RedIvy Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Okay, I'm stressing. Big time. I have this new boyfriend. We've only dated for a little over a month. So far, he's the sweetest guy and I can easily tell he's crazy about me. He treats me the way a woman should be treated. He's kind, he's affectionate, he listens, he cuddles, and he does anything for me. He's also the best sex I've ever had. Here's my problem... Off and on (more less than often) I've been feeling, smothered and overwhelmed. And I also don't feel "excited" and "giddy" like I did when we first met. It's really bothering me. For the first time, I have a nice guy...my last relationships have been with really horrible men. Maybe that's my comfort zone? Maybe I'm not used to being with a nice man... but wouldn't I feel relieved rather than alarmed? I have brought myself to tears thinking about this. Does anyone have any insight, advice or any questions for me? I could use some help! Thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 It is possible that you became addicted to the drama of being treated badly. That kind of relationship dynamic in the long-term is damaging to one's self-esteem and confidence. It may be that you are not used to being adored and cared for. As you said, you're out of your comfort zone and presumably don't know how to react. I suggest talking to him about how you're feeling and telling him that while you're enjoying his attentiveness, you feel a little overwhelmed and would he just back off slightly? Then give it a little bit of time as you get used to this new relationship dynamic. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RedIvy Posted April 16, 2012 Author Share Posted April 16, 2012 That is probably the best advice I've gotten. Thank you! I will talk to him. Thankfully he's an understanding individual. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
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