge you can have is to lead a good life. Now, go see the world. Uhm yeah,one more thing i wanted to ask you since i dont want to have any more questions or doubts about this.You hit the nail on the head about the thing that she built a huge wall between us.The thing is now that i dont want to get hurt anymore,even if i have to go with my life without her.Since she still feels the same about me,but doesnt even want to go "near me",one day the wall will break by itself,or she will tare it down once she wants me in her life again,and im just clueless what to do in that case.Im afraid to trust her again,but on the other hand the stupid heart of mine just wont listen and still has a tiny bit of hope in the corner.I think at this point that you're really mad about me being stupid and not listening,but i need to have all the questions in my head answered before i can even start to think of something else.Right now,my mind is letting go of everything and wants a new life,but the heart is still hanging in there and hoping for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 Dude, you can over analyze this till the cows come home and it won't bring you closer to the answer than what's already there. For instance, she was with you yet going to the other dude for a shoulder to cry on. Now, if what you're saying is true about her calling you up crying. Don't you think it's weird that she's now with him and NOW you're the new shoulder to cry on!! See, you can over analyze anything... So, the one TRUE thing that ALL guys can learn about women is that we'll never know a damn thing about women and why they do the things that they do, or why they feel the way that they do. So, what if one day she brings that wall down. What if one day, she realizes that it was a mistake? There's NO WAY OF KNOWING IF THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN! So, why would you wait? Why would you put your life on hold HOPING for something that isn't guaranteed to happen. You HAVE to live your life as if she isn't coming back. But, chances are, she's not. Women are very proud creatures. When they make a decision, they feel that they made the right one. Even if things don't work out with the new guy. Some women would rather go on to someone else than to come back. Because, then they would have to admit that they were wrong. Women don't like to admit that they were wrong, maybe mistaken, But NEVER wrong. So, you live your life and life your life well. Move on and see what else is out there. Maybe, that wall will come down one day and maybe she won't see you standing on the other side of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindfr3ak Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 Dude, you can over analyze this till the cows come home and it won't bring you closer to the answer than what's already there. For instance, she was with you yet going to the other dude for a shoulder to cry on. Now, if what you're saying is true about her calling you up crying. Don't you think it's weird that she's now with him and NOW you're the new shoulder to cry on!! See, you can over analyze anything... So, the one TRUE thing that ALL guys can learn about women is that we'll never know a damn thing about women and why they do the things that they do, or why they feel the way that they do. So, what if one day she brings that wall down. What if one day, she realizes that it was a mistake? There's NO WAY OF KNOWING IF THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN! So, why would you wait? Why would you put your life on hold HOPING for something that isn't guaranteed to happen. You HAVE to live your life as if she isn't coming back. But, chances are, she's not. Women are very proud creatures. When they make a decision, they feel that they made the right one. Even if things don't work out with the new guy. Some women would rather go on to someone else than to come back. Because, then they would have to admit that they were wrong. Women don't like to admit that they were wrong, maybe mistaken, But NEVER wrong. So, you live your life and life your life well. Move on and see what else is out there. Maybe, that wall will come down one day and maybe she won't see you standing on the other side of it. I cant thank you enough for helping me out and being here till the very end Yes,i know that she may never come back,but i am kinda mad because of that "proud" thing,its just idiotic to act all proud even if you know your true feelings.Well,im just gonna go with the flow,and im gonna see how life turns out.She was my everything,but i have to learn to live on the other side too,for the sake of my sanity and good life.Step by step if i need to,i will rise again and be back on my feet,but it will never be the same as it was with her,thats something i just have to accept and live with it.If she comes back,she will and it would be great,but if she doesnt,well,i'll just have to accept it,there is no other way around it. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 I cant thank you enough for helping me out and being here till the very end Yes,i know that she may never come back,but i am kinda mad because of that "proud" thing,its just idiotic to act all proud even if you know your true feelings.Well,im just gonna go with the flow,and im gonna see how life turns out.She was my everything,but i have to learn to live on the other side too,for the sake of my sanity and good life.Step by step if i need to,i will rise again and be back on my feet,but it will never be the same as it was with her,thats something i just have to accept and live with it.If she comes back,she will and it would be great,but if she doesnt,well,i'll just have to accept it,there is no other way around it. Dude, there's an entire world outside your door with 7 billion people in it. I want you to get into a college and I want you to do well there. During breaks, travel! See the world! Because you never know who you'll meet along the way. Making a journey is just seeing a lot of land. But, making a journey and seeing an entirely different culture and meeting people who embrace these cultures makes the journey something to remember. Hell, that's where I met my wife on one of these adventures (however, we're both from the states) and we've been happy every since and my Ex is in my past and that's where she stays. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindfr3ak Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 Dude, there's an entire world outside your door with 7 billion people in it. I want you to get into a college and I want you to do well there. During breaks, travel! See the world! Because you never know who you'll meet along the way. Making a journey is just seeing a lot of land. But, making a journey and seeing an entirely different culture and meeting people who embrace these cultures makes the journey something to remember. Hell, that's where I met my wife on one of these adventures (however, we're both from the states) and we've been happy every since and my Ex is in my past and that's where she stays. And thats the same thing im gonna do.You gave me new hope for life,and you may not know that,but there will be always one person that you saved and gave a new identity.I didnt tell you this detail,but a month ago i even considered killing myself,thats how much it hurt.I remember when i walked across a bridge with my ex and we joked around telling "if you ever leave me i will jump from this bridge",well,i never knew that it could've really happened.Thats why you need to remember that you saved me from doing something stupid that wouldnt help neither me,nor anyone around me counting my ex aswell.I will always remember you and your advice,since this was the crossroad of my life and you helped me to choose the right path.Thank you once more for that Link to post Share on other sites
fificremefarben Posted April 30, 2012 Share Posted April 30, 2012 And yeah,she is positive about the thing that she doesnt want to get back with me,but in the end,she always comes to reason for an hour or two,where she tells her true feelings,one of those were that she said "i love you,and i have the same feelings for you as i once did",and on here she said that she doesnt love me the same way she did.Its just her outer "skin",but her inner self is still the same.Its very confusing and it hurts,thats for sure. I'm not condoning her actions because I've been on the receiving end of my ex emotionally cheating (possibly physically, but emotionally for sure) and it's just as inexcusable. However, don't come down on her too hard for to-ing and fro-ing about whether or not she still loves you. That is just her brain trying to process and weigh up the situation and figure out what she wants. It's a natural part of any breakup, I'd imagine. Still, she shouldn't tell you everytime she has a moment of loving you again. She should keep it to herself so as not to prolong your pain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindfr3ak Posted April 30, 2012 Author Share Posted April 30, 2012 I'm not condoning her actions because I've been on the receiving end of my ex emotionally cheating (possibly physically, but emotionally for sure) and it's just as inexcusable. However, don't come down on her too hard for to-ing and fro-ing about whether or not she still loves you. That is just her brain trying to process and weigh up the situation and figure out what she wants. It's a natural part of any breakup, I'd imagine. Still, she shouldn't tell you everytime she has a moment of loving you again. She should keep it to herself so as not to prolong your pain. Well you may be surprised,but every time she tells me that she loves me,my pain goes away,and not the pain of the BU but the pain that i feel because i cant stop thinking about her lying to me hiding the truth from me.Every time she cries i know that she is speaking from her "core",the one true source of her feelings.I know her too well to think that she's lying when she says that.Even if she did tell me that she doesnt love me,when she cries,i would believe her,as much as it hurts,but those are the feelings that she really feels,the feelings her mind didnt corrupt with logic or misunderstanding.So every time she cries and tells me something while she's in that pure emotional state,im happy,because i know that those words are the real deal,not some hidden messages or pretending,lying etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Melbufama Posted May 1, 2012 Share Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) I'm a weird dude having a women actually doesn't make me happy, always preferred the single life, I suggest u be single for a while and learn to love it and be independent minded. If you need a women to make you happy in life, then you have a problem. A relationship is about sharing happiness. Seriously though man hang with your friends and get some hobbies. Edited May 1, 2012 by Melbufama Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mindfr3ak Posted May 2, 2012 Author Share Posted May 2, 2012 I'm a weird dude having a women actually doesn't make me happy, always preferred the single life, I suggest u be single for a while and learn to love it and be independent minded. If you need a women to make you happy in life, then you have a problem. A relationship is about sharing happiness. Seriously though man hang with your friends and get some hobbies. Well im just that sort of a man,dont get me wrong,i can be happy with my life even when im single,but it just isnt the same when im alone.Dont worry i already learned to accept it and be happy even without her,i got a few hobbies and even new friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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