lol91 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Its been 6 months since my boyfriend of one year broke up with me by a text message, long story short. We tried again to make things work after I pleaded with him for another chance. We were best friends and did everything together, I felt comfortable with him from.the begining but I always felt insecure when he would speak to other girl friends. I have major trust issues. Since the break up, we even became 'friends with benefits' which I really regret. I never tried no contact with him, I have no.self control! Im so weak and always.find myself texting him telling him I love him and want to try again which makes him annoyed and angry. I hate myself for doing that. I feel so depressed and cry basically everyday and whenever im alone. Does anyone have any advice? Im in need of major help! Link to post Share on other sites
budley12 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Just hang in there and know you are not alone. My ex broke it off six months ago as well and i think aabout him everday. We were together three years and lived together in the dorms. I still have to see him on campus and he's with someone new. I was three months nc with him but i broke it this weekend due to drinking. We only exchanged a few texts but i got really emotional just by texting. I then apologized for texting him then wished him the best. Back to the start of nc... i would try nc and do everything in your power to stick with it Link to post Share on other sites
shawn923 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Totally agree with you both, and ima guy. In the same situation as you. Just hang in there. Ive broken nc so many times for so many excuses and in the end ive gotten nothing. Ive tried literally everything to get my ex back, even seen her date 2 other guys. And yes i see her randomly on campus... Long story short, just nc. Totalt nc. In the end its the only thing that truly works, although it is the hardest to do. Because we loved harder, nc is harder for us.... Thats just the way it is! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lol91 Posted April 16, 2012 Author Share Posted April 16, 2012 Even though we had a crazy drama filled relationship because of my insecurties, its the good amazing romantic times I miss with.him! I love him so.much and want him to see that we are good together and to keep trying. Ive told him I wont speak to him for.twoonths and I hope it will make him realise he misses me. I want him back so much it kills me Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 You have certainly put him on a pedestal. A guy who is serious with his break up will not treat his ex gf as friends with benefits. This is your life and you have every right to feel and live happily. Ditch the past of sadness and move forward to embrace new happiness 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheDovic Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Just give yourself time... you're going to feel like crap for a while regardless of what you try. All you can do is try and ease the pain when it gets too much! Write it down, talk to people, read books and one day it'll start to get easier. My relationship broke up 9 months ago and I'm still sad but doin soooo much better than I had been! It's a slow process but you'll get there. In the meantime accept when you're having a bad day and don't try to change it or think it will last forever... cos it won't!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Girl! You have to let him go! Sucks to read that but you lowered your self worth soooo much that you were willing to become "friends with benefits" just to keep him around! You're nothing more than a booty call for him! I think you're worth much more than that! What have you done to improve on yourself! Get a new hairstyle, get a new wardrobe. Go to the gym and take some yoga classes or Zumba classes, run on the treadmill. Work out those frustrations! GO to school and focus on your career goals and improve yourself financially! Travel and see the world! You meet some great people along the way. And maybe you'll meet Mr Right on your adventures. You think your Ex is Mr. Right. Trust me he's not. The right guy would never dare to look at you as a booty call. You need to let go of him. I truely believe that there IS a guy out there for you. That IS your soulmate and he's looking for you right now. However, he's never going to find you if you're sooo hung up on this douche rocket! The next couple of weeks is going to be hard for you. You're going to want to contact him. DONT DO IT!!! Post here instead. People WILL be here to walk you through this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lol91 Posted April 16, 2012 Author Share Posted April 16, 2012 Thank you everyone for your responses. Friends and family have told me the same things for the past 6 months, but its better to hear it from strangers! ive officially passed day 1 of nc, I pray I stick to it. I was nothing but good to him, but I dont think he could handle being in a relationship and he was very immature. I feel more positive about everything and its only day one. Im even getting up to go to the gym now! When we first broke up I would work out everyday and not that I needed to but I got close to my goal weight as soon.as I.syated.talking to.him and seeing him, I.started feeling sluggish and lazy. HE DOES NO GOOD IN MY LIFE, I can see it now! Link to post Share on other sites
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