Am I being used as an ego boost?

[Nextlane]

Don't allow yourself to be used like that, you deserve better!

 

Human can become such selfish creatures by nature.

 

I've had numerous women contact who have contacted me after breaking up. I'm sure most of them considered me an easy target as well to pounch on lol. I never took interest (I prefer long-term) though except this girl who has given my mind a hell of a beating.

 

I'm done with dating for a couple of months anyways.

[MissBee]

Long story short. I'm currently conversing with a girl who is currently in a relationship of 6 years. We went out for dinner after work and hanged out till late (she checked us both in for dinner and desert via facebook publicly).

 

I told her about the feelings I had for her, she said she would say 'Yes if she didn't have a boyfriend' and also likes me too (physically and emotionally). Anyways, she still seems to be contacting me via text, fb and email after the whole ordeal on a daily basis and eager to hangout again which I have post-poned.

 

My theories:

1. Is she using me as an ego boost?
   
2. Is she selfishly keeping onto me as a second option by keeping me on her tail?
   
3. Is she actually trying to destroy her current relationship with her boyfriend by publicly stating she is having dinner with me?
   

She also somewhat contacted me to comfort me after I had a recent break-up of a 4 year relationship. Should I go NC?

 

I think that we all know the truth and the fact that you feel this way definitely signals that one of those is the case.

 

Ego boosting can also encompass the other two points.

 

Some people like having a harem of people around to stroke their ego...they love having people pining after them etc. even when they are in a relationship. I know people like this...a friend of mine and I got into an argument over it as she has a line of exes who call her and talk about missing her or their old sexcapades and she currently has a boyfriend! She keeps bringing these men up saying she doesn't get why they keep calling or texting her, then when I said well you keep answering and you like the attention, she says it is not her fault that her exes still like her....then I said no, you can't control their feelings, but you like having them around calling you and desiring you and you're being a tease and disrespectful to your boyfriend. She couldn't see this. Long story short....this girl sounds like that to me. Someone who may genuinely not be interested in you but likes having you around because you like her and she likes that...it's usually a form of insecurity where even when you have a relationship, you need validation from all kinds of sources.