Second chance?... but we have too many problems!!!!!! Does this work?

[quyster]

My ex-girlfriend and me were together for a great 3 years, we broke up for 3 months. We still kept contact during this time, but a lot of arguments. During this time we both dated other people. Then we tried to work things out.

 

But neither of us can get over our past, the bad memories and experiences. We bring up our problems all the time and argue about it. Yes, we both love each other to death. But we just can't get over the fact that, we dated and slept with someone else because we were lonely and vulnerable. We kept picking on each other about what bad we did to each other and how much we have hurted each other........ Still, we both know that we love each other a lot.

 

So, we decided to have no contact for a long period of time. We both try to live a normal life without each other, still date other people. Until one day, one of us would contact the other to see if the feeling is still there. If we are meant to be then, we both would have the feeling and it would work out fine........ Knowing that we're apart, but still love each other.....and keep it strong.

 

Can somebody give us advice on what we are doing!!!! Does this work, or this is dumb! Or is there any other way?

[dlb311]

Maybe therapy with help? I think that if you both love each other as much as you say you should barry the hatchet and move on. Who cares who slept with who? So what you both made the same mistake right sleeping with someone because you were lonely. If you both did it why can't you just let it. Why be so jealous. You obviously love each other more then those other people or you wouldn't have tried to work it out. (plus you both admited it was lonely sex) I say get over it. Let it go...it will only ruin things for you. If you can't get over this then what happens in your future **** happens...people hurt others its life. Most good people don't do it on purpose. But it happens.

 

If you can't get over it then just move on.

 

Dating others is only going to cause you to be apart and lonely and have more opportunities to sleep with more people that don't matter. And you will just have more to had to your list to be jealous about.

Jealous will ruin any type of relationship. You both need to work on that.

 

MY ex and I slept with others when we were apart..But we didn't get into detail about it. WE just both made sure we were clean so we could move on. Its life people sleep with more the one person in their life times. DOn't share details, who it was, how it was, just let it be. if you need to know if she or he had sex with someone else then say yes or no don't go anywhere else with it. That is what causes the jealousy.