Hotels or the girl's parents house??

[JVWood]

Hey, I'm going on a vacation to UK in about 7 weeks time. I'm going alone, but meeting 2 friends, each in seperate cities during my 2 weeks of stay. For the first week I'm meeting up with a good friend of mine who lives by himself in a small bungalow and offered me to stay there for a week so that I could save my money, which I accepted. The second friend who is a girl and I do somewhat have an interest in her and she does slightly for me too, she said that if the stay in hotels are too expensive, she is sure her parents won't mind letting me stay in the guest room. The thing is, I tend to get awkward in situations like this, it's fine for me to stay at my first friend's place cause he is living by himself, but the second one, she will have family around. I feel like I shouldn't really bother the whole family just cause of me and I can be a very bad introvert sometimes when it comes to situations like this. So I was thinking, should I just stay in a cheap-ish hotel in the city and just meet her a few days in that week, which is also on my mind, if I would be bothering her too much if I asked to see her everyday, I'm sure she'll have other things she would like to do alone. Any advice on either staying with her family or on my own, and if I am staying at a hotel, should I just see her for a few days and not everyday of the week? Thanks in advance.

[january2011]

If you're a very bad introvert, I'd recommend staying in a hotel rather than with the family. In a family situation, you'll be forced to interact and it might be quite stressful if you keep having to retreat to your room to recharge.

 

I'd talk to your friend about her schedule and how much time she has free. If she wants to spend all week with you and you're amenable to that, then by all means go ahead. But you can't assume that she's free all week and that she wants to spend all week with you.

[cerridwen]

Stay at a cheap hotel thereby eliminating worry and pressure.

As nice as the offer is, staying with the family has too many potential drawbacks.

You need your space and downtime.

Nothing wrong with that.

 

Talk with your girl friend about plans.

Say something along the lines of "I don't want to assume you'll be available all week, so which days work best for you?"

This gives her the opportunity to communicate what she wants.

She just may say "All the days!"

[Trimmer]

You know, the thing about staying with someone, especially if you don't know them that well, is that feeling of being somewhat tied down. Not necessarily every minute of every day, but if you're at a hotel, then you have COMPLETE freedom to do what you want, when you want, and not have to factor in, "am I spending enough time with them", etc. This ends up being true whether you're an introvert, or whatever.

 

Once on a vacation, we shared a rental car with another couple. Seemed like a good idea beforehand, and we liked spending most of the time with them, but there were a number of times where the common rental car meant we had to compromise, when we wouldn't have had to if we had our own. Kinda the same thing taking up lodging with a family, unless you know them really well, and know that the atmosphere will be compatible with your needs.

 

Final comment: upon ONLY reading your thread title, it sounded like you had a new girlfriend you were planning to have sex with, and were wondering where to do the deed. I was going to advise that a hotel maid is less likely than the girl's father to shoot your pee-pee off if you get interrupted unexpectedly.

 

I'm glad that your actual situation is somewhat less complicated than that...

[JVWood]

Thanks for the advices! When she comes online, then I'll just let her know that I'll be staying at a hotel and that I don't want to bother them too much. Nearer the time, I would ask her about her schedule, as it is quite a few weeks away, she probably has no idea if anything important is going to arise. Thanks again for the help