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samsungxoxo

I found two articles on this site (that contains more male posters and they seem to be excusing their own behaviors but will trashed us if we did the same thing) but both of them had different reactions. While most of the male poster's got replies of ''Don't tell'', ''Bros before hoes'' and ''You're a bad friend if you do'', a female poster writing the same got told ''You must tell him''.

 

Watch the difference: the first one is the male poster and the second one is the female poster

 

My friends cheats on his gf all the time - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

How do I get my sister to stop cheating? - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

As for me no I would not rat out my best friend nor sibling but will sure not support their decision nor be present on the wedding (if they were getting married). I just can't believe the hypocritical male responses.

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Needless to say I was dissapointed at that site. Why should a man's friends come before his gf or wife? I would feel unwanted if a man told me that and probably dump him.

 

Why are most of the male posters on that site hypocritical? A man cheating (just because it's his brother or friends) deserves to still have the poor woman and even one said ''How do you know she doesn't deserve it'' while a woman cheating (even if it's a family member) deserves to be rat on immediately.

 

Both cheaters are trash IMO. If I were posting I would say the same advice to both.

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I would rat out my friend because i find that unacceptable, doesn't matter if the BS is female or male. It would be after trying to make it stop.

 

I would not rat out my sister/brother because blood is thicker than water (you are stuck with your family for life), but i would try to stop it somehow.

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If this were a female dominated board most of the responses would have been the other way. I can link you to some boards where women almost seem to take glee in women betraying men but I will not even look at that crap anymore because I know I will just take it out on the women here.

 

The point is that in this polarized world people tend to side with their own.

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I would not rat out my sister/brother because blood is thicker than water (you are stuck with your family for life), but i would try to stop it somehow.
That's what I believe as well too. While I've already broken up with my ex bf for a long while now, my parents and younger brother are unreplaceable, one of the kind.

I was taught at home that whatever happens at home or your brother does, you don't say a word about it (same for him).

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I wouldn't say anything. I choose not to cheat on my girlfriend but that's my choice, I leave others to their own business. The furthest I've gone is hinting one girl that her boyfriend was spreading some nasty rumors behind her back, as we both traveled in the same groups and I considered her an equal friend.

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If this were a female dominated board most of the responses would have been the other way. I can link you to some boards where women almost seem to take glee in women betraying men but I will not even look at that crap anymore because I know I will just take it out on the women here.

 

The point is that in this polarized world people tend to side with their own.

 

There you go again... :rolleyes:

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I would approach my friend in confidence and say, "I don't approve of what you're doing and it's painful to watch you betray your boyfriend/girlfriend. But, I will respect that it's your decision and I won't get involved." If the jilted significant other than finds out and comes to me to rage about why I didn't tell him/her, I'd explain that it wasn't my place to get involved. Sucks, but oftentimes if you're the whistleblower, this is what happens:

 

1. Friend finds out. Is furious with you.

2. Cheated partner initially is happy that you reported on what happened. Then, switches tactics and supports cheating partner.

3. Be left out on the cold despite being honest.

 

To be honest, I'd probably even have the same approach if one of my friends or siblings were being cheated on. It's difficult, but I'd rather play dumb as much as I can when it comes out rather than risk a huge family feud.

 

It would be my luck that I'd tell my brother, then have to face his wrath and my sister-in-law's wrath for years to come, possibly even getting cut out of the lives of my nieces and nephews, for telling 'lies.'

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There you go again... :rolleyes:

 

Did I not just say I don't look at those boards anymore? I don't agree with the double standards either way but let's not act like it is only men who have them. Plenty of women have a you go girl attitude towards female cheating.

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Did I not just say I don't look at those boards anymore? I don't agree with the double standards either way but let's not act like it is only men who have them. Plenty of women have a you go girl attitude towards female cheating.

 

I can give examples of this from my own life. He is right.

Another difference between the genders that i've seen is that female friends will prefer to not say the truth to one another, to preserve the friendship. Male friends tend to not beat around the bush as much.

 

God help you if your wife/gf's friends are the type to egg her with a mysanthropic agenda. :(

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I found two articles on this site (that contains more male posters and they seem to be excusing their own behaviors but will trashed us if we did the same thing) but both of them had different reactions. While most of the male poster's got replies of ''Don't tell'', ''Bros before hoes'' and ''You're a bad friend if you do'', a female poster writing the same got told ''You must tell him''.

 

Watch the difference: the first one is the male poster and the second one is the female poster

 

My friends cheats on his gf all the time - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

How do I get my sister to stop cheating? - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

As for me no I would not rat out my best friend nor sibling but will sure not support their decision nor be present on the wedding (if they were getting married). I just can't believe the hypocritical male responses.

 

What hypocritical "male" responses? Most of the male responses I saw were telling the guy that the girl doesn't deserve it, his friend is an ahole, etc.

 

As far as not "ratting out" your sibling or friend, if you didn't show up to the wedding, that would pretty much be a rat out if you ask me. The groom would know something is up if her own sister didn't come to the wedding. Then said groom would have to ask you why you didn't come, then you will have to lie to him.

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That's what I believe as well too. While I've already broken up with my ex bf for a long while now, my parents and younger brother are unreplaceable, one of the kind.

I was taught at home that whatever happens at home or your brother does, you don't say a word about it (same for him).

 

Well gee, then it looks as if you have the same view as those "hypocritical males" at the other site then.

 

Which makes your rant against them, uh, hypocritical.:o

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What hypocritical "male" responses? Most of the male responses I saw were telling the guy that the girl doesn't deserve it, his friend is an ahole, etc.
Those were the few responses on the first page but if you read the rest, most of them agree on the friend continuing to cheat.

As far as not "ratting out" your sibling or friend, if you didn't show up to the wedding, that would pretty much be a rat out if you ask me. The groom would know something is up if her own sister didn't come to the wedding. Then said groom would have to ask you why you didn't come, then you will have to lie to him.
I can always say I got sick.
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Well gee, then it looks as if you have the same view as those "hypocritical males" at the other site then.

 

Which makes your rant against them, uh, hypocritical.:o

Not really because my advice to both posters would have been along the line: stay out of it as it's really up to him/her to confess but just let them know you don't support it.

 

Don't see what's so hypocritical about your own blood coming first. Afterall, a friend or bf/gf can come and go but your family doesn't.

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Well gee, then it looks as if you have the same view as those "hypocritical males" at the other site then.

 

Which makes your rant against them, uh, hypocritical.:o

 

Are you seriously comparing friends of a few yrs with your siblings ?

Do you seriously think those 2 are the same thing ?

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Not really because my advice to both posters would have been along the line: stay out of it as it's really up to him/her to confess but just let them know you don't support it.

 

Don't see what's so hypocritical about your own blood coming first. Afterall, a friend or bf/gf can come and go but your family doesn't.

 

Well isn't that pretty much the same thing the "males" are telling them? Not to tell?

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Are you seriously comparing friends of a few yrs with your siblings ?

 

No I'm not.

 

 

Do you seriously think those 2 are the same thing ?

 

No I don't.

 

Thank you

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You need to work on your troll skills.

 

You asked a stupid question, you got a straight up answer. Sorry if you didn't like it.

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I found two articles on this site (that contains more male posters and they seem to be excusing their own behaviors but will trashed us if we did the same thing) but both of them had different reactions. While most of the male poster's got replies of ''Don't tell'', ''Bros before hoes'' and ''You're a bad friend if you do'', a female poster writing the same got told ''You must tell him''.

 

Watch the difference: the first one is the male poster and the second one is the female poster

 

My friends cheats on his gf all the time - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

How do I get my sister to stop cheating? - Bodybuilding.com Forums

 

As for me no I would not rat out my best friend nor sibling but will sure not support their decision nor be present on the wedding (if they were getting married). I just can't believe the hypocritical male responses.

 

Only bros without hoes say "Bros before Hoes", LOL!!! If someone confided in me about having been unfaithful, I would keep their secret as it's not my secret to tell. It's also not my place to judge them.

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