Should I try and talk to her?!

[Bucky Badger]

I had a college formal last night and I took this girl that I am very interested in, and depending on how the night went, I was going to ask her out even further since we had been getting along quite nicely. I have been talking to her for a few weeks, and we have had casual dinner a few times.

We had a great dinner together, and with the friends, the dance was kinda lame, but we made the best of it. Despite the dance being lame, we were with friends and found other stuff to do in our rooms. Everything was going great. We had been having a great time together.

 

Then, when we were sitting in our room with some friends, she gets a call and goes into another room for 30-45 minutes. A friend of hers told the group that she was talking to her new boyfriend of now 2 days. My heart sank. I was trying to think of it as a joke, and I left the room because we were all going to to go to another friends room. She remained there talking on the phone, with some friends and was going to come to the room in a few minutes. When I went to the friends' room, I asked a mutual friend of ours if he could see if this whole BF thing was for real. He spoke with her, and then he told me that she did indeed have a BF but she was very uncertain about it and where she stands with it. He also told her that I liked her, and she was completely surprised by that. She said she felt really bad, and wasn't trying to hide anything.

 

My friend told me that I was in a better position than I think. He said she is really bad at reading people and their feelings. He says she is very independent and has experienced some bad situations in her life in which she really needs a stable relationship. Guys she dates now are guys that can take of her when she is drunk, but they aren't really there for her when she is sober. My friend just told me to wait it out, and see how things go. I feel really ****ty right now, because I really like her, but she now has a BF. When she found out about this, she left the party and the hotel we were staying at, and told me over text . . .*

[nofool4u]

I had a college formal last night and I took this girl that I am very interested in, and depending on how the night went, I was going to ask her out even further since we had been getting along quite nicely. I have been talking to her for a few weeks, and we have had casual dinner a few times.

 

The above doesn't jive with what you wrote below

 

 

When I went to the friends' room, I asked a mutual friend of ours if he could see if this whole BF thing was for real. He spoke with her, and then he told me that she did indeed have a BF but she was very uncertain about it and where she stands with it. He also told her that I liked her, and she was completely surprised by that. She said she felt really bad, and wasn't trying to hide anything.

 

Sorry, if you have been pretty much dating her, and yes, thats what it is, for weeks, and she never told you she had a boyfriend, its intentional.

 

So yes, she WAS trying to hide the fact she has a boyfriend.

 

 

My friend just told me to wait it out, and see how things go. I feel really ****ty right now, because I really like her, but she now has a BF.

 

Whats to wait out. If you end up with her, then you'll just be the boyfriend she is trying to hide from another guy that is wining and dining her.

 

If I was dating a woman like this, and she neglected to tell me she had a boyfriend the whole time, I'd know it was intentional and a woman like that isn't to be trusted.

 

I'd move on to greener pastures if I were you, otherwise you'll be in the same boat later as her bf is in now.

[BETTERFLIRT]

This not for me an excuse that she felt sorry by the way you were. Whatever the reason she pretend inventing to make you believe you must be intelliget enough to understand that girl wnated something esle than aserious relationship with you extra relation i mean. Because the situation was like this presented she accept picking the phone up nonetheless she could accept relationing herself with you despite she have had another one. You must decide to keep adventuring if you wnat but also wait for the concequences. I know you love her for what I will ever tell you to give up however you will have so muchthings to do to tkae her for you.

[olivec]

I had a college formal last night and I took this girl that I am very interested in, and depending on how the night went, I was going to ask her out even further since we had been getting along quite nicely. I have been talking to her for a few weeks, and we have had casual dinner a few times.

We had a great dinner together, and with the friends, the dance was kinda lame, but we made the best of it. Despite the dance being lame, we were with friends and found other stuff to do in our rooms. Everything was going great. We had been having a great time together.

 

Then, when we were sitting in our room with some friends, she gets a call and goes into another room for 30-45 minutes. A friend of hers told the group that she was talking to her new boyfriend of now 2 days. My heart sank. I was trying to think of it as a joke, and I left the room because we were all going to to go to another friends room. She remained there talking on the phone, with some friends and was going to come to the room in a few minutes. When I went to the friends' room, I asked a mutual friend of ours if he could see if this whole BF thing was for real. He spoke with her, and then he told me that she did indeed have a BF but she was very uncertain about it and where she stands with it. He also told her that I liked her, and she was completely surprised by that. She said she felt really bad, and wasn't trying to hide anything.

 

My friend told me that I was in a better position than I think. He said she is really bad at reading people and their feelings. He says she is very independent and has experienced some bad situations in her life in which she really needs a stable relationship. Guys she dates now are guys that can take of her when she is drunk, but they aren't really there for her when she is sober. My friend just told me to wait it out, and see how things go. I feel really ****ty right now, because I really like her, but she now has a BF. When she found out about this, she left the party and the hotel we were staying at, and told me over text . . .*

 

You need to drop that now. If not you'll be her little puppy dogg and be waiting to get affection from her when she feels like it. Be a man move on and if shes talks to you about it just say cool no worries thought you were single. Don't even show her your the slightest concerned about her.

[Chi townD]

I wouldn't touch it with a 10 foot pole. If she has a BF then leave it alone. You shouldn't be there in the first place. Until she works out her feeling or problems, I would keep her at an arms length. Or you'll be setting yourself up for a lot of heartache. Think I'm wrong?

 

She went to a formal with you and ditched you for 45 minutes to talk to him. If I'm at a black tie affair, I would want my girl with me for the entire evening. Not hiding out in the bathroom talking to some other guy.