ks871998 Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 I meet my boyfriend when I was 18 and my parents weren’t happy about us dating at all from the start cause when I was 18 he was 31, 13 years difference and We well have been together 7 years come this May 18th and they are now even more mad at me cause I am sure they didn’t think we would even last this long and were going to get married in June. My father isn’t really the problem he likes Zach very much and has accepted him into the family. But my mother and step father are the ones that are telling me we shouldn’t get married or anything cause of the age difference I try to explain to her I don’t care about the age difference I love him and he loves me I don’t get why she can’t see how happy he makes me.. Her reasoning for me not to marry him isn’t only cause of the fact were 13 years apart it’s also cause my boyfriend has a low sperm count and means he can’t get me pregnant and she wants grandchildren and she thinks I should leave him and find someone that can give me children. Which in her remarks to him about this have made him depressed and down a lot he has told me about his worries that he thinks maybe she’s right that I shouldn’t be with him cause he can’t give me a child I try and reassure him that I am okay with that there are other ways we can have kids adoption, surrogacy, and maybe even if we look into it and talk to our doctor maybe theirs way to have our own I am not really sure about that part. I have told him over and over again I am okay with not having children as long as I have him I’m happy I just do not know what to do about my mother and step father.. I am even starting to think I am going to tell her to either get over it and accept the fact were together or if she makes me choose she’s going to lose cause I will chose him with no hesitation. Any one have any imput? Link to post Share on other sites
Lois Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 After all this time you're probably not going to convince your mother that he's the one, so do what makes you happy, live a good life, marry the man you love ... and she'll just have to get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
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