I have a question....

[whispering_willoww]

we met on the internet he was local then but now he has moved two states away, i plan to move too etc. I am going to visit him next weekend which is great. At first I was angry he was leaving then I cried for days afterwards. Now I feel like I am going through this period of uncertainty, I do feel positive about moving down there, but it seems like the last few days he has not had much time to talk to me or I feel like he doesn't really let me in on what is going on in his life. Right now, I am about to make one of the largest decisions I have ever made, to move to another state and completely change my direction so to speak, and I am starting to feel like i don't have much support or encouragement. I mean he is excited I am moving there but in the mean time I feel like I need to have that extra umph of excitement from him because this is a little scary to me. I don't doubt he loves me but right now I am feeling a little detached. I just want some reinforcement, I don't really feel I'm getting it and I don't know what to do. I am wondering if he thinks because I am so strong-willed and self-sufficient I am ok, but right now I am not. I did try to mention it to him and he says "we" will be fine and then he gets scared i'm getting cold feet but I am not. I just want to be ok and I know I am taking a huge gamble here, if I get down there and we don't work out for some reason what then? I don't want to have to come home but I just don't know. Any advice is gladly welcomed.

[dyermaker]

If you don't have the kind of relationship where you can explain to him what you just explained to us, straightforwardly, it's definitely not worth uprooting yourself for.

[moimeme]

See how you feel after your visit. If you're still dubious, put off the move until you feel sure. You can end up in a real mess if you move to another place for someone and the relationship tanks. Be sure you have a job and have a way to manage on your own if you must.