humanfly Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 So basically I changed my number and my email because my girlfriend and former fiancee has been avoiding me and lying to me about her whereabouts and goings on. I got sick of it and decided to cut her out of my life completely and not even give her an avenue to contact me. Truthfully though, I think deep down I wanted to test her. If she really loves me and cares for me like she says she does, she would go after me right? She would drive over to my house and knock on the door and say she's sorry and that she loves me and try to work it out with me. That's the sort of thing you do when you love someone and you don't want to lose them. At least that's my opinion. Well, it's been nearly 3 weeks, and nothing so far. I get the feeling that if it hasn't happened by now, it most likely never will. I probably granted her her secret wish or something. It's just so damn painful and disappointing to be discarded like this by somebody who made promises and commitments to you, somebody you've invested so much time and effort and emotion in. It's unbearably frustrating. People's feelings can be so fickle. Considering how she treated me just a few months ago compared to now, the transition is stunning and quite sudden. I'm still spinning from it. I suspect that she's been cheating on me for several months now, so I suppose that would explain it. So much for being her soulmate and best friend. It's all bull****. Link to post Share on other sites
ridinbikes247 Posted April 12, 2012 Share Posted April 12, 2012 My wife did the same thing !! There are so many problems my wife and I had. When i read your post about her coming to find you brung back a memroy for me Her "best friend" did not answer her phone all day which was only 8 hours, so she starts freaking out and drove 30 minutes across town one evening after work just to make sure she was alright. Well, I wanted to test her a few weeks after that because I could tell my wife was starting to distance her self.... I went out one friday night with the guys, did not come home until saturday evening - She did not contact me once to ask where I was or how I was or anything. I could have been dead or in jail.....lol. But, To me that proves she is worried way more about her friends than her own husband.. We've been separated 10 weeks now and feeling alot better. I miss her alot and deep down I probably would take her back.. but after the past few months and her shady behavior it is much better to be misrable and alone than to be misrable and with someone Link to post Share on other sites
Author humanfly Posted April 12, 2012 Author Share Posted April 12, 2012 I totally get what you mean. The last several months we were together was a living hell. She would lie to my face constantly, thinking I was completely oblivious, and she would make really vague excuses as to why she couldn't spend time with me. Her story would always be changing. She kept it just subtle enough that I would look foolish trying to call her out on it. She was quite clever. Haha, I remember she told me that on Friday afternoons after her class she couldn't hang out because she had family activities to attend to. One time she slipped up during casual conversation and told me about plans she had with a friend that day, and another time I actually saw her drive by my house on the way to her friends house who lives around the corner from me. I guess when you live a life of deceit, the lies start to get fumbled. Too many to keep up with. It made me quite sad that this is what we had been reduced to. Did your wife play these kinds of games? How long have you been married? Link to post Share on other sites
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