mutual love with a married woman

[Zahara]

i have been present when she suggested that her husband be more like me. This is f***** up. I realize that I am being a delusional in the idea that she is right for me and that she has been manipulating me a lot. I believe I am going to speak to hear about being fair to her husband and looking in the mirror. I am doing my best to do so.

 

O ya, I express numerous times that i felt guilty, but she said that I shouldn't feel this way. Lol, of course I do.

 

She's probably saying it in a joking manner. I've joked around with my ex-husband about him being more sweet, fun, romantic, etc. in comparison to his friends when we used to all hang out. In any case she loves this man, even when he is not like you. She plays you both so easily.

 

You expressed guilt and she said you shouldn't feel that way? And you see trust in her eyes when she clearly has no conscience, empathy or compassion for you or her husband. I hope you realize how wrong this is on so many levels.

Edited April 18, 2012 by Zahara

[hearty]

well, i just ended it over a 4 hour phone conversation. She admitted to leading me on, and I admitted to being selfish. I asked if i could tell her husband, but she insisted that he won't hear what i have to say until she talks to him about it. So, at some point in the future, i plan on calling him to apologize and justify any negative feelings he may have toward me. It feels like I have taken responsibility for my actions and feelings, and that there is closer. All i can do know is move forward.

 

I appreciated all of the constructive criticism. Thank you.

[nofool4u]

so, nofool4u, I agree that I am not being a friend to him right now, but it sounds like you are saying that i have never been a friend to the husband? He asked me to be the best man because I always gave him good input about his relationship problems and i was always there for him when he needed me.

 

Uh, he asked you to be his best man because he doesn't know you are a backstabber. Oh yes, friends always make plays for their other friends wives.

 

 

I am quickly realizing that you are the bully of these boards. congrats. btw, what is your story?

 

*yawn*, oh no, not with the bully comments from someone who cares only for himself and not for those whose lives he would destroy, even though this guy's wife is already cheating on him.

 

My story? Divorced a wife that seems just like the huss you want to hook up with, and now she is in hell with the OM, whom she married. Sucks to be her.

 

I'm simply someone who is tired of people like you who only care about getting yours.

Its amazing that you make a play for this guy's wife and think you are somehow still a friend or ever were based on the fact he asked you in his wedding. Ya think he would have asked you in his wedding if you told him you want to take his fiance to bed?

[nofool4u]

well, i just ended it over a 4 hour phone conversation. She admitted to leading me on, and I admitted to being selfish.

 

Ok good, and you do realize, unless the husband decides he can handle his wife having contact with you in the future, which he won't, that he will want you to go away for good. Unless he is a fool, no man will want to be friends with a man who tried seducing his wife.

And if he decides to stay with his wife, he isn't going to want you to to ever have any contact again. Again, unless he is a fool.

 

 

I asked if i could tell her husband, but she insisted that he won't hear what i have to say until she talks to him about it.

 

She isn't going to talk to him about it. But on the off chance she does, expect to be de-friended.

[geegirl]

well, i just ended it over a 4 hour phone conversation. She admitted to leading me on, and I admitted to being selfish. I asked if i could tell her husband, but she insisted that he won't hear what i have to say until she talks to him about it. So, at some point in the future, i plan on calling him to apologize and justify any negative feelings he may have toward me. It feels like I have taken responsibility for my actions and feelings, and that there is closer. All i can do know is move forward.

 

I appreciated all of the constructive criticism. Thank you.

 

It would be safe to say that she will not be telling her husband about her unfaithful behavior. One must have a conscience first, sadly she does not have it in her. She said that you make you go away.

 

If she does confess, then sadly you would have lost a friendship.

 

Great friendships are hard to find. Skanks are a dime a dozen.

[Dark Phoenix]

It would be safe to say that she will not be telling her husband about her unfaithful behavior. One must have a conscience first, sadly she does not have it in her. She said that you make you go away.

 

If she does confess, then sadly you would have lost a friendship.

 

Great friendships are hard to find. Skanks are a dime a dozen.

 

Neither one of them have consciences. The only reason for him to tell the husband is to ruin the relationship and get her in the end.

 

He's not as honest as he leads others to believe. His character is as flawed as hers.

[geegirl]

Neither one of them have consciences. The only reason for him to tell the husband is to ruin the relationship and get her in the end.

 

He's not as honest as he leads others to believe. His character is as flawed as hers.

 

Yes, I do believe that he will tell the husband because 1) sour grapes 2) hoping the downfall will be his windfall 3) she gets some type of payback for hurting him.

 

I feel sorry the the husband. Lousy friend. Slimey wife.

[Joaquin]

Yes, I do believe that he will tell the husband because 1) sour grapes 2) hoping the downfall will be his windfall 3) she gets some type of payback for hurting him.

 

I feel sorry the the husband. Lousy friend. Slimey wife.

 

Agree. This guy is poison.

[leoc1973]

I think he's gone but I do have to say... If he is being honest I am thinking he has been in love with her long before he met her husband and once again if he is being honest... He is being very mature about a situation where he is in love with a girl that he cannot have.

 

I don't know if he was looking for a bunch of guys on here to say,"go ahead nail her!" But yeah wrong forum for someone looking to be the other man.

 

At 25 there are sooo many other single people out there and when I was 25 I had the world by the balls and had the time of my life. Now at 38 its so much harder to find a quality single girl but at 25 I would have never been pining over one woman(especially that I have never been with)

 

If you are still here OP then all this was going to do is break your heart man. This girl is obviously someone you care about a great deal so you are right for us to start calling her skank/slut/whore it is only going to bring about a defense mechanism.

 

The thing is, have you seen them together? Does she act at all like she is looking to hook up with another guy when she looks into his eyes? He probably thinks she is in love with him. So, would you feel if you and she ended up together and your sitting there with her and she smiles at you and makes you feel like you are special but in the back of your mind you know what she is very very capable of. How many times are you going to call her while she is away on a business trip? What if she didn't answer?