redrose Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Hi, I'm new to this thread... I have an issue I would like some advise on. I'm seeing a man that I had contact with 8 years ago. We talked for two months then and I just don't think it was the right time. We went our separate ways, he got married I never have, although I dated someone for 13 years and never married, (that's a nother ball game). But we meet up again and now I'm so in love with him, well he ended up leaving his unhappy married of 13 years. (from his own mouth that he should have never married her it was mainly for the kids, and they have dated for 10 years married for 3) Well he's been separated a year this month, but the way things are he has to get his kids every day after work, which means he see's his ex every day, and it seems they talk on the phone way to much for me. I say this because how is she going to move on if this keeps continueing. He says that the phone conversations are very short and there about the kids. I have seen the cell bill and he's not lieing about the short conversations. It's just it gets to me that he has to see her and conversate with her like that. Most separation/divorce are so different then this, the kids are now starting to come around me, which she's given him alot of crap about it. It sometime seems he thinks of her feelings more then mine, and how I feel about him having to be over her house every day because they can't be around me, YET. This is very hard to except, I am I over reacting or what..... Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 His estranged wife (not his ex - he's only separated, not divorced) is the mother of his children. At least until they are grown, he will have to have regular contact with her. They may be ending their marriage, but they can never end their role as partents. That part of their lives must go on as if nothing ever happened between them. He must STILL be his wife's partner in the rearing of their children. Period. If he is a decent man, he will treat the mother of his children with utmost respect and will try to have a cordial - or at least civil - relationship with her. iIf you can't deal with this, you need to move on to someone who doesn't have an ex-wife and children. His separation/divorce is so unlike is so unlike others because he's refusing to play that stupid game that most divorced people play. Link to post Share on other sites
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