Irrational Thoughts

[blindesided]

So for the past couple of days I have been doing better - not great but better. I even met a guy & we have a date tonight - part of me is scared & part of me is excited. I dont want to lead him on if I am not fully over my ex but he seems like great company & a good distraction.

 

Anyway back to my thread title. Its so wierd I am actually jealous of a few of my friends - they have been thorugh break-ups of their own. The last few days 2 of my friends have messaged me that their ex's have been contacting them. I find myself being envious. I know its better for me not to hear from my ex - but damn I get a pang everytime I hear of someone's ex getting back in touch with them. Its like ...wow am I that forgetful? So someone - please knock some sense into me - you guys are good at putting things in perspective & telling me how it is

[robkris8079]

congrats on the date. I myself sort went on one. Well met for few drinks and talking. But lasted several hours. I don't know if I am leading her on but we did talk about ex's and I mentioned how long of a relationship it was and that the breakup was just at beginning of this year.

 

It is such an ego boost as well as getting your mind off your ex. I take it as long as you keep things fun, non romantic, and don't be flirtatious you should be good to go. Or you can just say, I'm not looking for anything serious. That works too.

 

I see couples breaking up, getting back together, talking, several even still hanging out and being friends. I don't get any texts or haven't in a bit now. It gets me down a little but you know what it's better this way. I know I'm moving on this way and not being pulled back in. Not pulled back into the relationship but the back onto that huge rollercoaster of emotions. I been on the baby coaster for awhile and I like it here much better. I want to leave the amusement park so freaking bad but I guess it's not my time yet.

[BewitchedandBothered]

So for the past couple of days I have been doing better - not great but better. I even met a guy & we have a date tonight - part of me is scared & part of me is excited. I dont want to lead him on if I am not fully over my ex but he seems like great company & a good distraction.

 

Anyway back to my thread title. Its so wierd I am actually jealous of a few of my friends - they have been thorugh break-ups of their own. The last few days 2 of my friends have messaged me that their ex's have been contacting them. I find myself being envious. I know its better for me not to hear from my ex - but damn I get a pang everytime I hear of someone's ex getting back in touch with them. Its like ...wow am I that forgetful? So someone - please knock some sense into me - you guys are good at putting things in perspective & telling me how it is

I found it repulsive that my ex had the nerve to contact me a few months after he treated me like dirt. It's insulting and disrespectful of a dumper to have the notion that after dumping, that they should have the audacity to concact the dumped. Be glad that the person who dumped you isn't insulting your intelligence by tossing you a breadcrumb or 3. It helps you to heal when they stay out of our lives.