xztjohn Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 I feel like texting my ex, saying "how are you?" I know I shouldn't so anyone have personal stories where they broke no contact and whether it was a good or bad thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 I feel like texting my ex, saying "how are you?" I know I shouldn't so anyone have personal stories where they broke no contact and whether it was a good or bad thing? It will bring you pain. Read your old threads and re-read them just in case someone isn't here to remind you right away. LoveShack.org Community Forums - Search Results 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 I feel like texting my ex, saying "how are you?" I know I shouldn't so anyone have personal stories where they broke no contact and whether it was a good or bad thing? This board is litered with these stories! Here is one for you: A week after my breakup I caved and sent the "miss you hope you are ok" text. Huge Huge Huge Huge mistake. Ended up talking the next day and not only did not resolve anything it set us both back to square one. Just Don't Do It Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Cause they always go like this. You: hey how are you her: im ok I guess how are you You: Same Her: I miss you you: I miss you too, I love you why can't we be together I'll change! I swear! whatever I did wrong I will fix it bla bla bla Her: sorry I just don't feel the same way or I am with someone new you: (some more begging or anger) Her: I just can't do this stop bothering me then you are back on here saying how you broke nc and you are back to square 1 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LasVegasGuy Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Yes, it seems like lets contact "exs" season, majority of threads have been about it lately, seems like NC has recently wore off of peoples minds. Anyways, I just contacted by ex and nothing good came of it. Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 I feel like texting my ex, saying "how are you?" I know I shouldn't so anyone have personal stories where they broke no contact and whether it was a good or bad thing? You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex: "Who's this?" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex (4 hours later): "Great; just got back from an awesomely romantic weekend!!" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex:"Fine..Why are you texting me???" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LasVegasGuy Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex: "Who's this?" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex (4 hours later): "Great; just got back from an awesomely romantic weekend!!" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex:"Fine..Why are you texting me???" Neither one of these sound like great outcomes, but more than likely possible. Link to post Share on other sites
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex: "Who's this?" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex (4 hours later): "Great; just got back from an awesomely romantic weekend!!" or You: "Hi, how are you?" Your Ex:"Fine..Why are you texting me???" This should be added to the NC guide. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Or You: Hi, How are you? Her: GREAT!!! Guess what! I'm getting married to the guy I was cheat on you with. And we're gonna have a baby!!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Or You: Hi, How are you? Her: GREAT!!! Guess what! I'm getting married to the guy I was cheat on you with. And we're gonna have a baby!!! LOL!!!!!! Sounds about right!!! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 How about this one? Or this one? Or there's always this one..... There are loads more where those came from..... Let me know if these will do, or whether you want more.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Geez...I must have totally blocked this one out...I met and dated a fellow after my first relationship ended. There was rebound after him and then this fellow that I will talk about. He was so very immature, very demanding and tried to be controlling.Without going into too much detail, it didn't work out; we were a long distance relationship and it was a disaster waiting to happen. One night I called him all teary eyed; I was missing him and wanting to talk; we had been in NC for awhile and I was thinking of the 'good times', LOL. The convo went sort of like this: Me: "Tony"? Tony: (laughing with other guys in the background) yeah? Who is this? Me: It's me, tony; it has not been THAT long!! The reason I am calling is that I have been missing you and that I still have strong feelings for you; I feel like I am still in love with you. (silence)...Tony? are you there? Some other guy Tony put on the phone to be cruel: Hey, what do you mean you love me? We've never met!!! (all the guys are laughing by this time...Tony grabs the phone and says...." Tony: "Don't call me again, you big, fat, ugly whore!!!!!"--and then slams the phone down. I did nothing to warrant that behavior. If he wanted to talk to me, he would have called. But he didn't. And I was thinking of him and missing him and walked right into a cruel situation. It was very wrong of him to behave that way, but it was clearly immaturity on all their parts. After that, he would prank call my work and threaten me; hearing me cry or be upset on the phone was fodder for him and his peers. I was about 18 at the time. After that, he disappeared and I never heard from him again or heard a thing about him. After that situation, I NEVER BREAK NC, LOL;) That's not to say that everyone would do that, obviously, but my thing is, if they aren't calling you, they are moving on and so should you. You are thinking of missing the ex, good times you had and decide to break NC...Meanwhile they are not thinking of you, are out on a date or doing heaven knows what--which does not involve you. Breaking NC is for you, not them...and you get nothing out of it...but they do...They get an ego boost or annoyed at best. Keep on keeping on;) Link to post Share on other sites
Reddice Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Holy **** Bewitched! What the hell is wrong with these people??? Link to post Share on other sites
budley12 Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 i agree with staying NC. I broke it this past weekend and it was a major set back. my ex wasnt even mean or anything but i became so emotional just seeing him texting me. I then apologized for texting and wished him the best. What image does this give me??? -being desperate and lingering around for when his new relationship doesnt work. I do agree that eventually contact can happen though. But for an appropriate time for contact it would mean for us to have moved on. We shouldnt have to post on LS asking if we should text our ex's if we have truly moved on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Holy **** Bewitched! What the hell is wrong with these people??? Going back and thinking of those days, his family was dysfunctional. He had this "Big Brother" his Mom signed him up for as a male mentor. The guy was in his 60s and was a real perv. His Mom was divorced and he had 2 sisters. The eldest was a bully, and the younger one was very passive. He was just passing through looking to lose his virginity....I had no clue he was a virgin until we were intimate. No wonder I blocked it out, LOL!!!!! He wasn't raised right. If his 'mentor' wasn't so concerned with finding a way go get Tony deflowered, rather than teaching him how to be a gentleman, maybe he would have been more of a....gentleman. And; all he had to say was "It's over; I don't think we should talk anymore"---it would have hurt my teenagery self, but I would have gotten over it faster. Link to post Share on other sites
silkfox Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 On the texting front: I always think there are only two awful scenarios. You're either going to get the pity response (they REALLY don't want to talk to you, but feel like they should humour your desire to communicate because they're harbouring some latent guilt) OR you get no response at all, because you're no longer a priority. Save yourself the heart break of putting your self-worth into someone else's hands. If you feel like you absolutely want to talk to them, do it when you're sure you're in a place that you won't crumble if things don't work out right. Link to post Share on other sites
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 i agree with staying NC. I broke it this past weekend and it was a major set back. my ex wasnt even mean or anything but i became so emotional just seeing him texting me. I then apologized for texting and wished him the best. What image does this give me??? -being desperate and lingering around for when his new relationship doesnt work. I do agree that eventually contact can happen though. But for an appropriate time for contact it would mean for us to have moved on. We shouldnt have to post on LS asking if we should text our ex's if we have truly moved on. If we have truly moved on, contacting them wouldn't enter our mind. My ex tried contacting me in August; I ignored and that was that. I don't think he will ever try again.I am pretty sure i am dead to him. He sees me as a threat; afraid people will believe he has issues. This is why he has me blocked---I used to call him out on his conduct on Facebook. He would get vicious if a male friend posted on my wall. A childhood friend who is happily married with kids---me and my friend known each other since we were babies. He would get upset and say "he's in love with you!! I know it!!!!" It was unbearable. It got to where he told me who to block and foolishly I did. But...he wouldn't block one person for me...this lady he was all over her wall, lavishing her with compliments when he stopped saying sweet things on my wall. He was over the top flirty...Instead of saying "nice picture!!", he would say "sigh.....I bow to your beauty:) I just HAD to revisit your photo once again:):)"==try seeing the person you love all over other people's pics when you are being ignored.....And this was right after our first weekend together. I would see him acting in such a way on his FB that I did not exist. If I posted on his wall, he would delete it. If someone said they would love to meet me; 'bring her by to the restaurant; we would love to meet her!"==delete. Very secretive. So of course I brought it up. He first restricted me so I could see his wall. then he made it so I could not comment or 'like'. Then he blocked me all together. It's sad, really. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 16, 2012 Share Posted April 16, 2012 Send me his co-ordinates.... I'll show him..... no, don't.... I'm kidding!! (Tempting though.....) Link to post Share on other sites
zanzi Posted April 17, 2012 Share Posted April 17, 2012 I got him back, for a while. I had to be really careful how I did it. But then things were exactly the same, in the end I cried my head off one night, we had nasty argument where he said some pretty horrible things to me, and now we are just avoiding each other. Plus I have not moved on properly from him but now he sees even more reason why we shouldn't be toegther ie, the crying and argument. It arose out of the cheating thing. That was what we always argued about, him not wanting me the same way. His coldness made me angry at him. Now I'm seeing other people and trying to use logic about it. It was never a happy relationship for me. Nor was it functional as I like to be The woman in the relationship, I dont want the threat of some girl he says he loves overseas so I cant be his gf looming over me all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
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