Jump to content

friends and phone sex?


Recommended Posts

Friends possible?

 

I was with my ex for 2.5 years. We had it so good that everyone believed we would be together forever. He moved in with me and lived with me for a year until he was called into active duty in the army and was sent to Germany. 2 months went by and it was still good. He'd call me everyday or everyother day and tell me he missed me and that went on for 2 months (february/march). Then at the first week of April, he broke up with me saying that he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and that he's changed. The week before that we talked about me going to Germany. I was extremely hurt because it was a blow. I never seen it coming.

 

Anyway, The day he broke up with me he said he wanted to be "friends" with me. But I told him that it's not possible. I've read posts here saying to have no contact with exe's and I've done that. He still however, calls me, he still IM's me and i've taken every reminder of him out of the apartment. When he calls me, it's the usual "hi, how are you?" conversation but lately the conversations have been leading to phone sex. He's usually the one who starts it and I can't seem but to hold on and listen to his familiar voice. I hate him for reminding of what I can't have. I have asked him to that if we were to be friends then there could be no phone sex. He agreed for a day but they still continue. I want to be friends with him. It's already hard enough to cope with this break up. He makes it harder to heal by still doing something so intimate with me.

 

Can I really be friends with him? Please give me advice on what to do.

Link to post
Share on other sites
Can I really be friends with him?

No, you've already answered that question.

 

You need to break it off completely, clearly he doesn't understand boundaries.

Link to post
Share on other sites
×
×
  • Create New...