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Damn these mixed emotions


RonChalant

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Kinda sucks that I'm back in the "coping" forum...lol I had graduated to the dating forum and was damn please with myself. My story is long...super long so I won't go into it, want to know it then read "really long, really dramatic".

 

It's been 4.5 months since my 7 year relationship ended. Doing pretty well overall, new girlfriend (yes she is a rebound lol), working, actually have the tiniest bit of a social life of my own now, best of all I am so much better at talking to women and getting them to pursue me in the slightest, feels damn good...

 

Now for the downside of up...I still think about her EVERYDAY! There has not been a single day in the past 4.5 months that I haven't thought about her. Broke NC twice...actually saw her about 3.5 weeks ago and was surprised to see that I wasn't really attracted to her. Fast forward to 3 days ago, some evil being inside posessed me into checking her FB, sure enough there is a pic of her and her new man who she left me for kissing. Wasn't really sad, but damn sure wasn't happy.

 

Now yea, there are a good amount of pics of me and my new girl on my fb but only because she friggin tags me...so really I have no issue with this, but suddenly i just think about her even more and it sucks. I tell myself constantly that I don't want her back and that I could never be friends with her, but I don't know if I really mean it or if I'm just trying to convince myself.

 

Realized that I was only with her out her have ZERO self confidence and thought that she was the "best I could do". Turns out, I can pull some pretty sexy females, but she is still a daily staple in my mind...sucks. I want to go to a hypnotist and have him conk the memory of her out of me lol.

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I knew that's why you didn't like your new girlfriend's boobies. :laugh:

 

Your ex had big ones, didn't she...

 

Oh, as for your 7 year relationship coping, it's only been 4.5 months since your 7 year relationship came to an end.

 

Seven years is a long time. After a 6 year LTR ended (I was 31), I stayed single for a good 2 years before even considering another one.

 

What you're faced with now, is contending with resolution of the residual feelings from your ex, which is going to interfere with developing new/healthy feelings towards your new girlfriend.

 

Honestly, if you're still pining over your ex, it really isn't fair to the new girl and you're probably with her because you're lonely and it helps ease the pain.

 

Figure out your sh*t. :)

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