tstone Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 my husband talked to a coworker for six month and never told her he was married but would come home and talk about her to me. he said he did nothing wrong . she nver know about me. once he even said he was trying to find a friend for me. i think my husband is a cheater. what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
aquarian Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 I got myself into a bad situation too. I was married for six years and during that time separated 3 times. I was very insecure, lonely and confused. Perfect vulnerable situation to become very attracted to and connected with a coworker who is married as well. Funny how we both had similar situations---unattentive partners, partners that don't understand. This OM has children. I do not. I began my affair two years ago, and I wouldn't wish the emotional rollercoaster on my worst enemy. It hurts very badly. I knew I was ready to get divorced. I gravitated to an OM perhaps to give me the extra courage to finally go through with my divorce (my exhusband was unfaithful in our marriage with a whole lot of baggage to accompany the unfaithfulness). The ending of my story goes like this.....I got a divorce, and the OM did not. While he told me he was heading towards divorce regardless of whether we'd be together or not, I believed him with all of me. Now I'm single and he's not talking to me. I'm leaving him alone, too. But it hurts very badly. We have not been intimate in months, but the emotional affair continues for me. I guess he is working on reconciling with his wife with whom he never stopped loving. I definitely feel naive and stupid that all of this happened. It will take a while for me to forgive myself. Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Find a "friend" for you too? Was he suggesting you start seeing someone else? I'm not quite clear on which way he meant friend. If he meant someone to hang out with I would still be concerned...like you can't find a friend on your own. But if he meant a "friend" in the sense of you dating someone else I would boot his butt right out the door! He sounds really suspicious because why wouldn't he tell her about you unless he was hoping to start up something romantic with her? I would make it known he was married by finding out who she is and asking her about their relationship without sounding overly agressive! It could be that she is not interested in him but he is in her but none the less you deserve better! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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