NewzooRevue Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 I'm about to ask my GF of 5 years to Marry me. I've been thinking about it a lot and we just got an apartment together and were settling in and i really want to ask her. i really want her to be my wife. My question is: Should I ask her parents permission?? Her parents dig me a lot and i'm pretty close with them. . . .I really don't think i need to ask, but was just curious if you all think that's too old fashioned. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NewzooRevue Posted June 17, 2004 Author Share Posted June 17, 2004 p.s. I'm 28 and she's 24 Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Originally posted by NewzooRevue Should I ask her parents permission? Yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Asking her parents, especially her dad, shows that you have guts, class, and respect. When my husband and I got married, he was 28 and I was 23. He asked my dad, who of course said yes but later my dad said that it showed him respect. I advise you to definetly do it! good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Do it, they will surely appreciate it. It is very nice and chivalrous. Link to post Share on other sites
einahpets Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 i would not call myself old fashioned. i am living together with a man who is of a different race. we love each other and both our families know we plan on getting married. but my parents love him and would be so impressed if he asked them for my hand in marriage. i don't know why but the fact that he would ask my dad to be the man to take care of me for the rest of my life would bring me to tears. i don't know how this happened! somehow i have turned into a sap. Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Just to echo the others: definitely ask. Very classy thing to do, and definitely NOT too old fashioned. Even if they already like you, this will just add to the respect that they already have for you. Go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
SingleInTheCity Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 I agree, my husband asked my father for my hand and i wouldn't have it any other way. Link to post Share on other sites
kirkyswife Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 My husband wanted to ask for my hand but my family is dysfunctional and when he met my father the first time my father was sitting down when my hubby came out on the deck. My hubby walked over to my father and extended his hand and introduced himself with a pleased to meet you sir and my father never stood to acknowledge my husband in return - he just shook his hand and that was the extent of his interaction. My husband, who grew up in the south said he was always raised that men stand in instances like that and he felt very disrespected. After about 2 more "family" events I stopped asking my husband to set aside his pride and attend with me. I think it's chivalrous and I hope my future son-in-law or son does this prior to proposing to his future wife. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Originally posted by kirkyswife I think it's chivalrous and I hope my future son-in-law or son does this prior to proposing to his future wife. Or husband. Hey, it's the 21st century. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 If you feel like asking her father is a little too old fashioned...like maybe she's well on her own...ask for his blessing. Are you still going to do it if he says no? Link to post Share on other sites
newzoorevuee Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 Thanks everyone! ! ! ! I'll ask her Parents permission. Her parents love me and like me a lot. They always tell me how they are happy that she has me in her life, cuz i love her so much and I look out for her needs and make a good home for her, give her space, support her goals, etc. all that. BUT, my only concern is that they might feel it important for her to finish school or accomplish some goals etc etc first! I have the feeling that if i asked them, they might say "sounds great, but isn't it a bit soon?" But I don't know if that's just a self-concious feeling and maybe I'm worried they'll disagree with my proposal at this stage, even though we have been together 5 years and it's not like we'd get hitched immediately, we'd have to save up. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Glad you decided to go for it - hope all goes well!!!! Even though I'm 44 and my dad is 73, I think he'd still like to be asked should that day come around. He'd be thrilled, I know, but I think whoever asks might want to have some smelling salts handy just in case! Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted August 3, 2004 Share Posted August 3, 2004 Aw! Sounds cute. I dig it! Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 Well, what you do if they didn't give you permission? Ask her anyway? If so, then it's dumb to say like, "I'll like your PERMISSION. Say, "I'd like your blessing." Link to post Share on other sites
mørkt selvmord Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 DEFINATLY ask her parents premission. (Mainly her father. He'll be the one killing you if you break her heart which you won't. You sound like a decent man.) It will seem to them that you are not taking their daughter away from them, but merely taking care of her till the day you die. If I ever get married (which I won't.. who in their right mind would wanna marry me? I'm so annoying... ) I would want my future husband to ask my parents. Well.. maybe not.. they'd probably throw a beer bottle at him and tell him to get out of the way of the tele nevermind Just ask her parents. Very old fashioned (which is great), shows respect, and like i said it won't seem so much as you are taking her away from them. Link to post Share on other sites
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