My girl is moving.. Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 I've been with this girl for two years now. I really love her, and when she told me that she was moving it showed me how much I really do care about her. I havent cried in 2 1/2 years, when she told me this I just about broke down and cried. She is moving about an hour away from where I live, July is when she is moving out. What should I do? I love this girl so much.. She has changed my life so much, it revolved around her. Now she is going to be distant in my life, I dont know how to handle it.. please help me! Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 Are you still young enough that you can't drive? Or, is there some other reason why only an hour's drive means the end of things? Does she want to break up? -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
My girl is moving.. Posted June 19, 2004 Share Posted June 19, 2004 you have to be 17 to drive here and im only 16 ... and thats what i need help should we break up and just be friends or what? Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted June 20, 2004 Share Posted June 20, 2004 Yes, you should just be friends. It's really hard when you know you'd still be together if she weren't moving. You can stay in contact, too. But LDR isn't a good idea at your age. You aren't ready for marriage and you need to be able to meet other people and experience life -- parties, dates, etc., both of you. I'm sorry -- that's going to really hurt. But, if you still find after all this that you care about each other, you can always try going to a mutual or nearby colleges -- or even get back together if both of you feel the same way about the time off from one another (esp. once you can drive). Just be clear with her about how much you care and how much you wish things didn't have to change. No reason to hold back on that. Give her something sweet to seal those words -- as a symbol to her, like a necklace she can wear to think about you. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
My girl is moving.. Posted June 20, 2004 Share Posted June 20, 2004 Thanks a bunch man you dont know how much your helping me Link to post Share on other sites
My girl is moving.. Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 she seems to love it there, she looked at the house today... she will be happy where she is ganna live now .. i think its best to let her go .. :-( Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted June 21, 2004 Share Posted June 21, 2004 Well, if this helps any, letting her go now will keep your good relationship from deteriorating. Too often when people try to keep a LDR going, it turns into jealousy and arguments. Best to admit how much you care for each other, how circumstances are getting in the way, and see what the future holds. That's not going to be easy, but it allows both of you to go on with your lives honestly and completely. You're a great guy -- the way you're handling all of this shows that. Tell her you want her to be happy -- otherwise you couldn't bring yourself to let her go. I can't imagine any girl who wouldn't understand the gift that is from a guy she loves. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
Silverwolf33 Posted June 22, 2004 Share Posted June 22, 2004 well im the guy i just registered though so i got a different name it sux really bad she is very happy with the house shes at... i get to see her only a cppl of more times before she moves for good and im just ganna spill my heart out to her... Link to post Share on other sites
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